Homecoming Dresses: The Rule of One

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In this video, I’ll share the rule that I have for homecoming and other special occasion dresses.

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Hi everyone! This is Lara Hammock from the Marble Jar channel and in today’s video I’ll share the rule that I have for homecoming and other special occasion dresses.
Fall is in the air and that means that means we will soon be kicking off the annual bickering about homecoming dress selection. So I’ve talked ad nauseam to my daughter about clothing choices and the male gaze (I have a video on that if you’re interested), but in the end teenage girls want to look as “cute” as possible for homecoming and other dress up occasions. And that generally means that there is going to be some conflict between teenager and parents about their outfit choices.
Unfortunately, looking “cute” many times means showing a little more body than I am generally comfortable with. But that said, I was once a teenage girl, and I know it’s not gonna fly for me to make my daughter go to homecoming in something like this. She wants to fit in — I get it. BUT there ARE some fairly scandalous styles that are in vogue at any given time.
These girls are beautiful and I’m glad they are proud of their bodies. However, I am her mom – and part of my job is to make sure that she makes reasonable decisions. After all, people are freaking judgey. There are, of course, your peers — other girls (mostly) who will whisper behind your back if you are showing too much skin or if you have made the wrong clothing choice.
But here is the most judgey group of all – the moms! And generally, it’s the moms of the boys, because they have not had to deal recently with a teenage daughter who is hell-bent on making decisions they’re not comfortable with. Believe me — I hear all about the unfortunate clothing choices: dresses so plunging that boobs are practically popping out, hemlines so high that just the act of getting in and out of a car is practically pornographic. I’ve definitely heard it. Do you think I want MY daughter subjected to all that judgment? No, I do not. And she really doesn’t want that either.
So, here’s my rule about dresses. From my standpoint, for standard dresses, there are generally four areas where you can choose to be a little risqué: the neckline can be plunging, the hemline can be extremely short, the fit can be “nothing left to the imagination“ tight, and you can have cut outs — this last one is pretty new — it didn’t really exist when I was growing up. My rule is that you can choose one of these areas, but never more than that. So, for example – a dress can be super, super skin tight — they call this “body con”, but has to then have a reasonable neckline and hemline and be devoid of all cut outs. OR, you can choose a really short hemline but everything else has to be reasonable. You get the idea — you pick more than one of these areas, and you run the risk of being the subject of unkind gossip.
There is also the general rule of common sense. I still have standards about how short a dress can be – after all, getting in and out of a car should never be pornographic. Plunging is okay for many girls (for me — that would mostly show rib cage), but if you are highly endowed in that area, I would seriously think about choosing another option for yourself. Dresses can be fitted without being “body con” tight — this is an area of confusion for my daughter. And obviously, cut outs have to be somewhat modestly placed.
Maybe your daughter doesn’t push the limits, but most girls will. I believe that this rule gives them just enough leeway to strut their stuff, without being the subject of too much malicious gossip.
Let me know what you think. Comments are always appreciated and thanks for watching!