Talking w/ @AdinRoss

Dr. K’s Guide to Mental Health explores Anxiety, Depression, ADHD, and Meditation

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[andrewkoontz]

I am laughing my ass off at:
"This isn't necessarily the place to air out all your trauma"
"So the most traumatic thing that ever happened to me in my life is... "

[volgg]

for those who are criticizing Dr K for having Adin on, you have to understand that this is healthy. I'm not a fan of Adin because of his reputation, but if this conversation planted even a tiny seed in his mind that he can see and acknowledge the deep rooted issues he has, that's great and i'll be proud of him for that.

[DuffeyLovesYoutube]

Its interesting that Adin writes off his personal beliefs to its just what our generation does. Puts less personal responsibility on him for what he thinks and really gets him stuck in his rut.

[Lanixcha]

I envy Dr. K for his capacity to manage conversations like these, not just because of Adin, but also due to his level of patience, emotional awareness, and ability to understand others

[nicolaerosca]

Controversial opinion: I think Adin here did his best considering that he basically came into this completely blind and the fact that he is more or less a slave to his mind, as Dr K pointed out. Also props to Dr K for being so patient with him. I think the more conversations we have with "controversial" content creators, the healthier this community and adjacent communities will become.

[brandonb]

You could FEEL him pushing away whenever anything got genuinely real, but I appreciate that you at least tried.

[callumash]

Single man in his 20s gives dating advice to a 40 year old married psychiatrist who studied at Harvard

[alexreckard]

Dr. K running at full capacity with this one

[rtyzxc]

What Dr K tried to explain: There are not 2 types of women, there are 2 types of interactions YOU have with women. Other type of people have other types of interactions ("types of women"). The types of women available to you depends on how you act, the circumstances you meet at, the goals in mind you meet with, what information they have about you. This greatly filters out possible "types of women" (types of interactions) you come across.
Hypothetically, if you put on an act of being completely different person (assuming you can do it perfectly and nobody notices), the women you meet would become different as well and act differently with you. Different offerings land on people with different goals.

[willadolphy]

'Yes we need more conversations like this!' - my first thought when I saw this video title.

[Qualified therapist take] - Like it or not Adin Ross is a huge influence on young men/teen boys as are the Logan Paul's & Tates of the world. Having a dialogue with someone like Dr K who as far as I can tell is a highly grounded mature and self-aware individual is a step towards spiritual growth and away from the algorithms of greed & ego. You can tell Adin doesn't have these conversations much and you can feel his mask/bravado throughout particularly during the section on 'hoes and queens'.

Adin's mask is highly sophisticated - so much so I genuinely couldn't work out whether he was doing the interview from a place of genuine want for authentic conversation or to amuse his 'core audience'. Probably a bit of both.

We can actually gain insight into why so many boys are lonely and isolated from girls/women from this video. The story in Adin's head seems to be 'I have to find the 'right' girl/woman to get what I want' e.g. it's on the woman. What Dr K was pulling out of him was another question: 'who do I have to be to attract a girl/woman that I want?'.

I hope to see more of these conversations. As difficult as they might be they are essential to bridging a gap between these rigid world views and more open compassionate world views.

Sneako next please :)

[eeciphone]

2:34:57 I truly have benefitted from this interview! I’m a therapist in TX, and the way Dr. K conducted himself with exploring belief systems with someone who was often showing him rigidity and evasiveness has made me take a deeper look at how to approach people with differing perspectives. 🙏🏻

[CloudHeadCustoms]

I think the sad truth is that there IS no Adin Ross. The guy cannot maintain a self image for the life of him and is so easily manipulated by everyone around him and doesn’t question it. I’ll never forget watching the J Aubrey video where Tate said “How do I fix you when you are so broken?” And Adin just says, “I Am?”

He accepted it so easily it almost broke my heart. I’m not even a fan, it just hurt to see someone accept that so easily as truth.

I don’t think Adin can be made to help himself, he needs to want it for himself.

[liltunturi]

I noticed people chatting: "cringe" "I cant watch this" "he is delusional " "typical zoomer" "immature"
I appreciate the way Dr.K approached this unavoidable harsh judgement of the internet.
We have the ability to watch these videos to learn, understanding that there are many people just like Adin and it is useful to have these conversations.
We all have got a lot to learn. This is a great reminder of it, I am sure it will resonate with many.
What I took from this is that lot of us are stuck in our ways, we dont feel like we can control what we do with our time and energy, we dont want to get consumed and at the same time we want to get consumed, because we are hiding and escaping from hurt and struggle. During our life we also realize that people can take it the wrong way if we happen to speak up about our issues, and that means we have to hide and cope even more. I do understand where is Adin coming from. Who knows, maybe during next session he will be more ready to work through his feelings

[dustinmartin]

Just to chime in, I think conversations like this with people who have these types of world views are incredibly important and valuable. Empathy is the only way to illicit positive change

[shadpeterson]

I get the topic on women is hard to listen to and feels cyclical, but its honestly the most interesting part of this conversation. This is Adin coming as close as he has thus far in truly reckoning with his demons. It's hard, sure, but it's what progress looks like sometimes. Can't expect genuine change in any person with this many defensive mechanisms in a single conversation.

[anthonygorczyca]

"Doctor... Could you prescribe me Lean?" "what?"
💀💀

[youtubepremium]

Man when they started talking about women this conversation went downhill. He was doing so good, actually talking about his emotions and after that topic I felt like he closed off and started redirecting everything to the outside world and talking about his world-views. First Dr. K interview I struggled to watch

[pyeclam]

This was genuinely painful to watch. Adin's brain is completely destroyed by living in social media and a bad environment since he was even younger than he already is. I would definitely like to see him return, but without feeling the need to constantly entertain and read his chat.

[linkhamilton]

Lots of people saying this was painful. I actually thought it was fascinating! Would love to see a follow up in a few months

[HunterWolf]

As a fellow Florida (Miami) man, I know exactly what Adin was talking about. It's the same way people in my middle school, my high school and community college talked, putting so much worth on the external and casting black/white judgement on people based off ultimately minor traits. I've learned that it takes A LOT to learn to be able to see people as people and not the set of traits that you automatically assign to whatever group they are a part of, when you've been surrounded by that kind of rhetoric all throughout your development.