Exactly How The Being There Method Works

What Is The Being There Method: A specific strategy employed if you find your ex has moved on that significantly raises your chances of success in getting them back.

How Does The Strategy Work? :
- While your ex is dating someone new you simply compete with that other person for their time in a meaningful way.

The Secure Attachment Factor:

Arguably the best attachment style, secure attachment involves a deep trust in having the fortitude to deal with the fear of loss.

What Usually Happens If This Works?

- The other person grows worried and starts pressuring and arguing with your ex (which lowers their value)

Questions To Answer:

The difference between BTM and MOWOMO ... Definitions and rules of engagement

How can you be there when he acts like he doesn't want you to be there?

- Getting yourself in the right mindset is key
- Sometimes the only thing you can do is wait and be patient
- Make sure it doesn't look like you're waiting around for them and that means doing something extremely hard, going on dates with other people.

How to deal with big pullbacks when you are well in to the process

- Often times big pullbacks happen before big breakthroughs but only if you handle the process right.
- Remember, the secure attachment factor
- You pull back when they pull back, wait a bit and re-engage
- But how you re-engage is just as important.

[AlluretheGOAT]

I’ve actually done this method many times over the years without knowing that it was a method. The problem that I have always encountered is that by the time they fall in love with me again, which they all did, I have usually met someone new.

[sscott]

I’m 56, and proud to say, I’m learning from your videos, well done sir.

[wildwoman]

I am getting the same idea I had when I watched your discussion with your coaching partner Anna, and, now I know why. I keep thinking if one practiced the being there method before a breakup occurred, it probably wouldn't have happened! And, now, it came through clearly that one must come from a secure attachment style! You could coach breakup prevention! The other idea is that I can handle anything and I know I can. Eureka! Perhaps I have truly healed from my dysfunctional childhood!

[JaStargazer]

My approach is simple.
I'm happy for her,
I'm happy she is still part of my life
And If she ever feels like getting back together I'll think about it
But meanwhile I'll look for someone I can love even more.

[kanoelanifoy]

It feels degrading to do this, so I guess I’ll just stay insecure lol

[cassandrapeters]

Soooo after months of listening to your channel I took the quiz… 67 percent chance looks grim lol

[lisasunshine]

If one is genuinely grieving the breakup, and genuinely moving their life forward, AND had a real friendship with their ex previously, it is doable. It will require one to get more secure and have courage. 💗

[elharrop]

How on earth are you supposed to do this if you're heartbroken?

[plantationcreationz]

This does work
I did it in 2021
Made me look very secure and sane

[karlathomas]

You cannot apply this method if your ex requests no further contact when they break up with you—especially when they’re involving another person. You need to go ahead and implement NC. If you don’t hear from them and have waited around 4 months, do ONE simple reach out (Hail Mary) and that is it.
If they don’t respond, move on.

[ladymay]

I put this method into action and also distanced myself while my friend was in the midst of his disastrous rebound. He panicked and came back in tears within five and a half months. He wound up walking away and also creating distance from the rebound due to a physical confrontation between him and her ex- which became a safety issue for him. This was over a year and a half ago.

[BruceJC]

Man I’m not smart enough to play these games. Either that or I’m too smart to even try lol.

[nellie]

I did this 2 years ago with a friend who had become more, was there for him without knowing it was a method.. he did go through a lot in those 2 yrs and came back (when I had finally moved on) for about 4 months.. then disappeared again a month ago with no explanation :/ I’m starting to wonder if the being there method is a way for them to almost keep you as an easy option. :( come and go as they please..

[greerphillips]

I was totally expecting the "being there" method to be about being present in the moment so that you don't keep focusing your thoughts and energy on your ex.

Yikes. This is a no.

If your ex has moved on, let them move on, and you should too.

[Jennifer-dinl]

This does work of done right but it's probably the hardest thing to fake, you really have to change.

[mariagrace]

My avoidant ex will look for me at the 6-7 month timeframe. He has circled back around for the 3rd time. I’m ok. I have healed so much. I’m not sure that it would work. I care about him as a person and so I would be ok resuming a friendship. Anything more is too risky

[cllh]

I’m a guy and can say that I’ve had pretty much 100% success rate with this method unknowingly at first (multiple partners 2-3 year relationships each) one even had a baby, business and bought a house with dude…yea it took 3-4 years but yea they do come back…trying to act like they never left

[danielaustin]

Would you still advise a 45 NC if it's 5 months after break up and new relationship is 2 months in? Or would you advise shorter?

[caoskin]

Im confused on the last part when they pull back and you pull back then reengage. I haven’t read that yet on the article.

[tnix]

I find 2x speed helps with getting to the point often...