When Fighting Back Against a Bully Backfires

A clip for Leah Janae's "Queen of Mean" music video.

[violetmkandawire]

I would have bullied back, but, seeing someone suffer, some of us can't handle seeing that

[BUSHY]

Thats actually heartwarming but heartbreaking at the same time

[Crispy]

My classmate, in middle school, was a Kickboxer. He never told anybody untill i learned when i was at his place and the conversation managed to went there. He was very slim, pretty shy and always got bullied by the people in the classroom. They talked behind his back and even disrespected him when with other people to make themselfs look good. He was a laughing stock, he knew it too. That day i asked him "If you can fight then why don't you just stand up for yourself moron."

He just said "I don't like fighting."

So i said while snickering "Guess you aren't a kickboxer?"

And he replied silently "I don't have to be a bad person just because of that."

We laughed it off after a little time and i forgot about it eventually.

One day, his grandmother died while we were in a lesson and he got told about it by a call from his parents that were coming to pick him up, for the first time i saw him break down and cry to himself. Not as a man, a boy or the shy dude that was too unconfident to even eat food with people, but as a human being in pain.

One of the guys from the back seats started to laugh and then sweared at his dead grandmother.
And everybody in the classroom, too comfortable, laughed.

The guy had to be carried out by several teachers to the ambulance that came because his legs and entire face were broken.

Glad you did what you did, Becker. It was nice to be friends with you. Hope you're doing better in life these days.

[appearedweird]

Life makes no sense you get suspended for standing up to yourself and defending yourself in a fight instead suspend the person who started it

[johnsheehan]

Well here's the thing there are abusers, narcissists and bullies But they all have a common denominator ...
The common denominator is that they seek endless validation, attention and praise to compensate for their own self-esteem.
Confidence, and a perceived lack of acceptance.
These struggles are often a result of early childhood trauma and attachment issues.
Typically, the abuser, The narcissist and the bully did not receive enough love as a child.
The term "trauma Bond" Is also known as Stockholm syndrome.
It describes a deep bond which forms between a victim and their abuser, their narcissist or their bully.
The victim of the abuser, The victim of the narcissist and/or the victim of the bully. The victim often develops a strong sense of loyalty towards their abuser, towards their narcissist and towards their bully.
the victim will Despite and disregard the fact, the fact that the bond is causing damage regardless of it being damaging to them

[stitches]

When I was in school I was not afraid to defend myself. I was respectful and never picked on others. But if the bully was just too big I had an older brother and bigger friends. You just want him to leave you and your friends alone. Unfortunately sometimes the bully has to take a beating.

[calebbeguin]

Can confirm this. There was a kid at my school who made life a living hell for everyone, except her little group of followers. Me and some of the others just shrugged the antics off and that made them pissed. I never was one to engage in fist fights unless it was necessary, which is why I always had a menacing glare on my face. Eventually something happened to this girl, where her Boyfriend was caught cheating, and she came in the next day crying. I was so tempted to cause harm, but seeing those tears and her being mocked by “former Friends” she had, made me feel pity and kindness for her. Sure she could have paid the price, but now she owes me for comforting and assisting her. The other kids, they got some dents in their chests and arms. I still feel good about making the others pay.

[ඩාJdivas]

For those who might be asking, this is actually not a movie or a show. It’s just the music video for the song that’s playing in the back and these are just some of the clips.👏🏾

[Doodlebuggy]

I’m so happy this girl decided to help her in the end. So basically I stepped on someone’s paper and the person shoved me into a table took all the papers from my folder crumpled them up, and threw them away

[sheree]

If this really happened and the victim fought back, the narci- oops I mean bully will just use it to claim the victim title and further abuse the victim. They will make it about "how horrible" the victim is and shame them. Have experienced it in real life.

[evaabreu]

If she had gotten her bullier by hair and dragging her for all around the floor of the school and knocking her to break her denture, other thing had been. Bullier studies their victim, is the same as a crime, so you have to try them like a criminal. Do not wait the school justice because the principal and the teachers ignore everyone, so take justice on your hands.

[Halloweenenthusiast]

honestly if anyone dared to put gum in my hair they would be sent straight to the emergency room

[Grxceplayz-wh]

Are we gonna talk about how they are both gorg?? Like I canttt😭😭

[ColonelMarcellus]

Fighting back against a bully never NEVER works. It only gets the victim more pain.

[ZombieGamer.]

Why you helping them... They bully you, they deserve the consequences, no matter how harsh it is

[XOXO_loki]

Physical Pain hurts but words hurt more
-said by a wise person

[Aakya]

She is so sweet she even helped her bully and it must be heartwarming ur bully hugs u

[frankiefausch]

As you get older, you realise helping your bully is better than fighting back

[mono-ks]

The meaning is always forgive the worst po
People bc they might be getting bullied too and kindness always come back

[notavailable]

She went too far spraying vinegar into the bully's eyes.

Just fight her and call it a day. She's asking for it.