122. How To Be More Confident and Calm in Your Communication: Managing the 'ABC’s' of...

Research-backed techniques on how to beat nervousness in the moment.

In this episode, Matt uses clips from experts from previous TFTS episodes to provide you with several communication anxiety management techniques to help you feel more comfortable and confident when you communicate. And as a guide to help us learn these techniques, he introduces the ABCs of anxiety management.

(00:00) Intro: the ABC's of anxiety management

(02:23) Christian Wheeler: Get comfortable being uncomfortable

(03:38) Kelly McGonigal: Anxiety is a sign you care

(04:50) Andrew Huberman: Using breath to help quell anxiety

(06:51) Jeffrey Pfeffer: Warming up right before a communication challenge

(08:22) Alia Crum: Understanding that stress can be good for us

(10:12) Alison Wood Brooks: Reframing our mindset

(12:01) Anxiety Management Plan: Matt shares instructions on how to make your own “AMP” so you can communicate at your best.

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[davidr]

Excellent topic. The best speech confidence/performance advice I received in the past are
1. Over prepare if necessary for your speech. There is no failure in writing notes or your entire speech out.
2. Watch great speakers on YouTube and image you are them. Possibly copy their hand, body and head movements.
3. Have full concentration when you speak. Try to reach that level of focus that those telekinesis or mentalist do when they bend spoons. Get in the zone.
4. Speak slower. Great speakers may speak fast one on one, but to large groups they speak slow.
5. Always smile.
6. Get your audience to participate in your speech.
7. Try to be comfortable and loose. If you seem nervous and uptight, the audience will never enjoy your speech.
8. Have some visuals
9. Just know that people care less what you are saying.
10. If you are blessed with ability to be humorous, then use it appropriately and with tact to know who your audience is.
11. Keep on practicing. The more you speak in groups the better you become.
12. Go into every speech imaging you are the greatest speaking with the world.

[VictorBrunko]

Confidence is key to effective communication. * Anxiety is a common barrier to confident * The "ABCS" of anxiety management are:
**A**ffective (feelings and responses)
*B**ehavioral (physical symptoms) ***C**ognitive (merntal processes) * Techniques to manage anxiety include: * Acknowledging and reframing negative thoughts
* Seeing anxiety as a signal that you care * Practicing deep breathing * Using physical warm-ups * Adopting a mindset that stress can be enhancing
* By managing anxiety, you can become more confident and effective in your communication.

[zoy]

Being anxious during speaking especially front people is the most difficult thing all we suffer from but after knowing . FEELINGS ANXIETY IS MORE THAN A NORMAL THING DURING SPEAKING we feel more comfortable ❤❤❤❤ thank you so much for this wonderful episode❤❤❤❤

[letsRegulateSociopaths]

The best technique I have found is to actually in your head say what you will say just before it comes out of your mouth. It regulates everything very nicely.

[dharamindia]

This is a gem. Anxiety is real and scientific approaches help

[jiapusun]

can you please change the color of the cover image？ it's so difficult to tell I‘ve watched this video or not. Thx.

[Cardioclin]

Good episode and excellent podcast, "Think Faster, Talk Smart." I believe that stressful situations present challenges for everybody and provide an opportunity to demonstrate emotional intelligence, which is the most important quality we possess. When anxiety arises, I think of positive aspects.

[MathsHorizon]

Experience is the key . Speak out, it's ok to feel the anxiety . Gradually over time things will change to the better, trust me.

[prashantsaini]

Best advice ever given within this video, beautifully curated on the subject to lower the anxiety, this is going to help us a lots. We can also make communication effective by taking the short pauses while addresses large audiences to avert some anxiety to be clear more before start to the next statement, this would attenuate the fast running nerves to control and come on the same momentum with add on more energies and it could be prove great when use effectively.

[samukelonkosi]

Great episode. I’ve struggled with confidence communication. I’m definitely going to use the insights shared to create my anxiety management plan for better communication.

[banderalkharmi]

Many thanks Abrahams, it's really helpful

[clementgavi]

Yes. Think fast, think smart. I added think ethical.

[vuxuanhuy]

I wish I can listen understand video but current I cannt haizz😢

[johannmuster]

Rule number one: don`t waste 2:30 min. to tell people what you going to tell them. it`s 2024