Be Careful When You Compliment People

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[sikcat]

The way to compliment someone "above" you is by asking their advice.

[amysue]

I had a beautiful soul professor who was your typical scruffy English professor - always disheveled looking but sweet as pie. He came to class all dolled up one day and I complimented him on how nice he looked. I saw something in his eyes that told me he needed that. For the remainder of that semester I watched him cheer up and start taking care of his appearance more. It made me realize what one genuine compliment can do!

[mithra]

I'm a med school student and never thought about complimenting any doctor at the hospital. But one time, I was really impressed by one of the doctors having a very empathetic attitude during a conversation with a patient. It felt weird, but I just had to tell him what a good job he had done and that I would've been thankful as a patient to have somebody like him as my doctor. Surprisingly, he was very touched by my compliment and I had a feeling that not many people had told him that in recent years. I think that being a head physician/ boss/ whatsoever makes one really lonely, because everybody develops this way of thinking that "I'm below him, who am I to compliment anything about him?" and quite frankly, I find it pretty sad.

[jdfqocz]

I remember, once, I called this guy, "Sir", his response was, "Don't call me, sir, I work for a living." My response was, "All the more reason to call you, "Sir."

[rightthinking]

This is how I raised my kids! I complimented them, specifically, and they gave me more! They’re awesome adults now!

[pusscat]

I would compliment someone way above me in the hierarchy when it's genuine because it's showing appreciation

[tinadavy]

SINCERITY IS THE REAL KEY...
PEOPLE TEND TO SENSE THE REASON.

[Highvibin]

I compliment everyone on the streets everyday ! I started doing it and I can see the difference in makes in mine and their energy ! We need more smiles and compliments !

[nailsdeb]

Children especially need this. Encouraging and complimenting. They flourish when they feel empowered.

[Bombabingbong]

Everyone loves a compliment if it's genuine, doesn't matter who they are.

[joemclocklin]

I work in a factory that has production lines and I lead one of those lines and this is very very true. If I'm training someone new I lay out the expectations and instead of telling them they need to do better I just remind them of the expectations, show them and tell them how to achieve that or at least how to get closer and I'll acknowledge them when they improve and compliment them on their performance and it means a lot. It's amazing how little it takes and they will compliment you back. It feels good and it creates a really healthy work environment.

[virtuoussoulhealer]

I tell my manager all the time how much I appreciate her. She is absolutely the best. And I tell her managers. She is a good-natured person and her parents raised her rught. Such a light..

[mokari]

I’ve complimented people above me (sincerely) and I feel like they are the one’s who rarely receive genuine compliments, so if done correctly I think it’s not bad.

[timlittle]

I recognise people for their deeds rather than their hierarchy.

[klausosho]

A few good years ago I complimented my German manager (3-4 levels above me) and it brightened him for many days. I was sincere in acknowledging his altruistic efforts and he was very happy that at least 1 person observed this, and even though my appreciation was made in a relaxed and joking way (to put him at ease), he accepted the recognition. Way to go, Mr. Andreas Kircher, I salute you in this way! I also remembered since then to do this more often (at different companies) and the reactions were awesome; more of the "lower levels" should do it, but being sincere, of course.

[kenderhearted]

You can learn a lot about how someone reacts to your genuine compliments. If they are nasty about it, they think they're better than you, and no longer worthy of further compliments. If they feel manipulated by it when you were truly honest, they're probably a manipulative person themselves.

[woodywolf]

Every time I compliment someone on their work, that confidence boost is crazy. They start doing that same work thrice better and faster! Just shows how people seek validity and recognition all the time. I'm not naturally a people pleaser but i feel like you gotta do it sometimes

[selador]

Compliment whomever you want! As long as it is genuine. This world has a dearth of encouragement. People need encouragement, no matter their status. Just do it.

[cristinabadea]

Had a leader who was bright, sharp, and kind, unbelievable combination of traits. And once I told him that, genuine I was. He took it nicely 😊.
Had a manager who was smart, but no depth, no consistency, not inspiring; he expects and demands to be complimented - I dont do that, cannot, would not; he raised a handful of hand-kissers around him 😊.

[mypupismup]

The way you compliment people above you is by saying things like “thank you for your time” “I really appreciate your kindness and thoughtfulness” at least that’s what I do.