Wake up to the story you're living - Adler’s “Life Fiction” Concept | Day 3

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Day 3

For 30 days:
1. No scrolling. Minimise tv and social media and read instead.
2. Up early every day. Do your physical and written work as described.
3. Write values/goals/emo lit exercise (10 mins minimum)
For Yoga, Im focussed on hamstring, hip and knee flexibility. If you want to see what Im up to I dont mind sharing. Otherwise choose from the plethora of tutorials on YouTube.
5. Commit to any structured nutrition and exercise protocol of your choice. Whichever one you like that pushes your comfort zone. Stick to it.
6. Share your work, progress and personal accountability goals you have (add your own goals here, share if you like).
7. Awareness: thought, words and deeds remain congruent to your values and intentions.

Good luck folks!

Richard Grannon

[richardgrannonphilosophy]

What story have you been living? How would you like to change it?

[behind-blue-eyes]

The story I've been living is a story of trauma and being a protector of others, especially the protector of my little sisters.
I want to change it by becoming the protector of myself. Being strong, a fighter for my own life.

[floscramble]

In identifying my core values I can see I've not been true to myself at all. I've been living someone else's story about me - that I'm a good little girl who does what she's told and puts everyone else first. This has left me open to abuse and has caused so much confusion and sadness. Being kind, compassionate and forgiving are definitely part of who I am but I'm unsure now if they are as core to me as I've always thought. Basically, fawning has stopped me being the creative person I am. First step is awareness, right?! Thanks Richard, this is super awesome work :-)

[leahboynton]

I’ve been living the story of being afraid to step out of the shadows and claim light of my own. My family motto was don’t pat yourself on your own back too hard. I’d like to be pat myself on the back by owning what I’m proud of.

[jessieessex]

Trying to prove that I am not what other people’s opinions are for as long as I remember.
I want to be me and like it.

[leigh]

Living a story that every eye on me was critical. Judgemental. Resulting in self-doubt, overanalyzing and a negative inner dialogue. Making steps to take responsibility in my life, be proud of my actions and drop the thought that there are any eyes on me, let alone negative ones.

[Divadellecurve]

I've been what others (especially family) wanted me to be most of my life. Unresolved, weak, dependent, unsatisfied. I've started changing it in the last few years and want to keep doing it better, and better. I need to stop fearing to shadow other people with my own development and think about myself and what I really want to become

[TheCebulon]

Today is my second day. Meditating, breathwork, rolling stone ChiGong balls and ChiGong.
It was a sensational experience!
Thanks, Richard. This is coming at the right time of my journey.
Greetings from Munich, Tom.

[rutholdfield]

I have woken up sad since before I can even remember...this helps me, rewrite my story...whatever it is, set intent, be grateful and be authentic from now!

[jedichild]

It feels as though life gave me an existential crisis, so that I could face the challenge and rewards of having all my illusions broken, to just raw consciousness, in fear, and then go on an inner and outer quest for what is home (sacred) for me, who I am, who I was meant to be, what my gifts are, what I really want, the person I innately was born to be, and so the trauma was the only catalyst which was strong enough to shatter me, so I could only build back what was internally authentic and in alignment with... basically who I already knew I was at age 5. Like a remembrance of soul’s purpose, pre-trauma, reason for being here.

That’s how it feels. And it feels cosmic.

[memoi]

I lived a story of being afraid to take charge. Was relying on others. Sometimes too heavily. Breaking from those self imposed limitations felt scary and freeing. Rewriting my story. Living by faith, courage and perseverance.

[medusalove]

I have 2 conflicting stories, a positive one in which I am a helper, a healer, a poet and a mystic - accepting my own flaws and the flaws of others; and a negative one that I am a victim and a failure, gullible and naive, lacking in courage and doomed to fail. I would like to have self compassion, courage and self belief, and perseverence to make a difference in the world

[songofthephoenix]

I used to live the story of the jellyfish, soft and open and adrift on currents. The only choices I had were about which currents I rode, and even that was largely decided for me by others. I've spent the last three years growing the spine and skin I was stripped of by the abuse I've suffered. I've developed an ego, and done emotional literacy work to make sense of my feelings and cognitions. This has let me become aware of the current, and given me the awareness finally that I am separate from it and from the others adrift in it. Now my story is about growing flippers and fins, so I can swim anywhere I want, at whatever pace I set. It's a bit scary, because I am leaving a toxic marriage and striking out on my own into very difficult financial territory. My spouse has made very poor choices, and so even after we separate, I am going to have to pay them child support, despite us splitting up the care of our child equally. I have been feeling bitter about this and telling myself a dark story about it. Perhaps the thing I am going to get out of the circumstance I put myself in is how to make a lot more money, which will ultimately serve me in the long term.

Today's values: boundaries, healthy passivity, self-respect
Today's goals: 
* Take a walk
* Spend time with my daughter
* Do no labor for the benefit of any other person, so that I am rested going into my week

[muravitskaya]

Beauty, grace, courage, growth and integrity.
I am moving in the direction of structure and accountability so that I can be free to build a life I want and creat beauty and elegance to share with the world.

[flowerfacefaxon]

What Adler states makes absolute sense, “using inferiority as a trigger for growth not as fuel for an excuse”. As I’ve followed you for a few years now you always help make order out of chaos, hard work but worth every minute! Thank you for helping set my mind straight and back on the right track, for this I’m extremely thankful!!

[justlookalittledeeper]

Just yesterday, my hubby and I were talking about how people lie or distort. We agreed we all tend to embellish when we tell our stories. I sometimes catch my distortions when I re-read journal entries and realize I've changed things up.

[kipatzu]

Adler is hugely under-appreciated in psychology (just saying as a freshly graduated art therapist), I think the stories we tell ourselves are extremely crucial. Thank you for bringing him up, Richard! Great talk, I enjoy listening to your thinking processes :)

[happyone]

Dropping our stories is definitely challenging, I agree. But wow- how freeing afterwards to drop the weight 🙏

[madeofstars]

The story I have been living is that there’s something “wrong” with me, I’m different, I don’t fit in, I’m defective and constantly feeling bad about who I am. I would like to change this story and finally be comfortable in my own skin.
It is my intention to live a life with PEACE (no inner turmoil), LOVE (for self and connected to others), JOY (in the simple life), CREATION (being creative and creating the life I want) and EXPLORATION (exploring myself & the world around me). I am moving in the direction of authenticity, serenity, congruence, and potential. 💫 #30DCgraduate

[oraabraham]

I have been living the story of negation myself, feeling lonely, not seen by others and not seen by myself, not understood, squeezed by..., shrunk like a raisin (dislike them in food, love grapes though...🙄). so, i am moving towards being a full grape. Yesterday i had an important insight i would like to share: I used to suffer in intimate relationships from what i would percieve as neglect, ignorance, lack of interest when it comes to what i feel. I had a conversation with my partner and tried to share a certain feeling with him, first i felt again the stuff i am so used to: misunderstood, not heard, not empathised with. He asked me to explain to him what i wish to get. I did put it in other words: "Just sit with me in the some armchair, you don't need to agree with me, you don't need to solve my problem, i don't need you to come up with a solution, just sit with me in the same spot for a while. He did and i felt seen, felt, understood. later, i looked again at my core values, sharing is one of them. Thanks!