Emily and I have Split Up. Please Give Me a Hand

Some monthis ago Emily and I seperated. Life goes on.

This is my first Adventrue Log in quite a while and I talk about what happened, what I've been up to, and where I'm going.

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[ericturner]

Sorry to hear you guys split up. Seems to be the way things usually go nowadays; most people I know have been through a breakup or divorce of one or more long-term relationships. My personal experience is that it takes me at least a year to get over it, so give yourself time and be kind to yourself. You aren't alone, and we're rooting for you!

[AidanWeatherill]

Nine year relationships are not 'gotten over' in a few weeks or months! Strength to you (and her) for your new adventures! Be kind to yourself!

[ziprun]

I was hoping your title was clickbait, but alas...it wasn't. Sorry to hear; you two made an amazing channel. Look forward to whatever new content you bring us with life's change.

[liveaboardcruisers]

Of all the names mentioned so far, I love “Clark’s Temptress”! It can go so many ways: 1) Literally, she’s your vessel; 2) Your future partner(s); 3) Your various entrepreneurial ideas/ventures.

Good luck landing on your feet again. I’ve always applied the “one year rule” to my personal traumatic events. That is, after the distance from a key event afforded by one year, one almost ALWAYS can look back and, with gratitude, understand exactly why that event was perfect for your future outcome. In my experience, this especially applies to break-ups. No matter how heartbroken I’ve been in the moment, there hasn’t been a single break-up I don’t see as a blessing, now. It’s opened doors to new relationships, new opportunities, and new happiness. It leaves no room for being a victim. I wish the same for you, Clark.

[MikeScott]

I’m so sorry Clark to hear you two split up. While we love Temptress (such an awesome boat) the channel has never been just about Temptress, it’s been about you, your life and your adventures as well as your generous sharing of your valuable knowledge. “Sailing Temptress” as the channel name in my opinion doesn’t do it justice. As others have said, you said it in the beginning of every video “Clark on Temptress” is the most fitting I think. However “Clarks Adventures” works too. But I think it’s important to be “Clarks”.

I’m really looking forward to the coming Greece adventure. It’s been a bucket list place to sail for me!

[jeffh]

Gotta give you props for your 2nd help request being so public. Wish I was able to do that. I'm a bit like you, I love going places, but it seems like a joy multiplier to have someone along with.

[nathanlake]

You already said it - "It's Clark on Temptress"

[steveburke]

I went thru the same thing 6 yrs ago. Your're certainly not alone in this. I had good close friends and my (adult) kids to help me get past the first 6 months. After that I was pretty good. Moved permanently to Mexico. I date also, but tbh not much interested in a long-term relationship. I have discovered I love a drama free, single life. Honestly? I'd recommend you stay single for at least a year...get to know yourself. Lost my sailboat to the divorce...currently looking for another in Mexico.
Best of luck to you.

"Clark's Adventure" probably makes the most sense.

[stevehansen]

Don't rush into a new relationship.

[Equivocal-squiggle]

I work at a hotel and often make connections with guests. Sometimes they're just passing through, and sometimes they stay for a while. I get to hear lots of different life experiences and stories. Many people will just tell me what is going on in their life, kind of like a mini therapy session.

I can tell you this, wanting to be loved is universal. For a long time I felt ashamed for wanting to be loved and married, especially because I could not seem to find anyone who wanted that with me. Was I broken?

No, it just takes time and yes, it's absolutely hard to be alone sometimes. Sometimes being alone doesn't feel freeing, it feels... well, alone. For me, I let my mind spiral and can end up in some pretty low places.

Some thoughts for you:
- It's okay to have waves of grief
- It's okay to feel whatever feelings you feel
- I find a lot of solace in being out in the community, volunteering, going to lectures, hell sometimes I just walk around the grocery store to feel like I had some human contact.
- Be careful with your heart. You deserve to be loved well. Its hard to know how to protect your heart and allow someone in simultaneously...its something I'm still trying to figure out.

I'm a fan of Embark With Clark

Much love your way.

[ralphnolletti]

I’m sorry to hear that Clark. As someone that’s been where you are now I feel your pain. I’m wanting your AC system for my camper. PLEASE keep us informed.

[valmikabeneteau]

I'm sorry you going through this but it will pass as they say. I know it's strange to say but thank you for the title not being clickbait. There are so many other sailing channels that do that. You are refreshing and honest and appreciated.

[DunRovinRanch-]

Sorry to hear this. To be honest I had also left your channel about 2 years ago. You originally said the channel was about sailing the world, then you got stuck in luperon for about 3-4 years it seems. Anyway, sad Emily is gone. Maybe now you’ll scrape the barnacles off your hull and get traveling again. You don’t need a woman to go exploring, you might meet her on your way. Drop the lines and go.

[theresedignard]

So sorry to hear you two split. You were a great team. Sending healing light to you both. ❤

[janots]

"Clarks adventures"is good as it is! Enjoy Sweden 🇸🇪 (left it for 🇺🇸 at 20 years of age). The west coast is awesome and east coast too, but I'm biased being from the west coast of Sweden. Thanks for making sense of electricity. And other topics.

[nodogrunner]

After thinking about it for a while I feel like your strength is in meeting people and fixing their problems, like "This Ol House" for boats. You show up on oyur dingy with a bag of tools and you tell the story of helping people fix their problems with their boat.

[djkillachris]

you're free! enjoy it. lots of people are leaving at this time, also lots of partnerships ending. keep the faith and know that everything is perfect. "don't cry cause its over, smile because it was", took me a year to get that after my partner left me. good luck!

[svZia-Switch]

Wow, I didn’t see that one coming. I remember when you guys were working the Georgetown Cruiser Net several years ago. Best if luck to you both!

[bruceandonian]

Keep being positive Clark! We love your videos, keep them coming.

[michaelhicks]

I was about to post "Stop the click bait"
Sadly, it wasn't.
It is hard to separate from someone who has been an integral part of one's life.
Wishing you both healing and to find happiness again.