What does ISTP think of INFJ? | INFJ relationships | CS Joseph Responds

CS Joseph Responds to the question what does ISTP think of INFJ? He'll use Four Sides of the Mind to delve into ISTP and INFJ relationships.

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[owlsama]

Every ISTP opens up to INFJ, cause first time they feel like they can talk and someone will listen and actually understand :D

[carmenchandler]

One of my favorite things my ISTP husband has told me as an infj, is that "feelings are personal and are not for you to be accommodating towards". Helped me a lot actually

[aniavanessian]

Actually one of the secret strengths of infj's is to appear as easily manipulated. So there's a secret there for you that I would highly recommend watching out for. We tend to go along with people until a certain line is crossed. I have dealt with istps before as an infj and I can tell you they were unpleasantly surprised to see a side of me I keep hidden. Infjs can get aggressive and will when needed it just isn't realized by perpetrators until too late because it is behind our walls of kindness. Infjs are known as capable of being the most manipulative because we also understand people the best. Be grateful for our empathy. P.S. anyone that uses gen z terms like alpha and beta is automatically bottom of the food chain 😂

[benayaputrahalim]

"War history isn't really an INFJ topic."
Me, an INFJ war history enthusiast : excuse me ma'am?

[nicolcacola]

My INFJ self is drawn to my ISTP husband because he is who he is and doesn't hide it. As someone who hates surprises, I thrive on this!

[sharonmurza]

It's interesting because of the people I have interacted in my life, I have felt LESS judged by an ISTP as an INFJ. My boyfriend is the one person that has truly made an effort to get to know me and to listen to me. In fact, his favorite thing to do is listen to me talk about everything and anything. He accepts my emotional self and helps me become more rational while I help him accept and express his feelings more. We have benefited so much from being together and have seen so much growth. We can come to some challenges but because we both prioritize loyalty, honesty, and communication in a relationship, we are able to always resolve them on very positive notes every time.

[eidolon]

As an Infj who was in a long term relationship with an istp I'd say we both would view each other as "weak sauce" occasionally. Istp wouldn't understand why Infj cared so much and Infj wouldn't understand why istp fails to read the room, it's so evident to the Infj what the emotional consequences are of actions taken. For istp it's so evident that caring what everyone thinks is irrational. We were both disabled in different ways, his emotional blindspot got him into trouble, my sensitivity got me into trouble. But we both respected each other a lot.

[l_raage]

I’m an ISTP and my fiancé is an INFJ, he is the only person that got me to open up, I find him wise and well balance with his feelings and thinking. I feel like the weak sauce majority if the time haha, he’s so knowledgeable in just about everything, I love learning from him

[icyredpeople]

I'm an ISTP and my wife is INFJ. There are a lot of points you made here that ring true but I want to say, I only got into this MBTI stuff to better understand my (at the time) fiance. Since understanding her and what an INFJ is, there's no way she'll ever beat me at table tennis! She has not proved her logic time and time again because her logic is ALWAYS faulty! BUT ... the INFJ is not about logic. Their gift is interpersonal dimension and planning. These things, I suck at! She is an amazing counterpart to the way I do things. When her plans fail, I can always get us out of the scrape and she relies on me for that just as I rely on her for data and that is because she always looks deep into scenarios for every situation. I appreciate her and she appreciates me. We have our issues but it should be said that an ISTP/INFJ relationship CAN work ... so long as the ISTP is ultimately in the driver's seat.

[mikesilva]

ISTP here watching it with my INFJ gf, what could go wrong.

[katastrophekris]

You hit the nail on the head. I am an INFJ, my mom is an INFJ and my dad an ISTP. My relationship with him went from adoration (but also A LOT of confusion) as a child trying to understand and make him feel better, to basically sworn enemy as an adult. I've achieved athletically, academically, financially yet it's NEVER ENOUGH for him. He took me out of the will for marrying my ENFP husband he doesn't even know but assumes he doesn't like. MY ENFP sister has him wrapped around her manipulative finger. I wasn't going to even watch the video bc I'm so disgusted with his projection. I can admit that I wouldn't be who I am today without him as a father, but I recently told him that he'll never figure out how he fucked his relationships up with everyone in his life just to see him rage. Yes, I admit it, I said it to piss him off.

A very good thing about my experience though is that I've worked with an ISTP and he tells everyone at work at I "know everything". He is a teacher/nurse and always drops his students off with me on the floor. We have the utmost respect for each other, he is like a brother to me. He even came to me for advice about life and what he's doing with it; he confided in me his feelings. And I learn SO MUCH from him it's ridiculous.

Thank you for all the work you do. My ISTP friend at work is skeptical about the wisdom from personality psychology ( we are psych nurses!) but he doesn't even know how I've basically transferred the knowledge gleaned from your videos to his ears and helped him grow.

[halilyn]

I get along well with most ISTPs, but I'm an INFJ who was always interested in what the ISTPs were building or creating. I ask them a lot of questions and learn from them, then they all end up opening up to me little but little with questions about dealing with feelings of others. It's like INFJ Se inferior learning from Se parent and the ISTP Fe inferior learning from the INFJ Fe parent. That's been my experience with them.

[nusaibaafsheen]

I am an infj and one of my closest friends is an istp. Our dynamics is one of my most favourites and comfortable ones. We're always at each other's throats but we also trust each other a lot. Instead of projecting her emotion-less self, she realizes and respects that I'm an emotional person and even seeks my support. I, on the other hand, feel very secure in how she's very upfront and honest. We are both so different yet we always have an underlying sync, we know just what to say to get the other all worked up lol

[carmenchandler]

I am an INFJ female and my husband is ISTP. I think he kinda accepts that I'm "weaksauce", but he knows that as he is intelligent about history, building things, tactical war play, I am just as intelligent about human people grow. He wants to be more spiritual, to fill that part of his soul that he feels is lacking, and I want to be more practical and "in the moment". He teaches me to stand up for myself, even to myself, and I teach him, well, to be more tactful, and to honor his emotional/spiritual side. Other than that, we have the same dark sense of humor and distain for stupid people.

[hafsa]

Dear ISTPs, From your selective amnesia. Sincerely, INFJs.

[Aleks-joel]

One thing he missed is, INFJ will get fed up with ISTP's dismissal, and ISTP will not see it coming when the INFJ attacks in emotions, and its blood massacre. Fe in combination with Ti is exceptionally good at pinpointing people's flaws, and the only thing stopping INFJ from being ruthless and using that to their advantage is that Fi criticism echoing in their minds and those pesky Fe emotions. But step on INFJ too many times, for too long, or god forbid, go after someone or something they care for, and watch that Se-Ti take over and completely attack the ISTP right in their feelings, with no mercy or care; with Fe off, and already made up mind for door slam, it is all aims fired up at causing biggest emotional damage, to someone who is already out of touch with their emotions, so it is only bound to have emotional damage hidden and highly layered beneath. I have seen INTJ and ESTJ with their tough exterior and persona try to get through to ISTP only to be left broken themselves, and then there comes the "weak sauce" INFJ with all their emotional baggage and completely obliterate that ISTP to the point where they end up crying their feelings out and avoiding INFJs at all costs. Then and only then will they get that attitude deeply rooted in their minds.
It's a huge mistake to underestimate Fe's strong sense of social justice and Ni's crippling persistence.

[saintsechoes]

Can confirm. I’m an INFJ with an ISTP father, we don’t always get along but we’ve learned tons from each other.

[jacob_massengale]

My dad is ISTP and my mom is INFJ... After 30 years, the impending divorce is still not a surprise...

[williamw]

In my experience there's an immediate codependent attraction. As an istp guy I seem to keep finding infj women. I become simultaneously a asset they rely on and a "project" for them to fix. Alot of heartache over the years.

[Zactastical]

It's fascinating how STPs are logically driven, but still interest based.
Watching them argue with NTs is so much fun.