What is the meaning of REAL LOVE? | The definition of real love & why real love is a CHOICE!

What is the meaning of REAL LOVE? | What real love REALLY is & why real love is a choice! (Relationship advice for struggling couples)

What is real love? How do you know if you love someone? What does real love look like? What is the meaning of real love? Are you pondering over the question: "Do I truly love my partner?" These are all huge questions that can sometimes seem difficult to answer... or maybe not! In this video I explain what real love really is, and why real love is a choice, NOT a feeling! Emotions and feelings are fickle and unreliable, something real, true love is not. Real love is a CHOICE, it is effort and it is action! I touch on my personal experiences with relationship ocd, and how it lead me finding the truth about real love.

I'm Ash Nord, your truth-bombing fairy godmother for everything love, dating and relationships. With so many idealistic, romanticised Hollywood messages about love out there, my mission is to be an honest, unfiltered source of information for individuals and couples seeking honest relationship advice and love lessons. No games, no manipulation tactics, no teachings about how to trick someone into liking you… so, if that’s what you’re looking for, I’m probably not your girl. My content is geared towards those wanting to learn more about REAL intimacy and togetherness with their partners or future partners. I have a psychological focus (I'm a psychology student) and a genuine passion for understanding how humans relate to and connect with one another. If you're into that type of thing, or would simply like to hear personal stories about my own life experiences and romantic relationships, then stick around! I got you.

DISCLAIMER: Please note everything stated in this video and all videos on my channel are purely my personal opinions and are for entertainment purposes only. I am not a qualified professional and as such my opinions should not be taken as psychological advice.

[AshleyNord]

Hello lovelies! Thanks for watching 😊 I want to hear your thoughts on this topic: Do you agree that real love is a choice? What does real love mean to you? Do you have a unique way of defining it?

Comment below! 👇🏼

[wulantsabita]

You just saved me from releasing my amazing boyfriend due to those intrusive thoughts. You have no idea how much peace this video has brought me. Sending love ❤️

[wandarozier]

I was blessed to have real love for 35 years and then he passed away. I know how lucky I am to have experienced this. Before my husband, I groveled (lost my self esteem) over a high school boyfriend who crushed my confidence and almost emotionally destroyed me. When my husband came along and loved me like you stated in this video, I understood true love. It’s the best, and I am so grateful.

[Aasenzeng]

My boyfriend thought about love just like that, an intense feeling that makes one go crazy, so he decided he didn't love me. I guess me being older than him really made me understand what love and marriage really means, I told him time and time again that love to me is just two people trying to build a life together, but I guess he never listened. I still miss him. Just feels pity cuz we could've been so good together. I finally got rid of my obsession with him when I realized what was wrong with me when I watched one of your other videos. Thank you, for making me actually feel sane. Being an adult is really a process

[mchagrl]

You dont understand how much you helped me to realize that I wasn't falling out of love. Thank you so much for making my mind straight and realizing how I truly feel and that love is a choice not a feeling. Thank you thank you THANK YOU!

[NiharikaBora-dwmn]

You won't believe I was depressed for months. I was on anti depressants. I was having panic attacks. And you just saved my life girl. I have a 4year happy relationship with my boyfriend. But seeing these new new couples being madly in love makes me feel bad maybe I've fell out of love. Thankfully I can talk openly about it to my partner. Love is choosing. Yes. I choose you my love. And I'll always choose you despite what I feel at that moment ❤️

[samia]

This is interesting because I have been diagnosed with OCD but no one ever told me I have relationship OCD even though I shown the same symptoms and it drove me nuts. Thank you for shedding light on this issue. You have helped me.

[michellehuber]

sometimes life gives you exactly what you need. and in this case, your video was exactly what I needed. thank you so much. xx

[la_piolina]

Thank you very much for this video, I absolutely loved it and made me feel safer and calmer with my relationship and my decisions ❤

[laurenfluke]

Originally I wanted to watch your video “have I fallen out of love” but was redirected to this video! And I am so glad I watched it. I actually have OCD but have never heard of this relationship form you describe, so it was interesting to hear about it. I know that when you have OCD you tend to have more than one! And boy …. What you said is what I am currently going through. When I met my partner I had all the stereotypical feelings of being in love, the butterflies in my stomach the lot. But now not really anything. I have been panicking for months. Asking myself am I in love, should I be with this person when the initial feelings have dissolved. But you have lit a light bulb in my brain. My idea of love is wrong, it’s not the feelings, it is choosing to be there for each other. And in my relationship we completely are! I can finally stop worrying ❤️ I do love him and I choose to be with him, but I don’t need to have the ‘feelings’ every second of every day ❤️

[dr.siennamiller]

Hi Ashley,
Great video! Any advice on how to distinguish between being in a good, healthy, loving, stable relationship and questioning it for the wrong reasons versus just not being with the right person. Like what should be there in terms of a connection with your partner, even if the feelings of "in love" come and go? I have been struggling with uncertainty in my 1.5 year relationship for a while. Our relationship is loving, supportive, trusting, and stable; we have a lot in common, he treats me like a queen, he thinks I am the one, and wants to give me the world. I think I really fell for how well he treats me initially, and now I'm questioning whether or not I fell for who he is as a person. I'm currently struggling with uncertainty due to a lack of a spark/deep connection and boredom while trying to make sure I'm not letting go of someone I will regret losing down the road. I'm wondering if you have any advice about how to make the right choice. Thanks!

[soaringheart]

I think that poem saved my relationship. Even if I’m sick and tired of feeling like my love life is a bowl of Luke warm slimy plain oat meal. 😂

[jamiecee]

A lot of people won't know what real love is. But, I'm learning it along with trust. You learn to face your fears too. Real love I think could be many things that people show you. Yep your actions...Real love needs to be taught growing up. That I agree with.

[annikaschwarz]

I'm glad I watched this video at age 21
I feel like it will spare me some wrong future decisions
Thanks Ash❤

[jongolden]

Holy smokes. You have helped me so freaking much with video. God Bless

[traceymaria]

gosh this helped me so much and all doubt has dissapeared. thank you . i just stumbled across you after doing a guided meditation looking for answers and boy did it show up in your video

[addy]

I feel like I was hit with a ton of bricks when you said it's not a feeling. Why has no one said that. Why wasn't I taught that. Maybe because I never believed them. And when things got bad in my longterm relationship I hated myself for wanting to stick by them because i truly cared, then they left me before I did. But after that 5 year experience it made me really question it and fear vulnerability. But I should be thankful for having that experience in my life. Vulnerability is okay, you don't have to give it to just anyone. And sometimes love doesn't last forever and that's okay.

[Mvijayvergiya]

You helped me alot, was going through this phase and on the edge of get married with doubts but now at a peace. You solved so many things. Just want to connect with you to understand more my issues in my relationship.
Thnxx alot thank you million times.

[AngelaGDiaz-lnkk]

Your videos are so goood! Why aren’t there any more views?

[swati]

For me the guy was behind me for 2 years telling me every single day how much he loved me however he didn't 'Action' upon those things. I always had a doubt for if he would take a stand for me after marriage. But it was all mouth. He never really worked upon the things that were important to me. I tried to change him as much I could but his core beliefs were still the same. We broke up and got back thrice. And lastly just few weeks back he got someone else on his life to get married. So just because he had to proof and would have to work on our relationship for me to believe him on what he says, he chose an easy path to move on. This surely wasn't real love. But I am struggling to keep him out of my head!