'It was time': Thai man who kept wife's body at home for 21 years comes to terms with her death

BANGKOK - 72-year-old former medic tells The Straits Times of his love for his late wife, and why he found it hard to let go of her remains - until now.

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[steadicamstudio]

my son passed away at the age of 3. I kept on visiting his grave for allmost a year every evening after work..I understand how this guy felt

[jenniferkharkongor]

Most widowed husband in my place couldn't even wait for two years for another marriage. I have to say this man's love for his wife is admirable .

[SS-iwnq]

Though keeping a deceased loved one's body for 21 years isn't the norm, I can't judge him for his decision. This past Thursday was the 28th anniversary of my late Mom's passing. I was 14 years old (I'll be 42 yrs old in Dec). My late Mom passed when she was 44 years old. Even after 28 years, my heart is empty. May this man find peace and comfort in the next chapter of his life since he laid his wife to rest.

[crumsthegoldencake]

Perfectly understandable. His wife was his soul mate. He loved her. Very educated guy from top University in Thailand. He could have placed a memorial of his wife with all the photos, if he missed her. Perfect love story!

[csim]

‘I feel she is still alive in my feelings’ - these are words from a very sentimental, emotional and loving man who really treasures not only his late wife but their times together as well.

It’s hard to find or come to know these days.

[cicitran]

HIS LOVE FOR HER IS DEEPER THAN THE PHYSICAL BODY AND NO ONE CAN'T UNDERSTAND...."TO FREE YOUR DEEPEST PAIN...YOU HAVE TO LET HER GO FINALLY..." OMG 😬😭🙌

[darkwinter]

I literally crying!!! Yes I can understand the reason why he kept her body for so long. Both of them are so lucky to have each other in their life.

[katherinedorton]

wow. as a medic im sure he understands the stages of decomposition. this is surreal that he kept her with him all this time. bless his heart.

[ttdays]

Sudden deaths like this are the worst, I lost my highschool friend to a brain aneurysm a year after we graduated. Seeing her parents at the funeral sobbing and just hugging all of us ( her classmates) and trying to comfort us through their tears . I didnt even know what to say to her mom, this girl was so special it was a loss that wouldnt be consoleable so I just gave her mom my friends favourite flower ( red Rose's) and gave her a hug. They kept all her socials up so we could message her account to vent our emotions even if we knew she could never respond. :, ( hold those you love dear because when they are gone they are gone for good, I regret not making more time to really go out and meet with her after I left our school :(

[rbyfheq]

As someone that lost their wife 7 1/2 yrs ago, I can understand his emotional attachment. My wife changed how I looked at life. She made me into a calm person. Everyday I make time to think of her. I smell her in the air and her her voice in the soft breeze. We didn’t have enough time to have children. I don’t regret it, but it would have been nice. Her passing makes me not fear or worry about my own mortality. When I pass on, the energy in the universe will bring us together again in some form. That I am sure.

[andafterallthistime]

This is very sweet. He speaks of her in such a respectful way J can feel his pain. There are some with energy that feels very wrong but his is pure. To love is to love deeply & your partner becomes the other half of you. I hope he finds peace. He has loved her so deeply it has come around the world. I am in Canada - that speaks volumes.

[Picachki]

When you loose someone you love that you spoke to everyday, the sudden silence is deafening. You begin to forget the best parts of them, fearing their image leaving your mind, their laugh leaving your memories. It’s a gradual process but it’s so painful. I understand why he held on. I bet she’s waiting for him on the other side, ready to care for his wounds once again.

[lillyxiong]

My son was murdered, I opened up the album my kids printed out for me. I see him in his casket and I put my hands on it and cried. In my culture that's a no no it's a taboo but, I'm not afraid because my son never scared me❤️

[lydiat]

True love, can't let go is the greatest pain of all.

[reddykanta]

He has so much love for his wife….His wife must be looking down from Heaven and thinking how blessed she was to have such a loving and amazing husband.

[jeffreyzain]

SOMEONE ASKED: ‘WHERE CAN I FIND A COMPANION LIKE THIS?’ LIFE PARTNERS DON’T BECOME ATTACHED AND SENTIMENTAL ABRUPTLY. I BELIEVE IT WAS MUTUAL RESPECT AND UNDERSTANDING THAT CEMENTED THEIR LOVE FOR EACH OTHER, EVEN AFTER HER DEATH. AND THE MOST PAINFUL PART ABOUT GRIEF IS TO THINK THAT YOU’RE OKAY AND HAVE MOVED ON, AND SUDDENLY YOU REALISE YOU WILL NEVER EVER GET THE CHANCE TO TALK TO THEM AGAIN. THAT REALISATION IS THE PINNACLE OF YOUR GRIEF...

[adventurec]

Where can I find such devotion at this day and age?

[TrueColorsss]

This was a truly touching story of his deep love and devotion to his wife. I hope that he has found peace and closure now.

[helgageraldine]

I understand this man completely. I lost my brother last year, it was also sudden. The moment I found out he was dead, the thought of never seeing him again, at least in this lifetime, was what really broke me. Losing a loved one is tough. To those people who are criticizing this man for what he did, either never experienced losing a loved one or never loved someone that deep to understand how it really feels. Each of us deals with grief differently. He did it in his own terms and in his own time. What's important is that he moved on.