Your invisible wounds💔

#emotionalneglect #neglect #drkimsage

[jameswayton]

Emotional neglect is not about something that happend to you, its about something that did NOT happen to you.

[jetpetty]

I've only begun to realize this as an adult. Mom is BPD from her physical/psychological abuse as a child. Now Im beginning to understand my "weirdness" to not be as engaging with the outer world is a direct result of childhood.

[mendingmandy]

This made me tear up. Been in therapy for 5 years and I'm 30. I can't shake it. I really do feel like I am no one.

[andrewjameslochrie]

I was numb for 44 years. I wouldn't accept that neglect and abuse had occurred, I made excuses for my mum. I normalised her behaviour and prevented my own growth and healing.

[andrewmass]

my father was a coverr narcissist. He neglected in everyway.

[angelinasamson]

I don’t blame my mum at all for her emotional neglect
She was having a major nervous breakdown, she has always loved us to the best of her ability . ❤

[mrstonerudude]

So true. I didnt know it was abuse until recently!

[claudiasbarra]

Thank you Dr Kim, your work is so helpful and eyeopening ♥

[M.K.B.]

Say it again….. I used to wear my abuse and neglect like a badge of honor when I was in the Military. Now… at 46… I am in a complete nervous system shut down- almost frozen from all the feelings and memories that I stuffed away

[GK-qcry]

I almost don't want to entertain the thought of this.

[As-hymn]

I feel the same a lot of the time as a child I spent a lot of time alone because even little mistakes I made left my dad in a rage and he would become verbally abusive and even on occasion physically abusive he would manipulate situations to make me feel even worse about myself and I still carry this weight of shame and inadequateness around I dont know how to act in social situations as a result and become very socially akward quickly and I worry a lot about the fact ai may have picked up these traits and believe that I have now become somewhat socipathic as a result.

[a.k.]

And it's hard to go to a therapist with i don't know what happened 🤷‍♀️.
I don't hear me thinking, i don't feel my emotions until they knock me out. Or i lose control over my impulses and embaress myself with crying or freezing not able to react. Not able to stand my ground. Not able to do the right thing because i don't matter so why trying and offer me to let some frustration off and shaming and blaming me for being such a plaque and whatever else is standing in my way. Fear to be punished.
I so often had to hear something like i don't have something to work with. Or that's too much, I'm to old when searching for a therapist. That have been very painful.

[karencoburn]

Heres a good question for you.... Reasonably.... how much of your childhood should you remember??