Are Men REALLY Turned Off By Intelligent Women?? THE TRUTH! (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)

Are men turned off by smart women? Tell me what you think in the comments below...

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“Matt, is it true that men just aren’t attracted to smart women?”

Hmm... well...

It’s often believed that there is an unfair bias against those women with high IQs in dating. Women are attracted to smart men, they say, but guys feel threatened by women who challenge them too much in the brains department.

But is that stereotype actually true??

In this week’s blog video, I’m going to reveal the 100% honest answer based on my research on men and attraction. If you’re a smart person and have ever felt compelled to hide your knowledge from guys in conversation, then you REALLY need to hear this advice...

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[ekp-g]

I remember one really LIGHTBULB moment when a professor told the students in his class something that surprised me, but after he finished made so much sense...He told us that the best way to communicate effectively and keep the people you want to stay interested and engaged to what we are saying, is NOT to use big words or try and show superior word knowledge, but to speak to them in words they understand. He said speaking above their ability to understand, regardless of how extensive your word knowlege, does nothing if you are not being understood. Therefore...showing off word knowledge is pointless to listener if they tune out what you say because they don't understand you.

[arazo]

“If you’re leaving more people feeling inadequate and insecure around you, than feeling great around you, that’s because you’re unintelligent not intelligent.”

Spot on! 👏

[Chronochrome]

I've never been turned off by intelligent women, and in fact I prefer connecting with them. However, it's very easy to get turned off by a woman who is very arrogant or egotistical. It's okay to think you're smart, but it's not okay to think others are stupid and treat them as such.

[ThirdLittlePiggy]

“Knowledge is knowing that a tomato is a fruit, wisdom is not putting it in a fruit salad.”


― Miles Kington

[btdtpro]

I specifically find Intelligent women attractive.
If see a women who is gorgeous, and I go start a conversation with her, but she is not sharp, and knowledgeable on things I consider basic information, the attraction drops almost off the chart.
I can still tell she is physically beautiful, but honestly, beautiful women are not all that rare, I'd rather not waste my time with her, and instead spend that time looking for a beautiful, interesting, curious, well learned women; yes, they're harder to find, but I'd rather put in work for what I want, than settle for what's easy to find.

[hadilaliryani]

I do respect people who make others feel good about themselves

[ririjet]

I agree with what he says about being socially intelligent. it's very attractive because it shows you can take a personal interest in all types of people, even if they are very different from you. My husband says he was always intimidated by me because he could tell I was very smart, and he never even graduated high school. But what attracted me to him was his amazing ability to sympathize with people, his generosity towards them, and his genuine kindness and interest in them. Everyone loved him so much, and I completely fell in love too. Being smart is great, but the most important traits in humans, I believe, are the ones that make us feel safe and loved around them.

[TheBurgessNetwork]

Finally, a man who admits that some men are turned off by intelligent women. I agree with him, no one - men nor women - want to be around the academic intellectual or the sarcastic, fast-thinking comedian. But I personally get along with men, and men admit that I am a very smart person, but they are not sexually attracted to smart women. They pick the pretty, less smart women all the time. I always end up in the friend zone.

[xuxagirl]

I have a weird relationship with the idea of being intelligent... I consider myself a fairly curious and logical person, but for whatever reason, my speed of processing and responding to conversation can be a bit slower than average. It's especially frustrating when I'm with people who have no problem bulldozing right over me. I end up looking a lot less intelligent, a lot less engaged than I am, because I don't feel comfortable conversing at my own pace.

[heathermuffins]

I have met a few men who seemed turned off by my intelligence, which is cool because I'm turned off by men who don't like intelligent women. The vast majority of guys seem to appreciate a woman with a brain, especially now that I(and the guys I date) am in my early 30s.

[thelivingdripunal]

Intelligent people are likely to be less social than you think and less likely to feel happy in a relationship

[jacquelinewang]

I genuinely think it is not just a social intelligence problem. Showing ambition and voicing objections is enough to intimidate many guys. When I engage in conversation, I hope to deliver things that will help each other, and sometimes, this includes some points that no one brings up or a new perspective—sometimes, this does make guys in the group look less ambitious or not thinking deep. I look at everyone with the most friendly eye contact and nod and respond to great points with a genuine smile, so much that it drys up my energy as a somewhat introverted person after a 60/90 min session of discussion/networking. I WON'T SAY THIS IS ME LACKING SOCIAL INTELLIGENCE because accommodating everyone at all times is simply not good for mental health. BEING HUMBLE AND APPRECIATIVE DOES NOT EQUAL HIDING REAL THOUGHTS AND FAKING SHALLOW. Just some of my thoughts.

[nothingnowhere]

matthew, you always bring something original and unexpected to your videos.

[anony]

My man always gets turned on if I win some argument with him when we discuss history, politics, philosophy or science. Haha ...

[mobydick]

That's sooo me!! I tend to feel attracted towards intelligent people only!! I think when I'm looking for a guy, I look for his brains, not his goodlooks. And that's a problem I have with, for example, picking guys at bars. Most of my girlfriends are also very intelligent, but they are not only attracted to intelligence. I am one of those people who is. My specific taste in men oftentimes hinders possible romantic relationships that could work out well. Am I sounding like a pompous academic right now?

[allisonmerlos]

my cousin is always asking "why do you use big words, i never know what they mean" and i assume that by using context clues she figures out what im trying to say and i continue, i dont mean to use big words, they are just in my vocabulary. Another time, i was talking to my sister, i like to spit out "fun facts" when its relevant, and i was telling her about the way a fingernail grows and she says to me "youre saying that because you think i didnt know that, why do you always want to make me look dumb in front of everyone" and i could tell she felt hurt and i tried explaining that i wasnt trying to make her look dumb it was just a fun fact but she argued that i was trying to make myself look more superior. I never knew people felt that way when i would do that or would talk about something i knew alot of facts about :/

[aidazeff]

Matt, thank you for nailing it. A smaller group of people....I never looked at it that way. I get frustrated by those around me but I also must increase my social circle to increase my chances. Incredibly simple but the truth. Sending this out to friends. Bravo!

[teresareviewsitall]

a lot of people with a high vocabulary just don't realize how many words they are using that others don't know, because they seem these words as normal. They are after all found on television and anything you read. It's hard to know which words people are having trouble with when they don't say anything.Your examples are extreme, "quoting Proust vs talking about family guy." It's a lot more subtle than that.
The people I have observed to be the most "socially intelligent" are people who have such a vast knowledge of topics that they are able to talk to find common ground with most people, so memory and interests/knowledge is a huge influencer on your social ability, which I'd say this is social ability not social intelligence. Social ability and social intelligence are different. As a socially intelligent person you can be aware of indicators of what is/isn't appropriate, but it doesn't mean you have the reservoir to be able to connect with someone, this would be social ability.

[helenahayes]

They certainly back off from lawyers. Something I didnt think about when I started law school.

[toscadonna]

I passed Jumpmaster School the first time, and my husband didn't. That was pretty much the beginning of the end of our marriage. He could not deal with it. Of course, I studied and practiced a lot more than he did, and that's the big reason I passed, but that's beside the point. I'd have a problem at work, talk about it, and he'd scream at me about how wrong I was. Then he'd tell me (after I'd start crying) that he was just jealous of me b/c I was a better officer than he was at my age. I could not win. Anything that made me stand out--volleyball, singing, intelligence, cooking, etc. was denigrated by him at all times. I could not be low enough for him, and he was a high ranking Army officer with an engineering degree. So if he didn't like a smart woman, then I don't know who will.