How to tell guests to get out of your house! They overstayed their welcome; even after short time

It doesn't matter if you have invited people over for a few minutes or a few days, you decide when it's over and these people need to leave! (You could also say, "It's been great spending time with you, but I have to clean up now," and walk them out the door!)

[winkwink]

Agreed. I believe in being hospitable but people take advantage.

[Qwertydrlz]

i play this on the tv everytime i want someone to leave my apartment. my time is MY time!!!

[deephouse]

Two years ago one of my dearest friends overstayed their welcome... hasn’t been the same since. Never wanted him to come back.

[brightbite]

I have a family member who even when I say "I have to get going by such and such a time" STILL stick around. And then they act like I'm being unreasonable.

[WiseAilbhean]

My being nice is usually my being afraid of speaking up, sticking up for myself and not wanting to upset anyone. Since I got my own place, certain people tend to stay longer than I planned. It’s not because they want to spend time with me, it’s because it’s a nice quiet drama free apartment. Their living situation is crowded and renting a room from extended family or friends. But I got a small space and can see and hear everything from any room.
I told my dad I was taking time off from work. I didn’t really make plans but I could easily do something last minute on my own. He had to come visit me to take care of some documents and since he has such a long drive back I offered “you can come take care of the documents and stay over if you want”. He arrived on Friday afternoon much much earlier than expected and I expected him to leave by Saturday. I noticed he had a big bag for 1 night but he tends to come up with a bunch of stuff and run errands. But I also noticed he got 2 pairs of shoes…. 🤨.

I had told him a week ago I had took time off but I hope he didn’t think it implied he can stay the entire time.
I may say I don’t have plans but it doesn’t mean it’s an invitation to make my lack of plans your plans.
Sometimes my plan is “being by myself and not doing anything” yes ask me what i’m doing “nothing” my plan is to do nothing. You being here is something.

I messed up 🤦🏾‍♀️
Love him… but he gotta go back. 🤗

[CMACK]

That’s very smart to have a start time & END TIME. Imma have to get one for my sister’s graduation party.

[willah]

I love when you use the sock drawer organizing example 😂🙂 i seriously want to tell people this excuse to leave..

[drapink]

OMG! I am so drained right now, i can´t even talk about this with my family because they just don´t understand, we have house guests that are going to stay for 2 weeks +, feels like hell to me. I am literally coming to youtube for comfort, I love people but I believe nobody needs that amount of socialization, at least not me.

[ShakespeareCafe]

Stragglers...I use that term a lot...You don't have to go home buy you can't stay here

[anhi]

it's harder to them to leave when they are relatives.

[lordalepore]

I'm from Iran and the culture here says you should be serving your guests as best as you can and you should make them feel as comfortable as they can and that was exactly what my parents were doing. Like their friends coming on our house and they would immediately hand over my bedroom to them so that they could stay for maybe a week or two and that would make me uncomfortable but on the other hand they believed that these are guests and we should respect them and serve them the best way we can because they are just guests ...and sometimes really some of my father's friend would take advantage and they would stay in our house for maybe even a month and my family wouldn't even say anything although they were really tired and they didn't want it. so growing up in that culture makes it's really really hard for me to tell them you know to leave but at the same time I believe it's the right thing to do. Maybe I need to practice a little...

[MsActor]

Love this topic. I remember submitting this question years ago to Marie when I couldn’t get someone to leave!

[Sweetearth]

I suppose when you give out an invitation to this type of thing, you have to say something along the lines of "Dinner Party at Bob and Joan's house on 10/1 from 4-9". or whatever hours you want. Then when 9 rolls around you just go over to them, thank them for coming, have their coats in hand, give them the, "let's get together soon" line, and make a display of how exhausted you are and want to go to bed. Pretty simple really.

[cassandra]

It’s much easier that this
Whenever a person tries to invite themselves just say
“Let us know when and what restaurant we should meet”
Or let us know in what hotel you are staying we can meet for dinner there

[msimmons]

We are often taken advantage of. They get so comfortable they text us for money when they run out of gas daily. So many stories

[gregorybrennan]

This spoke to me. I have a guest sleeping on my couch at this very moment, and its 7:41 p.m. :\

[lifeisbeautiful]

I’m one of those people, that I’m very nurturing and hospitable and I love to make people feel loved and welcomed but people don’t know how to leave. Even when I’m in someone else’s house they try to keep me and kidnap me. My neighbor did that and I loved next door. I’m so glad I relocated to another state.

I can tell people have I something to do, they can see me falling asleep and they will still sit there. One time a friend of mine knew my ex was on his way, (he was my boyfriend) at the time and he saw me prepping for him, and he stood there in the hall and did not leave. He wanted him to walk through the door and see him and he wanted to cause problems for me. I knew his wife. We all knew each other but that’s not the point. I never had him over after that again.

I told him and I didn’t mean to be rude, but he ask., how come you don’t invite me over no I said because you don’t know when to leave. You just sit there. Go home to your wife and kids… his wife would call and ask m is my husband there and I would have him the phone lol. But it’s crazy how pipe, come over my place and they know I will cook etc, they get to put their feet up, but I come over even when they have weeks notice, they don’t cook, the house is a mess, dishes in the sink and they expect me to cook and tend to them.

They have zero domestic skills and they want to be attended to, even after I traveled a distance. So I just stopped going to their house and it’s crazy because I took public transportation and they had a car. But my friends excuse was she couldn’t find parking, why get a car. She just didn’t want to drive to New Jersey.

[user]

I'm from a family that believes that guest should stay as long as they please and this gets kind of annoying because sometimes some of my family members come without invitation at all and they stay as long as they want they never go out and we can't tell them to leave this is so annoying for me because they have little children that keep on messing up the house getting into rooms they shouldn't enter and even believe it or not opening my own closet
They get into the kitchen and bathroom(not guests bathroom)
They stay for too long like litterly so long that I feel that I would vomit
and they come over without any reason there's no reason to come in the middle of exams...
To make matters worse they come and sleepover without us allowing them to
They come they don't bring their clothes or toothbrushes or anything so we need to give them toothbrushes, give them from our own clothing
So once there was a party in my school and I bought a dress, my 10 year old cousin came over with her friends who I don't even know and have never seen them in my live, so she wanted to change into another outfit so she opened my closet and saw the dress, she got jealous because she doesn't have one like it, she spilled strawberry milk on it(not by accident), when I entered to my room and opened my closet to put something in I saw what happened and flames where getting out of my ears, I went to ask my mother who did this and my cousin was standing there, she started crying even though I didn't even look at her and kept on shouting and saying that's not me that's not me😣
Then my mother hugged her and told her I know it's not you sweetie.and she told me it's OK you can wash it, I told her that it would never wash away, ran into my room and slammed the door...
And the next week they came again when I opened the door for them I told them infront of their parents that they should only stay in the living room and are not allowed to stay more than 2 hours, I know that is kind of mean but the stress whenever they come is unbelievable+I had final exams next week so I think that I did the right thing .
Of course the guests didn't do what I requested them to do and stayed till about 9p.m and when they finally left my mother shouted at me and told me how dare you say that you're very impolite this is their home as well and you're grounded, and she almost hit me but I ran away ...
And now after my punishment and exams are over I wanted to put an end to all of this and live like normal kids and stop sharing every thing with those unwanted guests so I came to this video..🥺🥺😭😭😵😵😥😢😢😓

[PurplePinkRed]

This is why I don't invite people to my home unless you are family. I'll meet you out for a meal or coffee if you are a friend. My home is my space to be with my husband and family.

A few months back, before COVID restrictions hit where I am, my husband invited two acquaintances through work over without my knowledge. I came home at dinnertime from work. They got ridiculously drunk and stayed til early morning hours. Made a total mess, left food, cans and bottles everywhere and did not offer to clean up. One damaged our fence. Then, my husband was dumb enough to leave his phone on the table unattended. That same person took his phone by mistake, left his behind and we had to drive to swap it.

Long story short: Unless you know the person really well, do not invite them to your home. If you want to drink, go do it at a bar or THEIR house. My husband does not invite idiots to our home anymore!

[Jenekks]

Many times I am ready to leave yet my spouse straggles and I end up being the bad guy because I am trying to get him out the door. I feel like we are always the last to leave and don't know how to solve this issue. My spouse can talk and talk with people. If it were up to me, I'd be the first guest to leave.