An issue modern women face in dating

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[DeRocco]

problem is men that lead with the want of a relationship before sex are excluded too, so the cycle continues

[Chrisatrucker]

That's on them, this is the reality they fought for. Men do not owe women anything.

[TheStoicNinja]

Bro you can tell them this in 55 different languages, the answer will always be, "men should be the one to change to suit my needs" 😂

[tinykillx]

The dating pool isn't exactly a fountain of fresh spring water. You pick from the sewer you gonna get a rat...

[maxmuller]

Sex only happens if the women agrees to it. So its on them. But he was tall and good looking teeee heee 🤦

[Hannoshobazz_Neolmech]

"NEVER, ... EVER, no matter what you do"
Let that marinate a while.

[sneak-a-leek]

“Ladies there are men out there who will never commit to a relationship with you!”

Ladies…”Yes!…those are the ones we want!”

[Khan-rzqi]

Women had far more marital/relationship success when it was left to their fathers and families to choose the appropriate men for them. Women fought tooth and nail to remove themselves from this system as a means of independence to exercise their own desires. Fair enough, but now that no one is assisting you, you have to take on all the risks and responsibilities of making the right decisions on your own. Many women are making the wrong choices and failing in this category, leading to them feeling used. But then who’s really to blame here ladies? You have to self-reflect, take accountability for your actions and make better decisions moving forward. The game doesn’t change for anyone, we men don’t have it easy either. We also have to put in work or risk being left behind and lonely.

[JeffersonRah]

That's why when she says she needs space or needs to find herself. You know what that means.

[jackclayton]

The reality is alot of the time they don't get the commitment it's because after sex they default to their actual behaviour rather than the person they pretended to be before hooking up thinking they've got you hooked and upon seeing that the guy realizes you are not relationship material for whatever reason and just slowly pulls away.

Alot of women aren't being used, they're falsely advertising and when the jig is up the guy who possibly had an interest realizes what she'll be like in a short period of time when the complacency kicks in.

[itshimhim]

Chad ALWAYS uses…
They don’t understand the concept.
Thus, moot

[comedyexposure]

They know exactly who these guys are but they are repulsed by bottom 80% men so what other choice do they have

[theeater]

This situation-ship thing happened to me to as a guy and it really broke me when the perceived relationship ended aprubtly. It's not that she wouldn't want a relationship, it is that she fears missing a better option and therefore does not like to commit as I learned recently because I was stupid enough to meet her again when she contacted me four months after the breakup.

[Hannoshobazz_Neolmech]

... therefore Ladies,
READJUST YOUR PREFERENCES.

[positivelynegative]

What a waste of breath. Women don't listen to reason.

[sehalshams]

It's simple. No commitment, no sex.

I believe, as a man or a woman, a key component of finding a potential partner is the want of sex. However, no matter where you live or your circumstances, if you are looking to live a healthy life with a healthy and committed partner, one must always ensure that they are looking at the right things.

Sex is almost a given in any romantic relationship (exceptions can be made for the heartless ones), compatibility, not so much.

So, factors such as how the person communicates with you and their relationship with others can be taken as really good metrics when it comes to immediate social safety. Factors such as basic financial needs and physical health can be considered for longevity.


This goes without saying, it is important to first get yourself to focus on your thoughts and the way you handle yourself and the people around you to understand what you are really looking for and who you will be more likely to be compatible with.

This is my understanding of how to best approach any potential partner for a long-term relationship without the fear of getting "used".

And I highly suggest not using sex as a tool to get what you want under any circumstance, especially when you are looking for a potential partner. A good man or a woman who thinks well knows better.

[DoritoWorldOrder]

It has nothing to do with "discernment." It has everything to do with humility and a willingness to accept realistic trade-offs instead of remaining stuck chasing a fantasy. Be humble. Aim lower. Find a *good enough* man, let him in, treat him like a human being, and show appreciation for what he does for you; he will pay you back much more than you put in.

[xxChacaronXX]

Terrribke short because you ended by only naming one of the three.

[melenico]

Basically for women understand the difference between sexual interest and relationship interest. I will say that can be difficult for many.

[davidpitchford]

Women's' primary concern WHO CARES!