Kelsey Grammer: Overcoming abusive marriage

Kelsey Grammer has been married four times, but he says the first three were to the same person; he would often find himself attracted to people who were not doing well. Grammer’s second marriage was rife with abuse, physically and emotionally, and he ended up with a black eye, and having a gun fired at him. He said he often felt the abuse was his responsibility, and that he felt if he was better, he could fix the relationship. Grammer explains why he often felt that he was not good enough, and how he learned to move past that feeling. Plus, he describes his relationship to Kayte, a woman 26-years his junior, but with whom he says he is ‘really well matched.’

Episode debuted nationwide in 2019.

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[wk]

Marrying the right person is one of the most important decisions you'll ever make. Your spouse will be your dearest friend or deadliest enemy; safest confidante or most fearsome gossip; trusted adviser or a terrifying manipulator.
This is the person you will be making serious, life-changing decisions with: home, finances, children.
This is the one person who will see you at your most vulnerable: mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually.
Choose wisely!

[Jaymeeee]

If you have been married FOUR times by 64 I think it’s time for you to stop blaming others and look at yourself.

[patricedhanis]

As a therapist I did exactly that. There was a beginning, a middle, and an end. I called it their graduation. If you do therapy well, it does end as the patient does not need you anymore.

[Heather]

His present wife had an affair with him for over a year and got pregnant, knowing he was married and had children, so she is far from perfect. sounds selfish and self-centered both of them.

[angeleyes]

A narcissist will always say you are the abusive one when you stand up for yourself.

[michelecardneaux]

Of course Camille talked horrible about you publicly because you had her put in a tv show out in LA while you and Kate were having your affair!! DEAR GOD MAN JUST TAKE THE RESPONSIBLY!!

[pehash]

I like how open he is.. someone of his notoriety sharing life lessons, i think its valuable.

[ChrissyloveUK]

People sit in judgement and its hard if you have been cheated on but we all have to be honest with ourselves. My Ex Husband cheated on me but it was inevitable due to us just becoming different people and being a mis match from the beginning, he just happened to choose the right person while we were married because we both didn't know how to leave each other or communicate it. He married her and is still with her 20 years later. I acted like the spurned wife for a while but then I had a good chat with myself and realised it was just how it was and he did the right thing doing what he did. I moved on and remarried the right person. Being honest with yourself is where it starts. 🙏

[dewilew]

I met him and Camille in about 2006/at a Starbucks in New Jersey. Camille is from the town I grew up in, and they were in town visiting her parents. They were both very kind, and he signed an autograph for me with “cheers, Kelsey grammer”. He ordered a caramel Frappuccino, paid with a $50 bill, and left all the change in the tip jar.

[CoachGregAdams]

Until he stops seeking validation through women he will never be at peace. ✌🏾

[Mindi]

I too am someone who loved broken women. They came to me like a magnet from my 20s, right up to my late 30s. Now I'm 44. I made a decision a few years ago that I needed to break the exhausting cycle. I'd often blame the broken souls I'd attract, but eventually I looked hard in the mirror and realised IT WAS ME. It was MY FAULT that this cycle kept repeated and that it was ME that was broken - I had to stop trying to fix others, and fix myself. "You are what you attract" is all too true. So I adjusted myself. And adjusted and adjusted and adjusted. Heal, heal, heal. Now I'm with someone who is NOT broken or toxic, because I'm no longer broken or toxic myself. Healthy you = healthy relationship. That's not to say we don't have challenges and things to work on - we ALWAYS do. There's always some growth and evolution happening. But if we want our relationships healthy, we have to make OURSELVES healthy. Now having said all that - I also don't advocate or justify his choices... his selection of partners says a lot about himself, and there's some narcissism that's evident. However, he DOES sound like he's looking hard at himself and that he's moving towards some kind of peace.

[karinalombrozo]

He had major major trauma that no human can withstand properly without professional help!! Just his sister’s tragic death alone!!!

[sandrajoiner]

Speaking badly about your ex-wives when u cheated is just low. I used to think Kelsey was better than that, but I haven’t thought that in years.

[jamiehess]

This man has lived a very hard life. God bless him.

[bleugaze]

I hear everything he said. It's all true. Whether is happened exactly like he sad or not, the cycyle of abuse is broken not when you aren't afraid anymore, but when you finally realize what you're in is so bad, it's worth risking something new and unknown than staying here, bc this doesn't work. That realization comes at different times for people in different ways. It's never too late heed it

[MariaLape-bt]

What a beautiful conversation! Kelsey is always sincere, open, and honest. He’s a treasure!

[ISayToMyself]

At what point does someone say “maybe marriage is not for me?”

[amandabyrne]

He didn’t just cheat he got his mistress pregnant while he was still with Camille and on housewives. He was arrogant that he had refused to LET Camille do housewives but when he knew he was going to leave her he said it was his parting gift to her!! He’s an ass!!

[Emily-ceiz]

He cheated on his wife and got married to his mistress 2 weeks after his divorce was finalized. Abuse? Bye.

[betsybabf]

His wives kept marrying a cheater, and from how he treated them when he betrayed them, he is very clearly abusive. His newest sounds like a perfect match. Funny how his last wife did wonderfully when he was gone and hw he behaved was a horrific example for his children.