Professionalism, Employment & Autism #asd

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[AH-auDHD]

You forgot to include how our truth turns us into liars because we're so blunt they can't take it so they brand us liars. 😂

[Pretender]

HR isnt for the employees its for the Company, managing the Human "resources"

[ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy]

Well, what get's me is that a neurotypical person can often say and do the same things and be okay (because maybe they just used a slightly different tone of voice. I also notice that if I start talking fast, people seem to interpret it as excitement, which somehow gets perceived as anger (I am often passionate about what I say, and really mean what I am saying; but I am very rarely angry when I am having a conversation with people. I get caught off-guard when they start raising their voice (almost immediately into the conversation) and act either offended or defensive; and it seems to happen whenever I am talking passionately (and fast) about something. And I don't mean passionate as in angry or crying either. I find that if I have to tell somebody that I don't like something, I have to slow down my speech, and really disguise the fact that something really bothered me (which just sends the message to people that what they did was no big deal, which means that they will probably do it again). And people don't seem to like it too much when I take time to explain why, because I guess maybe they don't want to feel bad about what they did (and I personally find it rude when people cut me off that way, when I am trying to get them to understand my point of view; it sends me the message that I don't matter as much as they do). And I can't tell you how many times other employees were allowed to do things at work, and I wasn't; and how I was the only one being micromanaged when I clearly already showed everyone that I care about following the rules, and cared about quality work. I cannot express to you how grateful I am that I don't have to work around coworkers and managers anymore. Because it is very rare that a customer has a problem with me. Customers seem to like the fact that I am focused on my work and keep chit-chat to a minimum. However, throw me into a workplace environment, and I will pretty much always be singled out for not talking and mingling with others, and being too serious and sensitive about starting a work task early enough in the day so that I would have time to finish it. And coworkers and managers also don't seem to like it when you follow the work rules to a T, because I get viewed as acting like "Miss Perfect", since I didn't that there were unwritten exceptions to the rules, that everyone else knew except for me. And that's when I would go, "Okay, I'm confused . . . I thought we weren't allowed to do this or that." Dealing with all of that sort of stuff drains me just as much as the work itself.

[kittenhrdr]

Thank you. I routinely lose friends because I think I am being honest and helpful by sharing
Information I believe is neutral. Apparently not.

[mr.cynical]

I'm constantly offending people. So I've decided to develop a system to handle it. When someone vents or complains to me, I stop them and ask them if they want to hear advice or my honest critique of their situation. I forewarn them that they may not like what they'll hear and that I might offend them. I also let them know my policy on complaining: that the first time you complain about something should be the last time, and the rest of your time should be spent remedying what ails you. It keeps me from being overwhelmed and paralyzed by the weight of someone else's problems.

[icefireobsidian]

Perk of military life… my blunt and direct mannerisms mean I have leadership potential but never got past that lol but eh I blend in sorta…😂

[stuartchapman]

This is why I work 4 days a week. I cant keep up this "professional" bullshit. I know Im very lucky. Ive had to work really hard to acheive thus "balance", its cost me financially.

[EastElbow]

I was Just thinking about this earlier. How I just don't speak or play dumb. I don't know how to communicate with people without being straight forward and honest. I have to dance around it... Ask stupid questions to walk them to what I'm getting at. I can't just say. "You screwed up and none of the assemblies line up." Lol if I did that I'd be in the HRs office... I already struggle because of my tone... It's exhausting. I wish I could be my own boss.

[IchigoGyuunyu]

"show respect to customers even if they're treating you like garbage" is something I've found really hard to do because I basically get monotone. In my brain, it makes to most sense to not feel anything and act as bland as possible, but people who want you to bend down and kiss their butt take it as incredibly rude. Ah well..

[cattheminion]

Looking back on my time working as a permatemp for three years at *insurance company* through the lens that I probably have autism, it makes SO much more sense. Totally outside of the cliquey hierarchies, got ostracized for yelling at the lady that was taking everyone's printouts back to her desk, didn't respond with fear to my manager asking me why a week's worth of folders wasn't done in one day, chewed out the office bully.... etc.

[benedixtify]

Is this why people treat autistics like we're assholes

[GonkyWonkler]

A big reason I learned not to be vocal in my youth was because I saw how my being truthful hurt people, or came back to bite me. I can't bring myself to be deliberately false, though. I've never forgiven myself for how I've blundered into hurting people, but now, finally recognizing the autistic tendencies I exhibit, helps me see things a little differently. Thanks for being an advocate. 👍

On the flip side, it feels bad knowing how few neurotypicals will ever see (or perhaps even care) how they hurt us. Makes me wonder if they feel guilt/shame the same as autistics. I hope not.

[Moonlover]

Neurodivergents love honesty and bluntness and 100% its respectable cause it's true. And we enjoy that. Neurotypicals don't like that cause it calls them out too much so less respectable to them... it's weird 😅

[soundbeast]

I'm with you Orion...I say it kindly but somehow it is considered to be "THAT WAY" lol

[Zebo]

You're so right! 💙

Also, you completely reminded me of Hal in Malcolm in the Middle, when he's on the radio as Kid Charlemagne Dewey + Hal were always my favourite characters

[jeannieboles]

I always say what I mean. I don't intend rudeness, just my honest word. But always get a bombastic side glare of "How Fucking Dare You?"

[RoguePrnc]

YESSSS this! Not my problem people can't handle who they are lol

[treefrog]

"Keeping things professional" is such an odd concept to me. I'd much rather call it "Keeping the relationship within a Boundary" -I know to call it "unprofessional" when that one hostel staff member invited me out on a walk with him. Red flags were coming out of his ears (metaphorically). But obviously, what this guy was doing was taking our Relationship (as Staff and Guest) outside the boundary of being just Staff and Guest.
...but I guess "Keep.it professional" is a shorter phrase that rings some NT bells or something.

[JustDeborah-voye]

Thank you! I will be forwarding this shirt snd requesting that they read the comments. HI 👋 lol

[stephenlamley]

Yeah i spent my youth imitating normality. At 43 I've gone past caring. The autism isn't the issue my adhd gets confused for aggression all the time oh you will know when I'm being aggressive. It's very obvious, it's actually from my past I'm very chilled now . The amount of p3who put the phone down even when I've explained. Nobody has a clue about any of this stuff. I've always thought introvert I'm not I'm a extrovert it's my issues that make me seem that way. Fucking people telling me to cslm and slow down oh why didn't i think of tnat, dummies man.