Stop Asking Women On Dates! Do This Instead

If you're having challenges with getting a girl to go out on a date, then you're probably asking her the way most guys do, by asking and then waiting for her to say yes or no. So here's another way to ask that makes you look confident and increase the chances that she'll say yes.

[joshlab]

I concur with this message. I would point out that every guy needs to develop a sense of humor. Women love guys who can make them laugh and to break that nervous mentality when approaching is to not care. When you don't care about the response you have the freedom to be yourself and it comes off as confidence. The girl you like says no, who cares, there's others.

[phantompinoy]

Just have a conversation that’s good and you sound confident and if she’s interested say something like, “ Hey let’s grab a drink this weekend are you interested?”

[seandalleno]

Absolutely true. Did this last night and then saw this video this morning I said, “ in anticipation of our upcoming date, I’d like to know if you like Mexican food or want steaks…” Never done that before. And she responded so positively and said she’d love to go on a date with me. What a trip(p)!
I’ll vouch for this approach, hands on.

[stanleykachuik]

I busted a hottie checking out my motorcycle as I was walking up to it the other day. She said she wanted to ride one someday. I told her I have an extra helmet so today's the day. We spent the next couple of days together. Spontaneity is key. Shock her first I always say!

[BGIANAKy]

First thing I’ve said to women is, “you and I must go on a date.” And that has worked most. Some will be playful about it and conversation flows.

[yoyoyo]

Uh no. I did this technique that you’re talking about. It got me a friend zoned and she said she had a boyfriend (prob not). I said “I have you in my contacts under (her name), all I need is your number“. She put in her number. I suggested (didn’t ask her) as she was putting in her number “we’ll grab a drink sometime“. She automatically said defensively I have a boyfriend. After texting her a couple times I found out she felt like that she was too easy in agreeing and therefore felt cheap and low value. Why? She wanted me too ASK her out not EXPECT her to go out.

[milesdoodling]

I mostly agree with this however I will add that you need to make it clear that you are taking her on a DATE not to hangout. There are so many awkward situations out there where guys think they're on a date but the girl things they're just hanging out as friends, then when he makes a move he gets rejected and the classic 'I thought we were just friends' line.

[varsa]

This tip actually works. If you brainwash yourself into thinking you're the most amazing guy in the world(works better if it has some truth to it) and always speak your mind, women will naturally be drawn to you and almost never reject you. Up until 2020s social isolation messed with my confidence and conversation skill, I never got turned down by a woman with this very mindset. I'm actually amazed someone else figured that out

[ryandeffley]

"When are you free" is a waste of time. If you link to her schedule, then she's going to see the time as hers. So on a subconscious level she will feel justified in being able to change her mind.

You have to communicate your time is a valued commodity and scarce. So if she wants to see you, she has to commit to showing up when you're able. The subtle difference is that if she cancels, she's a flake for wasting your time.

With apps giving women so many options now, you have to give a compliance test to gauge real interest. If a woman is genuinely interested she will adapt to your schedule and not want to be seen as the flaky type.

[mmneander]

02:40 "You're finding the time when she is free and available". The yt channel "Darius M" says on this point that this "finding" shouldn't be an extensive dialogue, but instead that you should present her with two options for a date&time (that you've chosen, and which are no more than 1 week distant from now). And then if she rejects both options he says that you can conclude immediately from that that she's not interested (so then you immediately dump her completely and spend no more time on her, and go fishing in other waters).

[clem]

As this video was playing, i used your sentence on a tinder girl that i was talking to. Date scored for saturday. It works boys !

[fancycanuck]

agree 100% spot on, the same mindset of a successful sales person.

[florian]

you can invite her, for excample:
i'm going at x bar or restaurant at 7pm, you are invited....

[supercoolmunkee]

My last few dating matches did not go well. However, this is my fourth match and we've been mostly doing lunches and dinner dates together. We haven't done any sort of activities that would involve an intimate relationship such as dancing, hugging, cuddling, and kissing yet. What's funny is this approach has worked well so far for her because she is taking the "warm up to me" approach vs the "quick and intimate" approach on first dates like most of my previous matches. Also, our chemistry is slowly building up so I am too warming up to her as well. I hope we both eventually see our true colors in time.

[nathanclark]

Confidence, humor and being healthy and fit all help. But at the end of the day, it’s a numbers game. Hard to go on dates you never asked out. If they are into you, doesn’t really matter how you ask. Some women are turned off by assumed entitlements or expectations, even when tactfully confident. Some women love allowing a genuinely confident man to have control and are excited by it. But there is no faking confidence and people see right through you when you fake it. You either have it or you don’t. And some women are attracted to shy and nervous guys because they are often easier to control and keep loyal. It’s really a crap shoot and a numbers game. So like dude said, get to know someone with conversation and then make your best move. Some will and some won’t. So what.

[jcman-lplg]

you know I had that mindset too and then I kept watching those X signs a girl likes you and it began to give me doubts. Now, I've stopped watching those videos and am gonna try to ask the girl I'm interested out the next time I get to be alone with her.

[DuckSeason]

Interesting. Running is a great way to get confidence about your abilities.

[jacobpryor]

I'm 22. I've never had a girlfriend. I have cerbreal palsy in my legs so my walking is very odd. I was wondering how I could go forth with dating and relationships knowing that my disability will always be apart of me. I Was diagnosed when I was little and have struggled to walk. I do manage to walk but it's very strange. When I walk into a room all eyes are on me just becuaue of how I walk. Can i get your help?

[robvlogx]

Before I searched this on YouTube, I already have this idea on my mind. This dude just made it crystal clear and this is not that hard!
I'll update here what happened after I took the courage to ask her out😅

[ashleyr]

As a female I would say yes just the way he asked regardless if I'm attracted to the guy or not, but what would the guy have to do during that date so he don't end up in the friendzone??