A letter to my 20 year old self

Lost, insecure, and a massive people pleaser- these are the things I'd go back and tell my 20 year old self (as an almost-30 year old)

chapters
00:00 intro
00:49 it’s ok to be lost
01:16 you won’t always get your way
01:36 stop worrying about everything
01:47 don’t act confident
02:13 it’s ok to be alone
02:42 stand up for yourself
03:01 be picky
03:50 stop trying to be enough
04:29 love yourself first
04:38 stop seeking external validation
04:49 don’t worry if you’re not doing what everyone else is doing
05:30 don't rush
05:50 everyone has a struggle
06:18 you won’t always be right
06:27 take responsibility for your life
06:43 don't let the opinions of others dictate what you do
07:14 Stop asking every single person for advice
07:31 save some money
08:00 family & your biggest regret
08:17 move
08:32 avoid drama
08:52 one more thing

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Hi, I'm Akta :) I'm trying to find more meaning in my relationships, work, and life in general, because I think there's more to it than what society tells us. I try to approach things in a less overwhelming way, because I think there's already so much pressure on us from society.

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[sokargo]

Such a healing speech! I’m nearly on my 20s and I am feeling like I failed because I compare other people’s lives, while I’m still trying to figure out things. I should stop taking advice from other people as well.

[legallybrunettemee]

This woman is A BLESSING. She inspired me to have my YouTube channel about feminine energy and self-development, AND I GOT 27k VIEWS. All thanks to her! I just stopped fearing and started to go forward

[srujanabs]

I'm 22 and this video is connecting so well with me. It's like you are sitting in front of me and telling me 🥰 Much love

[annaspeaks]

This was so cute actual conversation with older sister, I am only child in my family and dreamed about older sister a lot. Thanks for this feelings😊

[seemranhoro]

Stop trying to be enough for everyone this hits me because recently i realised i was people pleasing and ignoring my needs and my values. I'm 21 and getting this advice early on is such a blessing ❤️❤️

[zarathompson]

Hey I just wanted to say I really needed to hear this ❤I’m 21 and have been having a bit of a crisis over what I wanna do and just feeling insecure generally. This has helped put things in perspective so thank you!

[mayowarocks]

i’m not even 20 yet but this video is going to be of help to me in future. 💗

thanks luv

[mrnerd]

I am 20 years is good but every other 20 year old in the surrounding vicinity is competitive....sometimes It is tough to compete and manage your top rank specially as a Medical Student....being alone is something that I am used to less people are there whose wavelength matches with are far from sight

[michaelly]

In 2 months i‘ll turn 22. Thank you for your wonderful tips which helps me to grow my mindset in the next couple of years. ☺️

[leila_axo]

This video feels like a warm hug, , I’m going into my 20s and this advice rlly connected w me!

[michaelbauer]

Thank you, Akta. I'm turning 20 in 3 months and I think that this Video will help me to get trough my 20s

[yurydmorales]

thank you lots, much love from Dominican republic♥️

[EnjoyMoto]

Hi there. I think I went through similar stages as you and came to similar conclusions. I was able to "calm down" and start living only at 29. Now I am 30, but unfortunately the war has started in my country (Ukraine). Imagine that all my wisdom, all my fears, all my experiences in life no longer made sense. Now all I need is to survive the war. What do I mean? I'm just trying to say that I "envy" the new generation who will be able to learn to "start" life earlier, not in their "One day" like I did. Because when I was young and lost, I didn't have access to great videos like yours. Friends, learn to live today and enjoy today. Not tomorrow. Not in a year. Because tomorrow may never come.

[VN-qmqy]

I'm Happy but Sometimes I wish there was someone whom I could talk to and cry in front of them without any embarrassment. 💔

[Janicesaheed]

Yes this is what I talked about on my social media, being “confident” (fake it till you make it, wont get the happiness, success you desire (you define success) being honest with yourself will get you further.

[oceancrawley]

l learned a lot from your cute video!! ❤i will continuing to support your channel this year too~
much love from Japan🥰

[shajanthan]

Your videos always helped me so much. They helped me through my loneliness and through heartbreak. They are far and away the best videos on YouTube . I can't thank you enough for that ! Also I'm really curious about the books you read that make you think and challenged your opinions. I read the book "the courage to be disliked" and I discovered the sequel "the courage to be happy" thanks to reading the first book. When other youtubers recommend books like that, or make summaries of the book, I never wanted to buy those books because idk. But you frame your phrases and make videos in such a way, that we see the real value of those books. You got me into reading btw. So I was curious as to what books/podcast/ideas challenged your views and opinions and made you come up with ideas like the dart system. Ideas that supplemented your journaling/analysing process that made you go through your 20s.

Love from France!

[slothape]

Im nearing the end of my 20's and I realised that I did things to be popular that were bad for me.

[athenap]

akta thank you so much for your videos🥺🤎☁️🌱✨ you have helped me grow so much and you sincerely are making a positive impact. i’m 22 and you’re like a older sister to me thank you for your wisdom and reminding me that it’s okay to not have it all figured out and that we are each on our own paths navigating our 20s. thank you for being and continuing to be a big part of my healing journey sending so much love your way from california🤗❤️

[victorhugoalvarez]

Thank you Akta, Im currently 21 and I want to thank you for talking to us about your personal experience.

I wish you a prosperous end of the year and may Allah bless your future endeavors! <3