the importance of asking for help

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This thing I stopped doing to better manage my anxiety - and I'll be honest, this was the hardest one - is I stopped trying to do everything myself. While I've mastered other coping strategies, this remains my growth edge. I have trust issues, and I was that guy in group projects who'd say 'I'll put everything together' just so I could fix everyone's work.

For years, I managed doing everything solo, but here's the truth: the older and busier you get, the more impossible it becomes to handle it all alone. I still cringe saying this because it goes against how I'm built, but sometimes you have to ask for help.

Sometimes you need to delegate. Because there will be days when even a 60-hour day wouldn't be enough to do it all yourself.

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I was the “go to person” throughout my life and when things started going wrong I asked for help and was told I wasn’t doing enough for myself…I stopped asking and self-isolated myself to the point where everyone except immediate family have left. I no longer trust anyone.

MetallicRoseinFL
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When I was in Army Basic Training, I lost my squad leader position for this very reason. Very valuable lesson.

stevetaylor
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Me too. Asking for help on the spot is doable but making plans that depend on the help of others is impossible.

terievans
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I did the same thing with group projects, I would gladly agree to be the leader/coordinator because “if it has my name in it, it must be perfect” and others either don’t follow through or they don’t care about the quality of the finished project, just getting it finished is enough for them.

KaleeinVA
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Omigosh! 😲 lol 😆 I did the same thing with group projects! I have huge issues with this. I’d rather just do it myself. (If ya want a thing done right….)

funniful
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I'm guilty of putting off asking for help until I just can't stand it. I'm willing to work with others, but it seems to work better when each person goes with their strengths and is assigned a certain task within the project. If that isn't well managed then it seems to fall on me and one other person. That is why I work better alone in most cases. Everyone wants to do their own thing and those who are content with attaching their name to a project and nothing else will do it if so inclined. When I work alone I set the pace and I am responsible for what I do or don't get done. It's the same with asking for help. I know it's work and I am ultimately responsible for myself.

jennifershort
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What do you do if you have no one to ask for help?

curiouslyme
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Yeah that doesnt work for me. Everytime I ask, it's nothing but crickets...hence the trust issues. I no longer ask and only do what I can. If it doesn't get done, well there's always tomorrow.

annpolese
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At the same time, there is the saying that in the very end, no one is going to come save you but yourself

fluesque
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As the oldest sister of the oldest sister, responsibility for others well-being and best interest were instilled in me from birth. I was the rock. I did good as long as I could, but it's a hard place to be when the rest of your life (my marriage) starts crashing down around you, and you still feel obligated to meet the needs of others first. Good Show, Thanks!

kimsteed
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And getting old makes everything more difficult.
Memory: when you reach the end of a long sentence on a complex subject and can’t remember the beginning. 😑

edwardlulofs
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I never ask for help. I realized how it was normal to ask normal tasks of others in certain situations. Like "I'm setting the table, can you go get the food out of the oven and bring it here" seems like a simple common request, I would certainly help. But I realized that it's against every bone in me to ask someone to do the same for me. Although maybe it's for different reasons, such as i don't think I deserve the help??

mickmouse
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Ditto Dr. Scott! I do the same thing which makes for a lot of extra work.

pinkiehunter
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Your video is very helpful, as always! 👍👍

bertholdroettgers
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Thanks scott for everything that u put out for us ❤❤ you, dr ramani and patrick helped me from my very dark place sometime ago ❤❤ keep doing what your doing for us out here

Users_rx
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Oh my goodness that was me at University too...hated group projects 😅

VirgoKat
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Each time I am seeing myself in you 😢😢😢

mjusama
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Just stop caring about what people think and you will be much happier 🤗

jtle
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Oh Lord that's me and I didn't realise 😮thank you Dr Scott, at 65 maybe I can start to change ie. 😊

NetflixTopVideos
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What if you had hearing issues also? Or other communication problems?

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