Gottman series, wk 7 - Contempt vs. Appreciation

[firefeethok_tui]

It takes years for youtubers to build a site. I hope you keep making videos, i found these years after you put them out. You really are very good, a clear communicator with clear examples. All of your words are packed with meaning and the videos are not full of superfluous nonsense. I really appreciate the straightforward and direct con tent packed with good information. Thank you

[keshazaffino]

I’ve read a lot of Gottman material and this is a great explanation

[huckmart]

The contempt in my last relationship was really subtle and hard to notice at first, but I felt it. She loved to exude this uncaring, indifferent attitude. Like she was above everything. Like she was above me. Didnt need me in her life but was glad to have me aslong If didnt cause problems... made me feel really insignificant. It wasn't always this way, but when the attitude appeared it was a pretty quick nose dive into constant fights and eventually breaking up. And of course she exuded an indifference about that too.

It sucks because I dont think that's how she really felt. I just think it was a defense mechanism. But it made it impossible to communicate and its hard to fight for a relationship when the other person seems to not care.

[Richensmom]

Can you add a link for relationship enhancement questions please

[dawnswanlpc]

I’d recommend downloading this App. You’ll find lots of questions in various categories that are designed to help couples strengthen connection. Hope this helps:

Gottman Card Decks by The Gottman

[CHILDBIRTH]

Where did you post the question for relationship enhancement mentioned in video

[jacbox]

I couldn't find the app that you recommended. Do you have more info about it?

[aznsmazn]

So what can the person receiving the contempt do to save the relationship?

[DawnSwanLPC]

I’m sorry but I never did get these posted. I dropped the ball on that part. Sorry. If you’d like to email me, I can share them with you