Why Men Feel a DEEP Emotional Connection with Women Who Create Space

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Some interesting studies:

[sidekickster]

It's healthier if BOTH men & women have their own space, their own friends, things to do away from each other. It's actually strengthening

[dreambig]

Thank you for making this. Guys need to talk about this more. Seriously. Men are confusing as hell and a man pulling away hurts badly. To make matters worse, they don’t communicate what’s going on.

[begr_wiedererkennungswert]

Over the years I became so good at giving more space that I don't expect anything at all anymore.

[ba]

I am a woman and I need my space. I don't need to be up in a man's face twenty-four-seven. I am glad if he wants space. In fact, I encourage it. I have come to understand that men are fundamentally different. Some physical/emotional distance is good. If you leave them be they will open up when they are ready.

[Iamam]

If I see a dude physically distancing himself from me after sex then my feeling for him will drop to zero really fast...you can't act cold after such an intimate thing and expect the other person to still feel the same, I don't need to be told twice I'm not wanted

[IevaKambarovaite]

Distance does wonders. That's why women need to have girfriends and a support system they can talk to about what bothers them. You can't just be dumping everything on a man..
He can't be your therapist, your girfriend, your lover, your support system, your playmate etc,

[kristinej.]

This is such valuable information and it couldn’t have come at a better time. Just last weekend I experienced something that I was confused about but now have clarity on. My BF and I were enjoying a peaceful morning but then sensed that he was a little distant… not as affectionate or attentive and I was a little irritated wondering to myself - “what’s his problem?” Well I just let him be and did my thing but later that afternoon he gave me the biggest hug and thanked me for being so understanding. I was like for what? lol It turned out that he had gotten a message from work that really bothered him but kept it inside trying to resolve the issue unbeknownst to me. Wish he had expressed his problem to me at the time but he said he didn't want to burden me with his work stuff.

I learned a lot from this video. Space is important and my guy having it does not mean he’s going to lose interest but rather get more from it. Very interesting… Thank you.

[moni]

I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year now. I didn’t realize he needed space. I am pretty much an anxious person and love being around him. I noticed over the summer that he started pulling away at times and said it wasn’t me. Until recently, I didn’t realize that space was his way of recharging. I am still learning how to give him space without feeling sad or anxious 😬

[susanstewart]

Too much time with my mate gets on my last nerve. I need my space more than he does. So if he wants space, I say goody!

[lolasaysyes]

This is why guys who have unreciprocated feelings for you are so resilient and hard to get rid of… you create space simply because you’re not trying to treat them as relationship material! Agree that while everyone needs space, men seem to be wired slightly differently in this regard. Either way, it’s always good to give space, but know when to follow up at the right time.

[aubergine-yc]

it would be helpful to add for how long period of time should a woman tolerate that man needs space. I was ignored and/or treated poorly for the whole two months of his new work. so if he was not worry to put himself in the position to lose me, I don't believe it was ever love from his side.

[Lindartist]

Spot on as usual.
I see space for the guy as his way of processing the relationship.
And I use that time for a little me staycation or vacation.

[mayyu]

Wanting him but not needing him ❤ great quote

[krazykirl]

Space is good to process things, sometimes, if you have all the information you need, but there needs to be a team effort as well. People keep saying men are different. Actually they're not. What you're mentioning here are different levels of communication that are lacking in the skills it takes to have a relationship. A team player doesn't need space, they need good communication skills. Being in a relationship is a team effort. Imagine being in a relationship and every time there's an issue you need space? If it's a massive problem then that person needs more space. No, they need solutions and commitment.

[doris-ctbt]

My ex-boy friend could not understand space. He got so angry because I wasn't around enough. He had a lot of time in his hands and I am busy because of financial responsibilities (mortgage, utilities, etc.) We are no longer together and he found himself a rebound only a few months after we broke up.

[jenniferfratangelo]

😂 Recovering level-5 clinger here! 🙌🏼🤣🤣
Thank you Brian. Practical and insightful!

[cherrylane]

People are different, some are not interested in a relationship or need time to reload their social battery. Also some women can need some alone time, not just some men.

[rickmoody]

As someone who has been married for over a decade, I can say that the general assumptions that women are clingy and need constant interaction is inaccurate. As the female who needs ample space and that gets anxiety from the thought of excessive attention, I can say that not all women fit into a singular personality type. In addition, two people that enjoy space can also be problematic. I struggle connecting and expressing emotion so it is odd having a male counterpart requesting affection. 😂

[jessicafb]

Space is the opposite of emotional connection. A certain amount of space is healthy in a relationship. Too little space, and people will feel smothered and a loss of independence. Too much space and there will be a lack of connection. An avoidant man will crave too much space. The key is to date a securely attached man and not date an avoidant man. And also to become securely attached oneself. Also, a partner should be able to communicate their needs to each other. If either partner needs more space, they should communicate this to their partner, rather than just pulling away and not saying anything. Again, the later would be considered an avoidant attachment behavior, and would decrease feelings of safety and security in a relationship. Space is healthy. Too much space creates disconnection.

[SearchIndex]

When a boy chews his arm off for space to get away from you to go chase trash, suddenly telling you in no uncertain terms that you are weak, boring, didn’t touch his heart, and didn’t make him feel special —that’s a sign to say “Take all the space you need” and emotionally disconnect because you weren’t miss right you were miss right now …he’ll be back, but the lights are on and nobody’s home 😂