DON’T Text Her After The Date (Here’s Why!)

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[mkcoollyo]

Modern dating is such a mess. No one can be just be honest. Girls get turned off because the validation was instant and not earned. 🤦.

[Joshugamesz]

Stop overthinking it. Play your card and be willing to cut your losses if things don’t go your way. The world is full of ppl. Just say “her/his loss” and continue your life. Don’t get hung up on “this is the one, I need this one” just keep it cool

[lilgobbledygook]

Honestly I think every girl would appreciate a message after the date or the next day. If you ended the date in the evening, check she got home okay, don’t play games, don’t waste her time, be a grown up and step up if you want to see her again. You can always say you had a nice time, wait a few days then ask if she would like to schedule the next date.

[MedamineSlasla-sumv]

Totally agree, ive been in many dates and i can guarantee you guys when the girl likes you she texts you first at least asking if you got home and she had good time, if she doesn't, just don't bother shes not interested...every girl who hasnt texted me when i texted her later she wasnt that interested and the one who were interested always texted...so please guys never ever text her after a date, wait for her to do so, even she wasn't that interested she might become intrigued so its a win win situation

[biancabrooks]

If you don't follow up, we'll think you're not interested. Terrible advice.
A simple "Did you get home okay?" Is a great opener, shows you're interested in our safety, which is heart warmer for us. The lady can take the conversation from there

[vonkunstler]

Guy’s dating coach: “Don’t text HER after the first date”
Girl’s dating coach: “Don’t text HIM after the first date”
*guy and girl never see each other again*

[francescosantorelli]

This is ridiculous 😂 This advice only applies if she is a superficial one. Many girls told me the exact opposite. I did what he is saying with my second girlfriend cause I didn’t want to look oppressive, but when we got together she confessed me that she really was expecting me to write her after the date and me not doing so made her think that I didn’t care and I almost lost her

[ruantristancarlinsky]

I swear there is no hope for this generation.

[VernellWatts]

I usually tell them let me know when they make it home

[sweetjreal]

Agreed up to a point. I always at least let her know her company was enjoyable if it was. By not reaching out first after that, you will grow on her mind if she's worth it. For many reasons, it may take a couple days to a week before she reaches out. Move on if you don't hear from her. She may even come around later than that.

[shae.the.gymini]

Never once have I ever thought “this guy is lame for texting me after our date” 🙄 There’s nothing wrong with the man doing the follow up… either the woman or the man. Don’t follow this shit.

[languageandmana]

When a guy texts me after the first date, he will become so more attractive and respected in my eyes honestly . When a guy is playing game, girls find it out!

[MargootMC]

In my opnion, these mind games and strategies really depend on who you are and what you're looking for. If you find a good girl who u actually wana marry and start a family with, please don't play these games. If you want other stuff then by all means do this stuff.

[lamlam]

That’s total BS
I get more attracted to a guy when he texts me after a date especially that “let me know when you get home” 🦋🦋🦋
If he doesn’t text and sends a text the next day, I just lose interest.
Don’t listen to this guys 🤦🏻‍♀️ if you like the girl be a gentleman.

[tiffxanax]

Too many stupid rules these people make up. It don’t work that way just be yourself and go with the vibe. Stop overthinking every scenario and breathe 😊

[Vbnnghjjnnb]

Don't listen to him. If you like her tell her directly, doesn't matter on or after the date. If she doesn't appreciate it or doesn't like you back, at least you know where you stand, and you can move on quickly.

[MorningsWithMaria]

….. just gonna add my 2 cents when guys do that I assume they didn’t like me and they didn’t care if I got home safely. Almost every day has told me “text me when you get home” I text them “I’m home 😊 “ and they either reply the same night or in the AM “glad you made it safe I had fun” or they text me before and we usually already planned the next date before the 1st date ended. I understand not being a simp or over investing or doing too much validating but when it’s someone you vibe with all those corny ass rules go out the window and you can genuinely enjoy yourself with someone (ps if she didn’t like you waiting to text won’t change it and if she did like you texting the same night or next day won’t change that either!

[margaridasungoluiz]

My bow boyfriend actually texted me right after our date and we talked for hours, I was so happy that he texted me.
I think if you ask someone out and you’re sure the person enjoyed your company as much you did, you can definitely be the first one to text after the date

[liliana]

I usually let the guy text me first, when I don’t hear back til days later then he’s not interested.