The Personality Black Pill: Is It Over?

You've looks maxxed; you are a lean, mean dating machine...but then you realise you cannot personality max and it might be...over?

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[PanoramicPhilosopher]

Getting laid, starting a relationship, and maintaining a relationship are all very different animals.

[DrmCom]

If a girl liked me, I questioned their motivations. I usually saw myself as a stepping stone to them finding a better guy. Even if they did like me I never thought it would last because I would fail to live up to expectations in which they would just find a better guy.

Instead of seeing it as an adventure in connection, I always saw it as a game of control.

[fozlurrahman]

I realised at 16 that I was not the traditional choice for females. Funny, bold, charismatic, flirty, honest, sleazy, dishonesty. None of it worked. Now at 39 I don't even try.

[DCtheGod]

The way people perceive your personality is all based off your looks. Halo effect

[johnnymidnight]

"Taking it was easy. Holding it is a different story" - Primarch Leman Russ.

As an average guy, I have been in many relationshits that rarely lasted beyond the honeymoon phase (4-6 months) due to the fact that average guys don't get the mulligans Chads do. My "unique personality" was what these women would claim to be my winning attribute. After a while, when I'd hear this, I knew our days were numbered. I can't always be funny or interesting or worse, lucky. And if I had one lousy day, she was out the door. Conversely, Chad treats the same woman like shit - and I mean she's frequently in bruises - she sticks with him for years.

[guyfromavillage]

normie is a stalker
chad is persistent

normie has no friends
chad is a lone wolf

normie is a tryhard
chad makes silly jokes

normie doesn't know how to talk to women
chad is shy and mysterious

normie compensates with a car and jewelry
chad has expensive taste

normie is a nerd
chad is intelligent

normie is too nice
chad is kind

normies make desperate comparisons
chads see the world how it is

[latt.qcd]

"Looks" are just what get you in the door and what you need for a woman to "hire" you for the "job" of a relationship. However, once you're "hired" then the difficult part of the "job" of a relationship actually starts, and she's going to now expect you to do your "job." All the while she will be constantly monitoring and criticizing your performance until you eventually slip up and she has a reason to "fire" you. If you lied on your "relationship resume" about your "qualifications", she'll find out as soon as she expects you to do the "job" she "hired" you for, and failure to do so mean simply result in her "firing" you.

[theendofmyropemydude]

As you say, the reason a lot of inkwells focus on getting laid is because they haven't done it yet, but I think some people are too dismissive about this.

I've had sex, you've had sex, we both know it's not a big deal. But if we *hadn't* had sex, even hearing all the old dudes talk about how sex isn't that important wouldn't change a damn thing.

People need to experience things to become jaded by them, second hand experience almost never suffices.

That said, what most of these dudes are actually lacking is loving companionship, but god knows that they won't find that.

(Because it doesn't actually exist)

[Krelian]

Your personality doesn't matter if you're invisible, it's like when a tree falls in a forest and no one's around to hear it.
And honestly I think personality doesn't mean much in the long run when it comes to a healthy relationship. Know plenty of guys who have regular relationships (some long lasting and healthy) who have terrible personalities. If the relationship ends its because someone found (or thinks they can find) the bigger, better deal, it's rarely due to a "personality" issue.

[gavinm]

I have a great personality, and I always wondered why women never liked me. Turns out I was sub-five and a beta male. Still a sub-five but no longer a simp that’s being used…

[EkilRevolution]

Both personality and looks are mainly genetic. This is what bluepillers don't understand. Good job on this video, I was thinking about this for a long time.

[undergroundsubway]

As someone who is probably in better shape than 99% of the people you know who is also an introvert, I have been in sales six years I will tell you that my personality has hardly changed and I went into this with the intention of growing that part of myself and becoming more extroverted and if anything it led me to not wanting to be around people whatsoever it actually only made my introversion worse in someways but I did grow a little bit but I would definitely say it is easier to improve your body then to become more extroverted. It’s also tough being of higher intelligence because you can’t really connect with a lot of women who are more in the middle and you see a lot of things that make it hard to really even want to be part of dating

[Cameron_David_]

You see this with bodybuilders. Zero personality beyond knowledge of training and steroids but the reality is they will still have tons of options which is what the blackpill is about. There is no point in worrying about longevity if it never begins.

[silvercorvidsmarketing]

Personality is also very contingent (unless you make a titanic effort to change it) on the way society treats you. For example, how can you realistically expect a person who's been mistreated by everyone for a long time to be confident? How can you expect someone who's lived through a lot of trauma to be open and trusting? How can you expect someone who's been traumatized to a lower intellectual level to be a genius? Etc.

[scottre]

In my professional life, I am initially suspicious of good-looking people. Especially those who appear to excessively cultivate their appearance.

[robertfindley]

I am very short, brown eyed, have a nerdy/ugly face and I'm thoughtful, measured and considerate (not alpha). I'm the exact antithesis of what women are truely looking for. I spent 10 years trying to get a girlfriend, then gave up. Or as I see it, I was kicked out of the dating pool by the female populous. But now I have a PhD in engineering, my house is paid off, my car is paid off, I have lots of great friends and I will retire comfortably in my early 50s. The lemonade I've made is wonderful!

[Moshmn]

Personality is, more or less, manifested from a series of previously learned framework priors. When something goes wrong in childhood causing a child to adopt a survival based frame, that child transitions into adulthood where this frame is maladaptive in the presence of well-adjusted people. Worse yet, the result is a reinforcement of the frame because mentally sound people will distance themselves away from the maladjusted adult. If the maladjusted adult attracts someone who's also maladjusted in some way, that will also result in the reinforcement of the frame. In spite of the repetition impulse people with attachment issues and maladaptive frameworks have, they will still have a hard time getting along with someone with the same kinds of issues even if they can intellectually empathize with that other person. Think of it as relational double-think or a dual-layered projection.

The only way to start solving the problem is with insight. It's a matter of education, but unfortunately the mental health industry would rather dope you up on pills and send you home with a portfolio of pablum you can slap on the back of a car rather than get at the root of the issue.
It's why people parade around their mental illnesses as part of their identity, no doubt an effect of the foolish "unconditional positive regard"... a cognitive distortion that has now become an epistemological contagion in the field of psychology.

[Rctdcttecededtef]

For the guys still playing the game, may the odds be ever in your favor

[palaceofwisdom]

The biggest issue for those who see a relationship as mysterious and beyond their reach is that it leads to all manner of fantasy about how wonderful it must be, since they've never had the reality smack them in the face. The man who gets attached and has that moment has at least learned the truth, but those who try and fail can waste their entire life chasing a fairy tale.

[AbyssalDefect]

Showering can fix your personality, what are you talking about?

Just take like 40 showers a day