5 Reasons You Shouldn't Beg Them to Stay

It's a natural reaction when they tell you the relationship is over - you beg for them to change their mind. Learn why you may want to rethink that response.

[c.j.]

I am there. While God has called me to stand for my marriage, He has not called me to be a doormat with no value. If she wants to go, it is time for her to depart. I am tired of the years and years of rejection and disconnect.

[kamranhamidfar]

It applies to friendships too. True. Thank you

[kritikasingh]

Lost my self respect, dignity, myself
For that one person .nd now I live like a dead person. Who is not interested in life anymore my confidence, passion, ambitions everything I lost

[LifeOhLife]

Thanks for this. I really needed to hear this message. I'm struggling with the friendship/relationship I currently have with my flatmate/landlord. The comunication from his side especially has been pretty weak lately even though months ago he had nice words for me and I really did think we were heading from a good friendship. But his actions have been telling a total different story. I was thinking to approach him via a voice message now that he is away for work reasons for a few months and tell him how I'm feeling.. but I realised that would actually be me begging for him attention/affection etc.. so also thanks to your video I've changed my mind and I'm actually doing no contact unless he does first and not discussing my feelings at all in the future. If he wants to be friends with me I might be there if not we are just flatmates.

[SilverGirlAu]

Yep - been there done that... worst feeling of my life to know that my husband was rejecting me and I was trying everything I could to convince him our relationship was worth working on... agree that you shouldn’t hav ego try to convince them- they are showing their true self and intention in that moment...

[SuperAzz]

The question is : why always I'm the only one to begging them to stay ? Why there's nobody there begging me to stay in his life ?
That's just odd

[mariagoldman]

Thank you again and again, Lisa. Yes, this is so HARD to separate your image of them, your dream of them from real them! But once you did that, it works as a magic, and you realise you lived under this spell 90% created by yourself for years and years... Why? Who knows... the reality is harsh and bitter, but you have to face it to survive.

[hx]

Thank you Lisa, those three questions really helps me to think the mess through.

[Cyberbrak]

Reminding myself some of these things allowed me to retain my dignity during the most painful experience of my life. Very concise video, maybe the best mini-pep talk there is. Thank you for all you do!

[SIMPLIFIEDFILMING]

Very true. I only begged for about one week. And I refuse to compete with the man she fell in love with. I never reached out to him for anything. Because if she wanted to stay with me she could stay with me. And now she’s officially gone. It’s a very painful weight to be lifted

[makoueno]

I am so glad I found you & You have been helping me so much throughout my difficult divorce. You gave me hope & I can over come this pain & I will be strong & happy again! I’m still not there yet but I have faith watching you so thank you so much!!

[anakotyk]

Thank you very much 🙏🏻your words are very therapeutic

[noowayyjosee]

This is so hard. 😕 it kinda makes me feel so sad that I’m not her choice. I feel hurt . And now I think damn if I do give them the space and walk away and they change their mind imma feel conflicted and remember all the pain I went thru when I begged got made fun of shut down and belittled like I didn’t exist. This is just too much

[horsenberg]

around 2:55 i started bawling, thank you so much for this

[heltonja]

The flipside is that you should never give into the begging from a cheating spouse, pleading with you not to leave

[jadenking]

I’m young and I have a question before judgement comes…. But my question is “ Why do you think you’re not enough if I never mentioned it? “I just want to see change instead of just saying you’ll change…. If that makes sense