5 Tips To Avoid Competitive Parenting | JUST B DIVORCE

Bethenny Frankel is the CEO & Founder of Skinnygirl Brand, a Best-Selling Author, Podcast Host, Television Host, founder of Bstrong, and the TikTok anti-influencer of Beauty.

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[shbhchwh]

As a grandparent who has 2 dil's, I made a committment to myself a LONG time ago. I will never talk ill of my children or their spouses (and even if they become ex's) and grandchildren (and their friends and their other family members) to ANYONE, no matter what has happened or will happen. Once you make that committment, it makes moving forward from situational conflicts much much easier. You don't base your behavior on what other's say. You don't model bad behavior in other words. Empathy, while at times difficult to show, breeds more empathy. No one said it is going to be easy. You role model and you listen and you apologize when appropriate. You tell people you love them. You hold their hand. You try to understand various points of view. It requires strength. But you can go to bed with a clear conscience. As a grandparent, you are the family elder, as I am. We are all terribly imperfect, but we must try to look beyond your own selfishness.

[mhnepfs]

bethany can you please talk about narcissistic mother daughter dynamics... im in 30's and i need to break away

[TheTuellfamily]

As a former teacher who had a student whose parents were not amicably divorced, I can tell you that the dynamics between those parents made me and my co teacher’s job very difficult. We were often put in the middle of silly arguments and privy to information that was none of our business, but the real victim in the whole dynamic was their son.

[marinaledean]

it's pretty simple- your hard work shows in how much that little girl loves you and is so lovely in general. I'd be so invested in hearing a lot about your parenting journey

[munizr]

This is the first time I have finally heard someone put words to the feelings my grandparents used to do to us as kids of divorce. And we were already teenagers when it happened so we were already atuned to the situation we lived through before the separation.
It certainly alienates us from them after a certain tipping point! So true! Thanks for talking through this!

[jennymarais]

This is why podcasters are up in arms about because she makes sense. She doesn't bore the shit out of you

[jomoney]

all this can happen to grandparents that are iced out when their child passes away and the living parent, of your precious grandchild, gets into another relationship and moves miles away so that you cannot be in the child's life. The only thing that matters is the child's comfort and happiness. I wish grown adults would think of someone other than themself when they don't get their way, or things go south, or someone dies. It's sad

[marlynnek]

I think it's amazing that BF has been able to allow her daughter to have a relationship with her ex and her ex in-laws cause they were all PSYCHOS.

[edw]

My daughters are getting prenups. My oldest is getting married they don’t have much but they are still getting prenup. My girls saw what happened to me

[maryanne]

This is AWESOME advice!! I wish I had heard this MANY years ago!! Even for parents that are through raising their children it BLEEDS over into grandparenting…thx Bethany❤

[susiegross]

You look fabulous!!! I’m obsessed with your divorce podcast, you’re helping so many people out there who are so lost. Thank you ❤

[JoJo_GSD]

Bethenny, this episode is sooo important. In my opinion, this is the information we should be encouraged to take on board prior to marriage and kids. If this information was included as compulsory reading before the "I do's", maybe, just maybe, children wouldn't feel as conflicted & torn between parents as they often do, & maybe the parents would be less stressed as they understand the best way forward regarding how to co-parent without conflict.?. 🤔
Loved this Bethenny 🤗💯👊

[claudiasmith]

You never can win when you play dirty...-Nene Leakes

Jason and his family played dirty.

And Bethenny won!

[rikigrove]

Everyone has a different experience with their parents. My parents spent lots of time with me and my sister. My mother wasn't drinking wine and smoking. Yes, there were times I played outside for long periods but not every day!! Both sides of my family spent tons of time together!! I had a fantastic childhood and I was able to do the same for my children.

[lindabrown]

Bethenny, your advice in these videos about your divorce are so invaluable to others. The fact that you choose to share and help others after the decade + long pain you endured is so kind and honorable.
You are a wonderful woman.
Thank you.

[butchpable]

And brilliant, loud in the cool way...canada love's Bethany frankel..shes very canadian with a jersey accent

[gusrgutierrez]

We need need you to write a book about this.

[Jenn-E]

I want to hear more about your relationship with you Ex and what went on behind the scenes.

[kevinandlaurawalmsley]

Please keep them coming. I can't tell you how helpful these are

[sarahb_]

Yes I can relate to this as my parents divorced when I was 11.
They didn’t do competitive parenting that I noticed, but did used to slag eachother off a bit.
And I used to hate it, even into adulthood, if they had to be in the same room or see or speak to eachother. It would make me very uncomfortable.
Before sh*t hit the fan when I was a child and it all went down, I had no idea of any problems or anything. You can imagine the shock for a child my age. My brother was 13.
Then seemingly weeks (probably months) later, my dad moves my new step mum in. No conversation. I stayed living with my dad as my mum moved out. But no conversation.
I love both my parents but you can imagine there’s a little trauma from some of that. Some things that happened around that time I’ve never spoken to anyone about since. Not even my husband of 10 years (together 16)
Saying that I had a good childhood overall, and especially before that.