Hard truths about DIVORCE ❤️‍🩹

When I was going through my divorce, the holidays hit hard...

Seeing my ex “happy” on social media felt like a gut punch.

I felt like people treated me differently because I was suddenly “the single friend.”

The loneliness felt like it would never end.

Add perimenopause symptoms (mood swings, sleepless nights, and anxiety) on top of it, and I was completely overwhelmed.

But here’s what I learned: It’s better to be lonely alone than lonely with the wrong person. 📣📣

The holidays are tough, but they’re also a chance to focus on yourself, focus on healing, balancing your emotions, and reclaiming the relationships that really matter, *especially* the one with yourself.

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About Tamsen Fadal:
Tamsen Fadal is an Emmy award-winning journalist, documentary filmmaker and menopause advocate. Known as social media’s midlife mentor, her candor and relatability have established her as a leading voice in the menopause space with a passionate, loyal social media audience of 3+ million.
 
Tamsen is the producer and executive producer of the PBS documentary, The M Factor, Shredding the Silence on Menopause which is the first documentary of its kind confronting the neglected menopause crisis, challenging societal and medical shortcomings, and advocating for a revolutionary approach to women’s health.  From the boardroom to the stage at SXSW to Capitol Hill, she advocates for policies that eliminate the stigma of menopause and foster a work environment where women feel comfortable discussing and managing their midlife health journey. She is also the author of her new book, How To Menopause.

After more than three decades as a television news anchor, Tamsen made the bold decision to pivot her career towards women’s health advocacy. She’s the best friend helping guide women through midlife and beyond, acting as a one-stop resource for everything they need to know to live their best lives.

Equally passionate about health, Tamsen holds a certificate in holistic health coaching from the Institute for Integrative Nutrition (IIN), serves on the national board of Let’s Talk Menopause and is a strong voice in the fight against breast cancer after losing her mother to the disease in 1990.

Her regular media appearances include Oprah Daily, The Today Show, The New York Times, and The Harvard Business Review.

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[taggartlawfirm]

I’ve been a divorce attorney for 35 years. Except in the case of violence, substance abuse, or unrepentant adultery, you rarely get anything better … just different. The treasure you stored for the future is gone, and the best you can hope for with regard to the children is that they are not too screwed up.

[John-orccUndauntedRaceCars]

Divorce was the greatest thing that ever happened to me ! Financial freedom, lost the parasite that was using me as an ATM, and for retirement funds later in life, now my assets are mine, my house is always clean and tidy, zero drama in my life, no need to ask permission to do anything I enjoy, healthy eating, clean living, stress free environment, and finally peace, quiet, tranquility. The chaos is finally gone ! I will NEVER remarry or cohabitate again .

[hushpuppies]

It's better to be lonely alone than be lonely with someone. That's absolutely true.

[evelyndanforth]

Happy for my ex. She's a decent person and deserves to be happy. We just weren't right for one another.

[rustyshackleford]

I ve been alone since my wife passed 12 years ago.
Im happy.
Family, my sons and grandkids keep me busy, lol.

[personne]

I'm an introvert who works with a lot of people, so loneliness is not really something I experience. Being alone is awesome.

[richardsb]

My wife said I was never home was one of the reasons she left, do you know why I was never home? Because I was working to support her spending habits.

[cyberherbalist]

I remember the feeling of relief when I came home after the declaration of my freedom from that crazy woman. Being alone was not a burden, it was a blessing.

[kayodudu]

MAAM THANK YOU, AM DEALING WITH WHAT YOU JUST SAID NOW BUT I KNOW AM HEALNG GRADUALLY AND IT CAN ONLY GET BETTER.

[conartist]

Great advice. I feel good that I did what you said even though I’ve heard you for the first time. I’m still grieving and it’s been 10 years this year. It’s taken a big chunk of my heart but it was for the best.

[vickiesorenson]

Most often they’ve meet someone even before you’re divorced.

[mrsHolly]

I've never worried about what an ex was doing. Only wished happiness to them and moved on. If you're not with them, they aren't the one for you. I've always been ok alone, the biggest truth here is don't go looking too soon. My truth has been to not go looking at all!

[garysmith]

Yep, 100% truth. Been single now for 9 yrs, still do not have any desire whatsoever to date again. Peace, happiness, no drama.. life is grand.🙂

[jonathanleach]

Following my wife's divorcing me twenty years ago, my first few years spent alone with God was my most enjoyable, profitable time ever. It strengthened me for the next chapter of my life. Keep moving along, and never look back.

[timmcgrath]

I was alone in a loveless marriage for years. Separation and divorce was long, long overdue. I don’t need to be alone to “find myself”. I know exactly who I am and what I need in my life, and I’m not getting any younger.

[patriciaarodriguez]

I was so lonely with someone for so long and I remember about a year later the moment I felt real joy again and I was free!

[filmjunkie]

Divorce is the best exit to a bad marriage. Why worry about what an ex is doing? Ex means former do move forward.

[mariadeleon]

I got divorced 20 years ago. I went through hell to get over it. I chose to continue to be single and now I’m the happiest I have EVER been!! Life is Good when you don’t have to worry about some guy lying and screwing around or doing God knows what else. Life is WONDERFUL when you love yourself and k ow how to keep yourself company.

[jezzie]

I’ve been divorced for 15 years yet she has married twice I’m still single and staying that way freedom is beautiful 🎉

[guiwhiz]

"It's better to be lonely alone than lonely with someone' Preach Sister!