Why Friends Leave Us - Changes in Friendship

Friends with whom we have walked our whole lives together, at some point, turn to their own path, intended for them alone. Usual meetings become rare, and lumps of nostalgia increase with every year. So, what happens to our friendships which originated in the school years?

p.s. You know those reasons well. Who am I trying to trick here?

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#friends #people #adulthood #nostalgia #bonyright

[noaccount]

All these friendships lost... Like tears in rain. Nothing sadder than logging back on and seeing the last messages your friends left, messages you never got the chance to reply to

[AriesMoonTarot]

I’m such a for lifer with anyone I let into my life I find it so hard to lose friends. It’s so rare that I let people in so when I do I don’t expect them to leave lol

[spitspttv]

All my friends are married/left and im just left alone and battling with bills consuming me and no "friends" to talk to about life or just conman interests. I buy all my friends random gifts to show my appreciation and find myself just never getting a thank you much less something in return. Sometimes I wish my life would end or have some importance in it. If anyone has kids or family members needing clothes or gifts on bday or holidays id love to be the internet uncle 😭 id just really like to be included and appreciated

[bobchannell]

Your friends make these same decisions. You don't do this by yourself. The demands of making a living leaves insufficient time for friends. Most men barely have time and energy even for family once they get home after a days work.

[zazopink]

Remember two things:
1. Roles are constantly changing. A relationship is not always 50/50. There are seasons when your friend will be busier than you and viceversa. A healthy relationship requires trust during such seasons. I trust that you love me the same, but you have several inflexible responsibilities to attend to at the moment.
2. Value yourself. If you find that you continually give more in a relationship even with changing seasons (school, summer, work, time off), consider giving less. If your not their priority, then they shouldn’t be yours. Consider if the relationship is serious enough to have a conversation about the way your feeling. If this friend is someone you simply have fun with, it may be best to casually withdraw and contact them when your ready for a fun time (viceversa). If you feel a conversation is needed (perhaps because they’ve been a part of your life for a long time or you desire something deeper), the conversation doesn’t necessarily need to turn into a “fight” or long lecture. Simply state how your feeling in two to three sentences.

[tolbqwm]

This video helped me a lot. Thank you ❤

[besreal]

Maybe true for some places or in the past, but for us city dwellers, outdoors has homeless, trafficers and drug pushers, who would all love to take advantage of our kids. So our kids weren't allowed outside the back yard and what few neighbor kids there were; you don't want your kids playing with them after about the age of 7 because they quickly pick up the bad habits of their parents which includes smoking, drug abuse, sexuality and abusing others.

[incognitotorpedo]

And then there's Social Anxiety that adds a whole 'nother wrinkle to the friends problem.

[kingfiremonster]

Honestly I'm going be real I have some best friends that I've smoked weed with and only after 6 months it was like they all up and left