You’re not my wife… 🥲 #movie #fyp #greysanatomy

[theresacoy]

That's absolutely heartbreaking, Dementia on any level breaks hearts..

[elisacardenas]

Has to be the hardest most heart breaking thing for the spouses to have to watch. I dont think i could

[kelsyeah]

My mom has dementia and my Dad and I take care of her. She follows him around and checks on him 100 times a day. He is crazy patient with her, and he told me that's it's just part of the deal. He chose her as his person, and he will stand by her side no matter what. She sometimes forgets that I am her daughter and it's absolutely heartbreaking. I pray to God that she never forgets who my Dad is. Dementia is a cruel disease. It takes your loved one away before they are actually gone.

[mamadoll]

I worked in an assisted living for a few years and this exact senario happened. It was heart wretching.
The man had been married for 61 years and when he got so bad that they couldnt care for him at home, they put him in the dementia care unit where i worked.
His room was covered with 61 years of their life and full of happiness, children and grandbabies.
Vacations throughout the years, it was an amazing gallery of their life.
There was a lady that was there, husband long gone and she was downright mean at times.
The two fell in love. The wife would come and have to endure not only her husband not knowing her but watching him and his new love carry on.
The kids and grandkids stopped coming because he didnt know them and they couldnt bear her pain.
One day she came and the lady attacked her for messing with her man.
That was the last time she came. It was one of the hardest things i ever had to watch.
Dementia in every form is the worste disease ever!!

[sarahessley]

Dementia sucks. My mom wouldn’t remember me visiting. Would call when I got the babies into the car. I had just left. Crying that no one comes to visit and the nurses didn’t feed her. They did. They were amazing. They would even start sending me texts of her eating so I would rest easy because obviously you stress about that they may not be. Bless. It was almost a blessing when she passed, she was in so much pain at the end.

[divasmusic]

This happened to Sandra Day O'Connor, the late Associate Justice of the Supreme Court. Her husband fell in love with another woman while suffering with Alzheimer's. I cannot remember if the other woman was a nurse or caregiver.

He no longer recognized Justice O'Connor. She stepped aside to let him be with this woman. Sadly, she died of dementia years later after her husband's death.

I met Justice O'Connor briefly in an elevator at my federal agency. She was friendly and humble. I saw her on TV discussing her husband's situation. I felt sadness and admiration at the same time. Alzheimer's is a horrible disease that destroys families in so many ways.

[deniesidney]

My husband died from vascular dementia AND frontal temporal lobe dementia. For 2 days, he thought one of the CNAs at his rehab facility was his wife instead of me.

[CrazyJodice]

Ben and Allison are in a tough spot but they are reacting well. At the end of the day both affected spouses will slowly lose their memories and abilities to function. They still have emotional attachments and the condition is fatal. But they support each other without hatred

[brummieinbristol]

When I was a student nurse I saw this situation in real life. Both the patients had dementia and met in the hospital. Both were very poorly with dementia and were in with physical health problems. Both their real spouses coped really rather well. They bought in little gifts such as chocolates or jammies etc for the patients to give each other. I don't know what happened in the longer term as my placement ended but it was so heart breaking and endearing at the same time.

[adeallan]

My dad died with Vascular Dementia and Alzheimer's. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. 😢😢

[wendiscott]

That actress(the wife) L Scott Caldwell is my aunt😊

[patricegibson]

My mom has Vascular Dementia advance now. She's now become violent towards family. Later, cries about it and apologizes. Says she loves us and doesn't want to hurt anyone. I hate this disease. It's taking her away from us so fast.

[LPeeples]

My uncle had Alzheimer's and his wife, my aunt had age related dementia. I watched her heart break as my uncle forgot her. Before taking care of them both, I was unaware of the differences. He had short term memory issues and outbursts. At one point he forgot where he parked his car. We never found it. They were eventually placed in separate nursing homes. She had a roommate and adjusted well. He was in a room by himself and used to wander around the facility until someone would bring him back. I loved them both dearly, and I am grateful for the experience. ❤

[MsmmBeretta]

Well that's a special kind of hell 😔😢

[oliviablackburn]

My grandma got a boyfriend in the nursing home. He ended up being a blessing.❤ Now shes passed and he's alone again.😢

[Pamela-ukyh]

I have seen this many times as I was in healthcare for 40 years.This is usually absolutely heartbreaking to the spouse(s) that are still alive, cognitively intact to have to experience this.Many spouses know that their loved one is not cognitively intact and a tally think this is the life they have been living..but to see the expressions of love between patients/ residents in a facility is very hard..I have also seen the two patients..get very physically affectionate very sexual with each other...One never knows what life changes can be, "in store"...Additionally if there are adult children it is often very hard on them as well. Blessings to all involved as this is a "No win" situation.

[Althea]

Such a devastating disease. I just hate it. I see it daily and it takes all I have to get through each day without crying.

[dawnduckworth]

My Gram died of vascular dementia. She had been married for almost 70 years. In the month prior, she finally fought back, from when she had been smacked around all thise decades earlier.
In the final 6 months, she regularly said my grandfather didn't love her, that he never did. He would just blow it off, but they fought every single day, for as long as I can remember.

I honestly love that she stopped being the loyal, obedient wife. She was so strong to put up with everything that she did, and I hope her words ring in his ears every single day.
He did everything opposite of what you should do with any dementia patient. He hasn't honored her wishes. He told me and my mother that because he apologized to Gram about the abuse, that we should drop it, even though my mother witnessed it as a child. He doesn't believe Mom deserves an apology. He refused to apologize for the $hit his family pulled, and how they treated us.
Love you Gram, and I miss you every day.

[sharhondajackson]

I understand this. My dad no longer knows who I am. The first time I heard an accidental msg he left me, asking his partner who this person was that kept calling his phone. She told him that person was me. That was the first day that I realized that I've lost my father even though he is still here. 😢😢

[marythompson]

My husband's grandfather had alzheimers. His grandmother had to put him in a special home because he became too much for her to handle alone. My husband and his mother had moved to another state years before and was too faraway to help her. She would tell them of how his grandfather had fell in love with another patient there. When she visited him she would find them sitting together holding-hands. His grandmother was sad to lose him but was glad he was happy in his final years.