I Am Always Stuck in My Own Head

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00:00 - Preview
00:14 - Discord Post
02:30 - Introduction
05:39 - Analysis paralysis
09:24 - IQ/EQ imbalance
11:34 - Emotional needs
17:17 - Reflective listening
22:08 - Summary
25:31 - Meditation

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[julianabv]

The fact that I kept thinking "BUT HOW DO I FIX IT I NEED TO BE PRODUCTIVE" really says a lot about how much I needed this

[dreambrush]

When I hear "learn that failure is part of the process" I get so mindblown in those moments. As kids, the school and parents teach us that anything that is not top grade is a failure so you're basically instilled since childhood that to fail is not acceptable but then you get to adulthood and you're told that it's ok to make mistakes and it's part of the process, after all your life being told that if you fail, you're a loser for life. Honestly I wish society wouldn't be this hard on us.

[sen_moyo]

WHY DOES HIS CONTENT ALWAYS HAVE SUCH IMPECCABLE TIMING WITH MY LIFE?!

[tharmir]

This hit too close to home. Cried like a baby during the meditation, but im feeling a lot lighter now, thank you very much Dr.K.

[mrblok]

Takeaways:
→ Embracing your emotion is not the same as analyzing your emotions and coming up with solutions. → Unmet emotional needs bring about negative emotions.
→ Reflective listening decompresses the emotional energy (where is this coming from?, what can I avoid thinking about through it?).
→ Accept that you may feel it for the rest of your life and it’s alright cause that leads you to lower the emotional energy.

[matchasgotcha]

I feel like I'm not the only one in my head, Dr K is apparently there too 💀

[DeniseSkidmore]

One thing that helped me with analysis paralysis was the book ”Paradox of Choice”. Optimizing every decision is itself not an optimal strategy. 90% of the time you're better off picking any answer and moving forward instead of waiting for the perfect answer. You can answer more questions in the same time that way.

[RiddlerSR]

The meditation brought me to tears. I feel like I haven't given myself any love for as long as I remember. I constantly try to fix myself and right my wrongs only to feel like I come up short each time. But while listening to this meditation I started to cry, because I felt compassion for myself, I felt empathetic toward my own struggles and I couldn't help but cry in the comfort of my own love like it was the warm embrace of a caring parent or sibling. I let it out and I feel much lighter. Thank you Dr. K

[boryspikalov]

The meditation was so moving because of extreme compassion in Dr K’s voice. I don’t remember anyone speaking to me like that. Even my wife or parents who deeply love me. It’s just magical.

[SultanRayko]

"We're a robot pretending to be a Human"
Incredible that was pretty much EXACTLY my choice of words while thinking about that

[exe]

Dr. K killed me with that meditation today. We're going to be okay fam

[Balloonbot]

Im only starting to understand actual acceptance of emotion now at 31 after years of trying to remove them from myself. I realised now rather than looking for a solution it feels best to notice my resistance, because its that resistance that's truly my source of suffering rather than the actual emotion. Ever listened to a sad song or watched a sad movie or been scared by a horror movie and its felt rather cathartic? Thats emotion without resistance and why emotionally charged media (if made correctly) is always so acclaimed. The constant overthinking is just another way to escape, and you dont even need to meditate to realise "ah im running again".

I also think "feeling sorry for yourself" is grossly miscategorised as something bad. Feeling that emotion and knowing there's a 100% valid reason for it being there, and that you went through something painful is so important to actually healing.

[jacobpinard]

I’ve been working to conquer my overthinking and have been making a lot of progress but I didn’t even realize I was processing emotions cognitively, I haven’t truly “felt” emotions since middle school after I numbed myself from the social anxiety I was feeling due to switching schools. I had forgotten what emotions really were, I knew how to react in certain situations and what the normal responses were, but any time I said how I felt, I never actually felt it “in mah bones” per sé. I let myself cry today for the first time in ten(ish) years and it feels amazing, thank you.

[leonardoandresvetencourtp]

I was always viewed as a smart kid, my parents always expected me to do excellent on everything, and I tried as best as I could. But I inevitably failed and made mistakes along the way, and my parents taught me that I could always be better; ever since I've carried the identity of being not good enough. What my parents never taught me was to feel my emotions or how to value myself. That's why I couldn't help but crying my heart out when I heard Dr. K saying that I could have compassion for myself.

I realized how much I was suffering, how much I felt like I was inferior to others, and how much I was hurting because of that. Don't know if anybody will read this but for those with a situation like mine I want to tell you: you're golden, just as you are, you deserve love from others, even from yourself and there is hope, hang in there, stay strong, and take care.

[ryancxe]

A lot of the time in situations like these we know what the ‘right’ way of thinking is but there is something else preventing us from being in a state where we are capable of that way of thinking. So when someone says ‘just don’t be hard on yourself bro’ they don’t really understand the struggle that some people have to go through to overcome that.

[EdoDave]

This may be the first time a Dr K video has brought me to tears. The discussion felt like he was talking about me, and the meditation seems like exactly what I need.
I've found my solution, guys!

[nierhana]

I love this video so much. its literally allowed me to figure out exactly why I've felt stuck in an extremely anxious rut for around 2 years now, I was constantly alerted to my anxious feelings and trying to solve it cognitively. and because I couldn't I got so scared of it and felt dread constantly. now I am starting to learn how to let it be and just feel the emotion, it makes so much sense

[Jiggymaru]

THIS IS THE GREATEST HG VIDEO DROPPED TO DATE. Thank you Dr. K and everyone who makes this channel possible. You are doing an incredible service.

[tira]

I couldn't do the meditation properly because I was bawling the whole time. But I suppose that was probably helpful in its own right. Definitely needed this content today.

[heyyfirefly]

I was bawling my eyes out during the whole meditation. No one was ever this compassionate and validating and kind with me my whole life. Thank you so very much for your videos, they help my busted ass a lot to be able to function ❤