Why I Cut Off My Family & Don’t Regret It

Talking about childhood trauma today! It took me a long time to realize why I was trying to cope in adulthood the way I was and why I was ruining intimate relationships with bad habits I couldn’t stop. It all had to do with how I was raised and my poisonous family dynamic. Recently, I freed myself from them with God and through intense therapy - it was the best decision I have ever made!

[Bt-ftzk]

I cut off a huge portion of my family. Just because someone shares your DNA doesn’t mean that they are entitled to your time

[PeiPeisMom]

It's so complicated breaking from a bad parent. You mourn the loss, but you realize eventually you're not mourning the person, you're mourning the person you needed them to be

[charlotterhotilde]

I genuinely believe the best family is the one you choose.

[cakesinthecity]

I'm 35 and finally fed up. I accept my family will never be loving and supportive towards me and I just need to walk away and not look back.

[lilaccapulet]

I’m glad you’re safe and out of that sick narcissistic tribe. 😢

[breannamarshall]

just blocked my mother, brother, aunt and uncle .. i’m tired of hurting.

[Edward-kk]

"If I have to side-eye you at any point, we just can't rock."

[CareBlair]

If your family triggers your toxicity....run fast. I went no contact for 3 years. Im a better person now.

[Meems-po]

I don’t allow anyone access to my children who have hurt me or dislike me. They don’t care about me they sure as hell don’t care about my kids. That’s me though.

[devotheambivert]

Family isn't limited to blood. Some friends treat you better than some of the people who are blood-related to you. Protection of peace is important. Protection of energy is important. Just because someone is blood-related to you, that doesn't give him or her the right to treat you badly. It behooves us humans to disallow souls, including friends and relatives to treat you like garbage. Self-respect is important.

[tiffanyjohnson]

God bless you. I am also a black female who grew up in a dysfunctional family. I cut off my family in 2018. I have never looked back. God has also delivered me from depression and low self esteem. To God be the glory.

[justangelzaragoza]

I agree with all of this. It's a waste of time keeping horrible people in your life. Life is too short for that

[sandraadee]

My family is the same as yours, I’m pregnant and still they’d verbally abuse me and talk down on me unless I do favors for them or give them money and so forth. I finally cut them off yesterday. This makes me feel I’m not crazy and alone. Thank you.

[brienmaybe.]

My mom told me I should have died in Iraq. And not like "that was a close one, thank God you made it"
I miss my grandparents what I consider my real parents.

[CoCo-yvhl]

Ppl that never dealt with this think you are just terrible for cutting off family. It’s far more traumatizing when you heal & you still deal with them…. I want to cut my mother off she loves me but at the same time a relationship with her is like carrying a tiger around expecting it not bite you.

[BlackVenom]

„I’m tired of trying to explain why I deserve to be treated like a human“ this!! yes!! very much felt that. thank you for sharing your experience. i sometimes feel lonely in my experience and trauma because others around me seem to have such nice families, so it’s good to see people who also grew up in dysfunction and abuse speak up. def takes courage. i wish you all the best

[joja]

Im trying to purchase a home and i got money from a brother as a gift. Next thing i know a month later he wants the money back he even went to the mortgage company and told them it was a loan, not a gift and that he wants his money back. Ghetto. Jealousy is real. Go with God and cutt them off no holidays nothing.

[canvasyourworld]

I commend you, it took me till I turned 60 to breakout of that narcisistic loop with my family. You are most important in your life.

[thelonewolf]

I relate on many things stated here. I cut off my past life. I used to label people friend sister brother etc...now I am better after letting all of those labels lose power over my life. No contact is life.

[hollyj]

I'm in this situation now with my family, I am to the point of walking away and not looking back it's been unhealthy for a long time