How Do ESFJs Compare To ENFJs?

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[Grubbygund]

I think as an ENFJ personally, you forget to mention our importance of valuing abstract ideas and thoughts, we get very bored of being fed the same factually information over and over again- big difference btw us and the ESFJ.

[nalynnsansaneeyawet]

The “afraid of being stupid” thing is like way too accurate.

[kevinnguyen]

The ENFJ thing about forgetting and needing to feel good is so TRUE. My clinical faculty have said "Look at all the good things you've done over the semester, you really did a lot". Me: I did? Really?!?! I don't think I did..

[Bookooky]

ESFJ:
- What "should" I do?
- often clean freaks, critical about "how" things should be (eg. judging son-in-law)

ENFJ:
- What do I want to do?


- poor memory

[jordanmerry]

My ex is an ENFJ. He is probably the most forgetful person I know. He even once said that he is prone to do the same mistake twice or even more, because he forgot how it feels or the impact of that mistake, so he try to do it again. He sometimes worry he gonna get Alzheimer when he is old. He got his gene checked and the result came out he has a high chance of Alzheimer in his DNA. Wow Chase, you are wow!

[Yo-pzem]

I’m an esfj

And you are right. Many have called me snobby, pompous, pretentious, elitist, etc. But I feel like I’m down to earth. I’m excellent at managing my finances. So I am able to live a luxurious life even with a budget. I consider myself to be practical.

until someone gets to know me personally. .. then I’m told I’m very caring and friendly.

I can tell I annoy people with my neatness—obsession with cleaning.

I’ve been told my place looks like it came out of a magazine. But I can serious annoy people with my organization

[lilmeow]

This was the best damn comparison that I ever came across I figured I was a esfj but for the 1000 time I just had to be sure and you broke it down well..

[lyaz]

I'm impressed you didn't use the *"time - crime"* or *"day in court"* lines in this one.

[xnooraxxsnx]

Since I started watching your videos I have learned a lot and realized that for months I was miss typing myself and my family members. I thought I was ENFP when I am an ENFJ I also thought that my mom is an ESTP when she is an ESTJ and I am still trying to figure out my other family members, we have a big lack of communication so I would really love to know the types and how to communicate with them better. I’m really grateful for your videos and the hard work that you do for us seriously thank you.♥️

[BeyondSustainableLiving]

This was really good. I could have listened for another hour on this topic.

[Haxelmoon]

They can be annoying at your face i know but when you realize they’re doing good for you and by your side you feel loved and as sensitive person i can see the simple things they do and I appreciate that ✨❤️

[BookofYAH]

thanks for this video. It's helpful in eliminating uncertainties when typing people :)

[kottagekore]

I have an ENFJ friend who is married to an ESFP. My ENFJ friend is very smart but her husband plays her so hard and she doesn't get it. He guilts her and treats her like an ATM machine. I try to tell her not to underestimate her ESFP husband but she won't listen, maybe due to her Inferior Ti. Their relationship blows my mind, its so volatile.

[cyndigdl]

Im ESFJ when take the test in spanish and ENFJ when I take it in english. Happy to find your video, sounds like i'm more of the ENFJ . Im super, super forgetful, I love recognition and always worries about making sure everyone's has fun. I was the one to make the move on my husband haha he never did so I did all the moves. I know what I want in life and have very high expectations for people . That sucks !! I had to worked on that. oh and definitely learn how to check and proof everything before making any decision. like double check and check and the ask around then check again then ask around and pray alot then more research. To finally make my moves.

[callummelrose]

I've noticed you talk about ENFJs becoming cruel and having a "dark side" especially in your other video about ENFJs titled "Benevolence vs Cruelty". Can you give an example of a time when you have seen this happen with someone you know and what the outcome is?

[emmaloraa]

Yes... love that about the dishes. Loving to serve from The Spirit rather than obligation is a gift we give to people. Fe-Ni

[sandradibiaso]

I just watched a very moving short video clip from an episode of the Kelly Clarkson Show where both ENFJ Kelly Clarkson and ESFJ Dolly Parton were showing this beautiful blind girl serious extraverted feeling while singing to her. 😪❤️

[idiotslife]

As an isfp I've got to say...
One of the most brilliant people I have met is an esfj woman. Gosh she was an amazing teacher. That ti aspirational is no joke.

[angel]

Super useful! It is literally the life advice I want!

[grimmgangler]

Oof, it's always chilling to just be read like that, even though most of it is stuff you've said before. Thanks for another great video :]