Body Language: The Key to Your Subconscious | Ann Washburn | TEDxIdahoFalls

How we hold our body both demonstrates and determines who we are and our level of success. What are you telling people about yourself? Or worse, what are you telling your self about yourself?

How we hold our body both demonstrates and determines who we are and our level of success. What are you telling people about yourself? Or worse, what are you telling your self about yourself?

[TheAnxietyGuy]

The fastest way to change your emotional state isn’t through your thinking as many people think, it’s through your posture and breathing.

[jan-fjmi]

My 18 yr old son teached me this and he never taken this class. He always says:
“If you around the rich and famous, stand up straight and feel like a rich and famous. When you surrounded by children in a park, play like a child in the park. They don’t and never will know who you really are (they don’t care)but they will perceive you as you want them to perceive you. It’s all in your body language”

[AmbiCahira]

This was super interesting to me because compliments is where I changed my life. I felt awful about myself and one day in school (I'm proud that I figured this out on my own in such early age) that I would change little things and I started with compliments. I had noticed that when someone complimented me "you look pretty today" my response was "no I dont.." and I realised that it is so rude to the other person to reject their lovely opinion that is theirs. So I chose to say thank you even when I felt like I disagreed and it was the beginning of a long journey going from pessimist to optimist, and broken spirit to confident, and I am finally figuring out how to get past my anxiety into handling an extrovert world. Another key was to find things I liked about myself as a person so that even when my self esteem was low there was at least something in my core that I could remind myself when needed. I also started to name 3 good things that happened that day at the end of every day before sleep, and started to see sleep as rebooting the system with a clean slate every day. I have corrected negative self talk until it gave up, and uncrossing my arms is now next on my list of "road to success with self." :)

[jcool]

Body language
1. 5:14 Strong body language
2. 9:23 How you receive compliments
3.11:56 Put your weight on both legs

[ashkannazary]

Definitely works, I changed my body posture and always got much better results and also stayed happy and hopeful.

[KDybdahl]

This talk provides great insight into how we should be aware of our body language and how it effects us and how we are perceived. With that being said, fixing body language wont fix all of your problems, it wont be the only thing making you friends with others, and it wont completely change your sense of self worth. What we should take from this talk is that awareness of body language and applying corrections to it will help you on your journey to becoming who you want to be. It's a piece of the puzzle, not a golden ticket.

[k]

I could feel your journey. Your work is so BASIC and yet so IMPACTFUL. The sparkle of your eyes and your smile at the end has conveyed more. Thankyou ma'am.

[johnmariano]

Thank you. Now, I understand why sitting and standing straight is very important which my mom by the way always pointed out too. This changes the notion of habits are stone hard to break. Break the old body pattern, the body gets confused, sends a discomfort message to the brain and if new and better results are achieved or expected, the body may adapt the new body pattern if practiced long enough. By consciously putting one's body in a certain state or position, the cognitive dissonance (discomfort) between what one feels and the body language sends out a message in the universe that reflects back to self and the subconscious. If one maintains this pattern interrupt on the brain while seeing the new good results out of it, the subconscious will adapt the new behavior (body language/state) and become the new pattern. I would avoid calling this "fake it till you make it" as the verb "fake it" opposes and confuses the conscious mind and may eventually shutdown the process prematurely.

[Allison_White]

👋🏽💫♥️ Awesome content! My favorite take a ways from this video:

When given a complement, instead of ‘brushing it away’ or ‘throwing it away’ ... try working on accepting it . Start the conscious change towards a stronger, more rooted & confident you by consciously changing your body language. ✅

Obviously, there are clues & “tells” to be found by watching other people’s body language. We can find out way more about a person’s beliefs, motivation, & or truth (unconscious or not) by way of posturing, gestures, eye contact, & movements. Nonetheless, perhaps the most profound & powerful treasure to be found in body language, is the ‘upgrade’ our own body language can provide, when harnessed purposefully & intentionally!

For example, watch what you physically do when someone pays you a complement. Sadly, many of us feel uncomfortable when someone throws complements our way. We can feel SO uncomfortable that our body will often make gestures that dismiss or brush off complements. Often people can be observed sweeping their hand back in the air, as if they are batting away the complement. Other people can be observed “brushing off” their pants or something on their shoulder - when given a complement that doesn’t match their internal - even subconscious belief. People will regularly say “thank you” to a complement, while physically their body tells you they disagree & push it away.

I love this speaker’s suggestion for “hacking” your own body language for self esteem, self growth, & as a way to harness deeper rooted confidence. For example, next time someone gives you a complement... try through body language to scoop up that complement with your hand & bring your hand to heart, while saying “thank you.” That’s it. And Watch how it will begin to grown you. Others may notice a difference in us right away, not because we are instantly more confident - but because we will respond more authentically the less we are resisting, dismissing, or “throwing away” pieces of conversation that conflict with internal ideas & beliefs.

Yes ... many believe that “fake it until you make it” are the truest words to live by. I agree to an extent. Perhaps, the “fake it” part is less about faking out others & more about faking out our own internal resistance we have/hold towards our own potential greatness.

One of my most favorite Marianne Williamson’s quotes says ... “It is our Light, not or Dark - we fear most!” Indeed.

So, if we can work with our body to drop it’s resistance & rejection of the positive things that we might not fully believe about ourselves just yet.... it’s like hacking & powering up our ability to more quickly BECOME who we’d like to be ! Focus on awareness & dropping that is where CHANGE can enter & begin to root. 💥 🙏

[GeorgeHendley]

Brilliant! Science and emotion combined into a winning presentation.

[gerra]

I really didn't want her to stop talking. What a wonderful speech.

[nosxman]

This is one great examples of the "Fake it till you make it". It's not really faking it at all, it's reprogramming yourself.
If anyone has doubt on "Fake it till you make it". Show them this talk.

If "Fake it till you make it" doesn't work for you, it's you who are at fault. You did not try hard enough to reprogram yourself. You know you're too comfortable with the old program to adopt a new one.

[elaineinoregon]

So powerful! Watched this before but I need to watch every 3 or 4 months to stay in practice!! Going to figure a way to remind myself.

[yaangreece]

So, the message conveyed essentially is that what we consider to be automatic actions, like our body stature, our gestures and our immediate or otherwise unconscious reactions can be trained in advance and used to our advantage.
This means that our body language and our communication reflexes are not just a mere indication of our psychological disposition, but in fact contribute in its formation in a direct and signicant way.

[ahmedouajib]

I have been reading about body language for three years, attending classes of public speaking and debats of an amazing prof in univ This one is very honest and I couldn't see something not natural in her body langauge, though I am not an expert.
Thank you for helpming me change some of my programs.

[harmyjim]

I put my right hand on my chest and said Thank You.
I did that a second time however my right hand - palm was over my collar bone and the right thumb was over my voice box, what a difference.
Thank you Ann, your awesome, your message is subconsciously heard and life changing.

[lifelovesme]

Absolutely brilliant! What a great talk! Thanks for the 3 tips.

[marshalls.g]

I like this woman, she's great at making the topic seems so simple and easy and also her voice ton is great. Thank you lady. And also she's gorgeous and pretty!

[BalancedOne]

What a lovely lady to look at/listen to. Thank you for the wonderful presentation Anne. What a wonderful person you are. I am going to learn more about body language and communication, thanks to to you. I just had a look at the 3keyelements website and it said 'over views of her Ted Talks video'. That needs a bit of an update, as it's now over Love and blessings from London, UK.

[minhyegu]

The best lecture!! I love it. I’m going to install it now. thank you!