Mansplaining and how to make it stop

Communication and body language expert Karen Donaldson gives tips on how to contest mansplaining. "Amping up your level of confidence is highly important so you can call it out and stop it in its tracks. Nothing will change if we don't change it."
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[samsungtv]

Confidence is a skill set and an action! Wow powerful!

[PlagueNeco-ntlv]

When a woman asks you to explain yourself and the motives behind your actions simply refuse to elaborate and walk away.

[MrBrander]

I repeat and explain the thing again in order to confirm from the other person I understood the thing I just heard, correctly. It has nothing to do with showing that I'm more knowledgeable about the thing but I'm repeating it because I want a confirmation that I heard and understood it correctly.

[Psych]

Obviously she never heard men talk!! We talk the same way to each other. Matter of fact we actually talk more harsh to each other than we would a woman. I have brothers, male cousins, etc and if you was a fly on the wall in some of our conversation you would think we hate each other.

[Psych]

One problem I have with the term “mansplaining” it seem to be only directed towards men. I have been interrupted and or seen another interrupted by a woman.

Woman also will try to simplify something they already said to a man. The reason why people simplify what they already said is not always to make someone feel less but because they feel that the way they said it before didn’t registered.

I’ve seen and been a witnessed to this term that it is used to escape a conversation that the other person feels like they are losing edge or got in their feelings so they use “mansplaining.”

If you listen to two men talk we talk because like she said you can’t assume that the other person knows what you are saying but most men can set aside their emotions and continue the conversation with logic and remain rational.

[emmanuelhyacinthe]

I agree wit most of it but honestly if a dude in the room is wrong imma joke about it and tell him he’s wrong idk she was talking about

[goaway]

Being interrupted and having people talking over you is not a gendered issue. It can happen to everyone and be done by everyone. Please stop using this ridiculous word

[AnGerBomB]

Stop, please, I'm begging you. Just stop talking.

[gauravi_deo]

I had men who had opinions towards career options for women and I get it, when I am in my feminine confident side that I dont want to do the dirty stuff, I am a Queen to go do those tasks but that doesn't give anyone right to show that I am stupid. I heard men talk on topic and women feel of the conversation, so then I feel we should just understand how the genders speak and communicate accordingly

[cardinalRG]

I believe that “mansplaining” is real, but that the term doesn’t describe a unique habit, just a particularly obnoxious flavor of a wide-ranging habit. Over-explainers are found among men and women, children and adults, employees and employers, and just about whatever counterpart categories you can name. I think that its source is in the family upbringing. My parents never over-explained to each other, nor did so with their children, and my many childhood embarrassments and bruises bear that out. Except when safety, expediency or good manners are the priority, I believe in letting people run head-first into their mistakes, because the better learning happens that way.

Once, my girlfriend wanted to drive us to San Francisco, and warned me ahead of time against giving her any driving directions. It was only later, as we approached the Mexican border, that she realized we’d been traveling in the opposite direction for an hour. I could have “mansplained” and saved us two hours, but heck…it was great scenery, we shared a laugh about it, and she corrected her mistake without any prompting from me. And it inspired her to become a much better navigator while behind the wheel.

[funkydanieluk]

I think its funny that the woman here gives a terrible definition of mansplaining.
I would tell her how to define it more accurately...but I feel like she might not like that.

[magickitchen]

Yeah don't pull them aside later because then there might be gas lighting for sure. What do you mean? That's not what I was doing yada yada

[GoodGoFreeUp]

You can stop it immediately. Just cease using the bigoted term of hate speech "mansplaining." If you're for gender equality, but use this term of gender stereotyping, you're a contemptible hypocrite.

Report this video for its use of hate speech.

[depyxirouchakis]

never happened to me in professional life, maybe i was too bossy ? 😁 hehe

[comealongcomealong]

Your point that, statistically, men will interrupt women more than other men is interesting. I definitely believe male dominance behaviour can be directed towards other men, and can think of multiple examples of this pattern that I've witnessed. I think there are gradations and grey areas in all workplace interactions. For example, a senior woman may interrupt, or hijack, the contributions, of a junior male. But - a great discussion to have. And an important subject for women, one worth revisiting. Perhaps with some real life experiences and examples in the future 👏

[janedoe]

I do not agree with women telling men they're "mansplaining", I think it's very sexist, demeaning, disrespectful, and emasculating. I think this is an overreactive response. 2 wrongs don't make a right. Also some men who are dominant and dismissive are simply like this and DO do this to fellow men. So it is wrong to make the assumption that it's just because they're men. Men are sometimes dismissive toward women's thoughts or wanting to be the know it all..but men respond best to women who act with feminine grace, not being confrontational and aggressive. If they feel patronized in turn, and emasculated, that does not play out well for them. It's in women's best interest to understand male nature and work with it in an effective way. It hurts men in way much more serious and insidious for women to patronize them than the other way around, so I think acting/responding with sensitivity is key.

[McMahonHater]

You can't stop something that doesn't exist. Maybe women should try focusing on "Nagging, and how to make it stop". Everyday I'm glad I gave up on love and relationships. None of you are worth it.