5 Subtle Love Bombing Tactics Of The Covert Narcissist

The covert narcissist engages in love bombing in a much different way than the grandiose narcissist. It's more like a covert operation, and that's why it can go undetected. But in this video, I expose the subtle tactics of a covert narcissist in the love bombing (or idealization) phase of a relationship with a narcissist.

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[ChristopherDonnerArtist]

The easiest way to tell is look at their past behavior . Patterns don't lie . Notice the constant jealousy . Passive aggressiveness . Holier than though attitude . Extremely sensitive to criticism . No regard for your boundaries . Want's to really know all about you way too fast . Not friendly but deeply personal things . Run far away and don't look back .

[NSEasternShoreChemist]

Another lovebombing tactic I have heard (and experienced): apparent altruism. Covert narcissists may appear to go above and beyond in offering to help you, but when you don't accept their help, you'll get shamed. This is what my covert narcissistic father does and it sucks!!

[karengrant]

I literally cringed at some of the shit he told me. I ignored my gut feeling. And im still paying for it. I had no idea this kind of person existed, grateful for your videos tbh. Thank you so much

[josephc]

“You used to be my soulmate” … In one week I went from her soulmate to absolutely NOTHING 🙄

[biancaswart]

Narcs are great charmers. You feel as if your prince has arrived. However, as time progresses you realize you're on a magic carpet ride to hell.

[joenefflen]

Love bombing is what made me feel like it was true love. Over 20 years of love bombing, rejection, recycle repeat. As messed up as it sounds, the connection and passion during the love bonding states was intense.

[deantaylor]

One thing I kept asking myself is what the hell just happened

[Andromeda_M]

My ex started out telling me I'm so smart only to later hold contempt and call me an idiot and stupid.

[bayleaf]

6. They always agree with you.

A genuine person has their own opinions and interests, whereas a fake person doesn't - and will say or do anything, just to make others think they are like them. Be wary of that.

Covert narcs remind me of T1000 from the Terminator 2 movie. They seem to literally morph into whatever you are - and if you're inexperienced in dealing with narcs - it's highly likely you'll fall for it because you'll be fooled into thinking you have some sort of special, magical connection with them. In reality you don't. They are simply grooming you.

[dancegoddesss]

😂The funny thing is that we as ladies feel right in the beginning that's something is wrong...too good to be true..but we are swept off our feet by the attention and sweet words .
At least that's what happened to me but all along I knew and felt this was too good to be true .. Loving me in the first weeks after meeting?...But i broke it up and the communication went from 100 to 0. I missed the attention but I knew I had done the right thing .Choose yourself ladies and always follow your gut😊.

[joelaustin]

Great video. This is a more layered and nuanced look at the covert narc. Mine seemed confident, humble and conservative at first glance. But when the mask slipped there was a much darker thing lurking. A promiscuous, competitive cold and calculating being. She'd reveal herself especially after a few drinks. When I look back at it now it's very apparent, but while in it I smoothed over the rough stuff to keep the illusion alive. They have the impulses and emotions of a child and the destructive drive of the devil. What a combo!

[roxanne]

My covert narc love bombed me with flattery and attention.
I really thought he was the most loving and caring man ever.
It has taken me a long time to understand and believe I was the pray of a narcissistic person. That's how good he was at faking care and empathy. Or maybe he genuinely felt it in the moment, I still don't know.
The love bombing lasted 1.5 years and I was shocked when the devaluation began. Luckily I found out quickly he was a narcissist and discarded him.
Thank you so much for these videos, they are a life saver and helped me stay no contact for 4 months now.

[dieseldejavu]

The way my CN made me her new best friend was by mirroring me. Hadn’t jogged in years— now she’s jogging. Hadn’t hiked— now she’s hiking. Didn’t like microbeer— you guessed it, at the brewery with me. In the beginning, it was pleasant to have someone so “open minded” and “enjoyed my company.” But realized later, she was simply a doppelgänger.

[davidhimmelsbach]

One thing I've noticed: Narcs have a past with no people in them.
Restated, the people in their past are objects, caricatures of real personalities, comic book villains.
By mid-life, they will have been divorced -- perhaps twice -- or more.
Under no tellings does it ever come out that THEY had tics/faults/foibles that erupted into the Big Split.
Instead, it's the Big Drama that can't be explained.
And there will be other no-go zones, aplenty.
What they will want to divulge was how fine they were -- and must still be.
However, if you wait for it, you'll come to find that they just burn-through 'friends.'
They just don't have deep long term relationships.
You can think of them as a frantic, sinking swimmer that keeps drowning any responding lifeguard.
They will also reveal that they have their own morality -- which they follow -- and there's a morality for the rest of humanity.
Bending the truth into a pretzel is fine for them -- but all others must be fulsomely honest.
Spreading lies and gossip is fine for them -- but you had better not ever do that against them. And so forth.

[luna_soleil]

In the beginning, I was impressed by how many "friends" my ex had. As time went on, I realized they could even barely be called acquaintances. One of his best "friends" had a heart attack at age 35 and my ex completely forgot about it a few months later

[neondiosa]

It can all neatly be summed up by something like : "Woe is me. Look what everyone in my life did to me". The fact that they truly believe that makes you want to rescue them from the big bad world or at least provide a safe corner for them while they work on figuring out how to blane you for everything to the next rescuer.
Oh. The healing is painful and messy. I still miss him until I ask myself do I miss the horrible parts too. I guess its too much to expect it to all be better 3 months on after 7 years and countless discards.
Thank you so much for another "nodding" video. They have been so helpful in crisis moments. Much love to you.

[squizitzithatsitalianforyu]

Every day I become stronger with your knowledgeable videos. Grazi!👍

[madisoncannoles]

I couldn't believe when you said that he you feel like the covert narc is a diamond in the rough! It's exactly what I felt, and I told my closest friend that when she questioned me about why I was dating him. Smh.

[Risa-tznx]

He told me stories about how others mistreated him: an ex stole his money and never returned, another ex ghosted him which led him to suicide committing, an evil boss stole his money and he got cheated by the law…during our time together, he’d always get angry at random ppl around and saw them as his enemy who always tried to disregard him or scan him. He relied on me a lot with simple stuff: when he couldn’t speak the local language, he expected me to do everything for him, when he could obviously just use the translation app. When one time I finally snapped-I had my own stuff going on and I called helping him ‘a waste of time’, he went to extreme rage and punished me. But what I found later was he did the exact same thing. Though I was the one who always ended up apologizing. At the beginning, he said a lot of sweet things to make it look like we were destined for each other, comfort me every time when I had mental breakdowns (ofc, triggered by him). And in the end, he told me he regretted doing all of them: bc they’re all due to my overthinking. If I don’t overthink, he wouldn’t need to comfort me and would have more time for sleep. WOW. I’m grateful it’s over.

[aka]

This was honestly scary how accurate this was. It was almost like you were right there sitting next to the person when he told me all the BS. Basically, word-for-word accurate of the type of person he was.