5 Proven Strategies for Stronger Relationships with BPD

Living with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can make managing intense emotions and maintaining healthy relationships challenging, but you're not alone. This video introduces five proven strategies to help you gain control over your emotions and build stronger connections. By practicing mindfulness and emotional awareness, you can recognize triggers and respond more calmly. Effective communication through 'I' statements and active listening can enhance understanding with loved ones. Building emotional resilience with healthy coping mechanisms, such as journaling or talking to a therapist, is vital. Setting and respecting boundaries fosters trust, while seeking support from professionals, like through Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), can provide valuable guidance. Implementing these strategies will take time, but they can lead to healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Daniel J. Fox, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist in Texas, international speaker, and a multi-award-winning author. He has been specializing in the treatment and assessment of individuals with personality disorders for over 20 years in the state and federal prison system, universities, and in private practice. His specialty areas include personality disorders, ethics, burnout prevention, and emotional intelligence.

He has published several articles and books in these areas and is the author of:

Complex Borderline Personality Disorder: How Coexisting Conditions Affect Your BPD and How You Can Gain Emotional Balance. Available at:

youtube shorts,youtube channel,youtube video,emotions,mental health,facts,emotional facts,youtube short,youtube shorts video,shorts,mental illness,mental health awareness,how to improve mental health,improve mental health,mental health tips,anxiety,dr fox,dr fox shorts,dr fox youtube channel,dr fox bpd,dr fox npd,most viewed youtube shorts,psychology,therapy,depression,therapist,splitting,relationships,relationship advice,healthy relationships
00:00 Introduction
01:34 BPD’s Impact on Emotions
03:13 Strategy 1 - Mindfulness and Emotional Awareness
04:41 Triggers v Emotional Buttons
06:04 Strategy 2 - Effective Communication
08:20 Strategy 3 - Building Emotional Resilience
10:37 Strategy 4 - Setting and Respecting Boundaries
13:45 Strategy 5 - Seeking Support and Professional Help
15:05 How to find a therapist

[melodiejohnston]

I'm 71 and have been depressed my entire life; I didn't know it. The BPD thing seems like a fit for me, and it explains a multitude of things. I have shut down and am isolating, but still learning. Even though it is late, I appreciate the information and answers you have provided in such a clear, concise, and kind manner. Thank you.

[nilooizadnia]

Thank you for giving us all hope and not portraying an evil image of us BPDs ❤🙏🏽

[dracolich]

Thank you, my mom has it and she is so much better lately. No matter what she does I'll still love her. We've been through so much together.

[sarakavandi]

You are amazing. Helping me understand my boyfriend with BPD and I’ve become SO much more understanding and empathetic

Can’t believe you dont have like 5M likes! Need to spread your page to the world

[cookieswan]

I found out I have BDP a few months ago, I started therapy and honestly is so scary realizing that my mind works different in a completely way than others. I was so scared to start searching and learning, this is my first video about it, thank you for making it less scary.

[Bobbycatv]

Dr. Fox, I am forever grateful for you and your work. I was triggered so hard today, despite preparing myself yesterday bc I knew I was approaching this point in my cycle. I observed the thought and feeling come over me, and I recognized it, remembered that I prepared for this, laughed it off, and played this video. This is my first week of really feeling successful, and I can finally feel some traction under my feet. I wouldn't be on my way to recovery if it wasn't for you, sir. Thank you. Please continue.

[Christine-jghf]

Yes thank you so much Dr Fox God bless you always for a true blessing 2 and 4 all of us 💋💞🌷🌹💪🙏

[ColinTWest]

Thank you so much – I watch all your videos and my girlfriend has traits and your work has been super helpful

[Paris]

Thank you Dr fox truly, been struggling a lot within I feel that this has answers a lot my issues I go thru mentally..I would avoid love ones destroyed close relationships because of my own ignorance & it comes off bizarre & off…but your videos gives me hope for good changes!

[yung_grubiyan]

shout out from Ukraine, Dr. Fox! My local psychiatrist recommended Your workbook when I got diagnosed. Glad You make these vids, gives hope for real

[andreak]

Thank you so much Dr. Fox. I needed that today. It was rough and I'm exhausted.
I learned from this video that I need to get better at acknowledging my triggers.

[Naomi-bwqs]

I just don’t know if I can ever be in a healthy relationship. How can I expect someone to deal with me? I’m seeing a guy who is so good to me. I was having a breakdown and he said “just blame me. Just tell everyone it’s all my fault” I don’t know why but that really soothed me. So when my mother is mad at me I told her it was all Michael’s fault. I love him I think. He is there for me

[glarg]

If i ever move back to texas. I would love to become your patient. BPD has ruined my life, however, im currently working on building my life back, and Dr. Fox is an instrumental tool for me on this journey

[MrMarcoAlvarado]

When you have experience with psychotherapy as s.b. with BPD, somebody with NPD can be very helpful. Sometimes I think both mental disorders are the same thing just with a different shape.

[XandrChas]

your videos helped me seek diagnosis and helped me to be okay with my condition
I often find myself gravitating towards your videos when I don't know something or if I'm getting into a splitting episode or spiralling and next thing I know I'm starting to understand what's going on and everything feels okay again

thank you for not making us seem like monsters, thank you for understanding we're just emotionally, deeply hurt people who never got to emotionally grow in a healthy manner, and thank you for treating us as normal humans ❤

[Groovinmegzz]

Thank you for your videos! So helpful!

[boundkitten]

Thank you Dr. Fox for your work. I feel so seen und understood whenever I watch a video of yours. I feel hopeful to be able to overcome my challenges related to BPD.🙏🏻❤️

[annakolla]

I really appreciate and admire your work here on youtube. I was wondering if you could also share something with Histrionic Personality Disorder. Because it can also be hard with emotions and relationships with that. It has some similar factors but they are still different in some ways. I would really like to know more about Histrionic Personality Disorder, how to cope and more. I got diagnosed with it and have been trying to know as much as I can to be better mentally but I find there to be less to find about how to get better and keep it as much down as possible.

[lyn]

Thank you, Im not diagnosed but I have been struggling. This helps.

[SocialSirenSiren]

I just hope family can understand more than stigma, especially from their time periods.