Learning to Be a Friend to Yourself

Many of us are far tougher on ourselves than we ever deserve to be, the result of difficult upbringings which deny us an internal voice of love with which to speak to ourselves. We need to learn that most necessary of arts: that of befriending ourselves.

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Amanda Eliasson

[mariajohansson]

I didn't think this would make me cry but it did

[lilom-ah]

The moment I can completely become friends with myself would be the greatest and most fulfilling achievement I can ever make

[dcd]

"I can love you as you are, despite everything." That line always makes me cry.

[thegossipswan]

I can't concentrate on the context of the video cause im so relaxed by the sound of her voice.
So therapeutic.

[MaiNguyen-wlxr]

come here from time to time and it never fails to make me cry

[Sanjovalentine]

This video really touched me... It pains me to know how I've been treating myself over these past years, but knowing that I can grow, that I still can be forgiven for all my mistakes, really means the world to me. Thank you.

p.s. I never heard this narrator before, but she's really good!

[GS-cgyn]

I think I need to watch this about three times a day for a while; until it sinks in. 😞

[atul]

These 2 mins healed me from inside ...

[tuts]

I suffer from anxiety and inferiority complex, this helped me so much. Thank you

[emergency.jergens]

I watch to this every once and a while. Whenever I have a bad event in my life I come back, close my eyes, and listen to this voice. The kindness evokes something within me to emulate it and forgive myself for my problems that I struggle to solve. Thank School of Life for this powerful video tool you have provided me, and others, with.

[outspokenone]

when it said "i know how deeply you've suffered" the tears came. i guess i never admit to myself that i have always been there for others but not myself bc i grew up in a dysfunctional family and was always trying to fix everyone to help them but i lost myself and i never knew it

[DaniloSalvego]

Thank you. This video was the most productive minute of my day. It made me cry a lot, but it touched me deeply. So, yes, thank you. Really. You guys are awesome. <3

[l.a.mpanda]

I love her voice. So smooth and gentle. It makes me feel calm. Thank you so much.

[Chiradori]

It's hard for me to be my own friend when I remember every flaw I have while underappreciating all the good traits. Being a perfecionist doesn't help much either, especially when it's shown the most on myself. Perfection as a human being is something not really achievable yet I still try to and let myself down.

[olgaorange]

This brought me to tears, the good ones from deep within - so thank you

[angelamarino]

This should be like something we tell to ourselves every day before starting our day. Love it

[高煥舜]

Every now and then I watch this video for consolation and to remind me of treating myself better in as many aspects as I can .

[TellyTingz]

My deep research shows that we all need not and should not think TOO high of ourselves and Never think TOO LOW of ourselves . It has to be a healthy view andsince we are not born perfect our mind will always see something wrong with us.Easy said than done but having a BALANCED view of ourselves has to be learned over time and with patience. LOVE YOU ALL !

[izzyduzit]

I always think if I'm not a friend to myself then how can I be a friend to someone else

[derekstark]

Timing of this video could not have been more perfect. Thank you!!