“Would you date a trans woman?”

[six-winged-juni]

Same vibe as
"Would you date a short man?"
"No."
"Seems shallow"
"I'm a lesbian."

[AmiralXII]

The critical point is that he says "I don't think my wife would appreciate me dating any women." Because trans women are just women. Trans people are just people.

[seraphinasanil]

As a trans woman my first thought to the opening was, but your married. Its an honest wholesome answer.

[WigglyTuffStuff]

The question to ask back is, "Would a woman date YOU?" Too many men caught up on step 5, and they haven't made it past step 1

[EmberDRG]

I instantly thought you'd say no just cause you're married

[sharkladyindisguise]

The perks of being pansexual/panromantic: “would you date a trans person?”
“Idk are they cool?”
“What?”
“Look man the dangly bits don’t matter just tell me if they like dogs”

[saltypork]

It's such a toxic question, because there are plenty of reasons not to want to date trans women. Trans women aren't out here trying to date people who don't want to date them. No one would want to do that. (Actually, historically it's cis men who tend to court/marry people who don't want them, so maybe they're just projecting)

[beefairy]

My partner is a trans woman and I love her with all my heart

[scibear]

I'm gay and I had an acquaintance who was in transition, MtF. Come to find out later she was crushing on me. I tried to explain to her that I was gay and, while i was flattered, i was simply not attracted to women sexually. I explained that if she were a cis man there might have been a possibility (although tbh they werent really my type pre-transition, so i doubt anything would have come of it anyway, but you never know, right?). She kept pushing the issue and eventually said I was transphobic because I wasn't interested in her that way. That basically ruined our friendship.

Now, in reversal to the question: Would I, as a gay man, date a trans man? I would, if he was postsurgical, since he'd be meeting the physical requirements I have in order to respond physically. This isnt negotiable for me, as i simply wouldn't be able to perform otherwise. You get hot for the things that get you hot, and having these preferences doesn't make one shallow or phobic or whatever, and its wrong to weaponize these things when someone disagrees.

Obviously, a person's gender identity is irrelevant to me as to whether I'd want to be friends with them, as with race, religion, sex or other attributes that don't really matter. All I ask is that my friends are good people with good hearts.

[kitmakin]

Once again, as a trans person, I need to point out to the cis: A lot of us don't wanna date YOU. Many of us prefer to date fellow trans people because we can relate to each other on something fundamental to our experience that cis people can't.

[crazysasha]

Well fuck, that's about exactly the answer I was expecting.

[leavemealone]

I would Date anyone that has a fun personality and genuinely liked me.
Cis, Trans, no gender, all genders, I just want to love and be loved

[majortellandrus]

Again I half expected bro to just hold the ring on camera and let that speak for itself. Perfect opportunities keep happening

[SadisticMushroom]

You are such a genuine and beautiful soul and I respect you so much for the things you say, thank you

[robertnett]

Similiar situation - happily married, so not searching for a partner.
But really - there is only one situation where the conents of the spouses pants are important. And that's when you want to have children of your own.

Every other situation - romantic relationship, childless marriage, step-children - it's absolutely just a question of personal preference and nothing else.

And here - I value other things way higher, then what's in my spouses pants or what they want to have there.

[Josh-]

My answer is similar, given that I'm married to a woman that I've been in love with for 30 years at this point.
But if we make the presumption that I never met my wife, my answer is always "If I find the person attractive, of course I would date them. If I don't, then no."
The question is a stupid one. It focuses on WHAT the person is instead of WHO the person is.

[grandmabea]

As someone with a beautiful transgender granddaughter, it gives me hope to see people like you in this world. I hope she finds a man (or woman, or non-binary person) who is as kind and open as you. ❤

[sarahmcglasson]

The just, blank stare during the delay before “im married” absolutely sent me

[RennyBQUEEN]

I really needed this. You made my night. It’s been a tough week.

[Sulferlines]

I would date any person, to be honest I actually had a better time when dating trans men and trans women then cis men and cis women.

A lot of times when I was in an argument with a cis person the argument felt needlessly aggressive and repetitive, sometimes there wouldn't even be a reason to fight but we still argued, with me saying that I don't want to feed another argument and them arguing about what ever it is and pinning their anger on me.

With a lot of trans people when one of us was even slightly upset we'd just play video games and talk about the problem while playing, even things that are so serious that a relationship had to end were still resolved in a way that made the relationship end on a good note, I still talk to most of my trans ex and we hangout quite a lot, yeah there's always pain in a relationship but at least the pain me and my partners felt didn't become a tool to show who is suffering more or who was right.