14 Asexual Spectrum Identities | Different Ways to Be Ace

Hello lovely humans, here is a list of some ace-spec identities, both well-known and obscure. Note that this is not an exhaustive list; there is an infinite number of ways to be asexual, and these are just a few of them.

Can you think of any identities that could have been in this video? Comment to let us know your thoughts.

EDIT: I mixed up the erassexual and caedsexual flags! They are reversed from what is shown in the video. Apologies for any confusion, and thank you to those who pointed it out to me in the comments.

Here's where I got much of my information:

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My name is Elle (she/they) and I'm an enby and aro-space ace doing my queer thing here in the internet universe. Join me and let's be gay nerds. I'd really like that. Love you!!

0:00 Intro
0:42 Greysexual
1:13 Demisexual
1:40 Fraysexual
2:06 Lithosexual
2:14 Autosexual
2:26 Reciprosexual
2:41 Cupiosexual
2:48 Idemsexual
3:12 Aceflux
3:50 Acespike
4:07 Quoisexual
4:33 Fictosexual
4:48 Erassexual
5:03 Caedsexual
5:40 Outro

[lilyalberta]

I love to learn about the communities within the asexual community, but I think you miss aegosexual

[matildemendespinto]

I'm asexual and omniromantic, and I've never felt so good in any labels as I feel in these - normally I tell people that I am just bi, because people dont get that my sexual attraction and my romantic attraction are separated and, in my case, completely oposite.

[ws]

5:26 - 5:40 :
"This is an important ones because I think a lot of people are under the impression that if you're asexual you're always asexual or that your sexuality can't be influenced by the events that happened in your life, which is not true."

I once came across the story of an woman that once was polyamorous and attracted to guys and other genders, but unfortunately because of a trashy ex-boyfriend she had, now she only desires monogamous relationships with women or enbies.

[KaiseaWings]

Seems like I'm a few of these. 'Asexual' is just easier and gives me lots of wiggle room. Remember that labels should serve you, not the other way around. It's okay to have several, none, or change around.

[jonasholzer]

I've been wondering for a while now, whether I'm some flavor of asexual. The confusing thing is, that I'm drawn to the idea of being sexually intimate with someone, but when I'm actually in the situation I most often have this feeling of "this is awkward, and kinda boring. And can you not kiss me on the mouth? hmm I kinda want to be alone watching YouTube"
but then again after a while of being on my own, without a sexual partner I feel like I'm missing it.
It can be really distressing at some point, because I don't wanna hurt the other person by telling them to go.

[willowwoolgather]

Thank you so much for mentioning fictosexuality! I’m aware of how “cringey” fictosexuality can sound to most. As for me, I simply prefer the novelty of certain fictional concepts and characters over real people! I’ve never felt for real people what I do for fictional characters.

[eveningjaguar]

For a long time I believed myself to be demisexual, but recently I’ve felt it’s more complicated than that.. this video opened up more options than online searching has done for me! Thank you so much for making this and helping me hopefully pinpoint my attraction on the spectrum

[umuh]

Honestly lately I have been wanting to look into and learn more about asexual and aromantic identities, and this is helping. I have been very confused lately due to the fact that while I do experience sexual attractions/feelings, the idea of actually having sex with someone/the act itself seems really unappealing to me, almost like I see it as gross or something, unless I am already having strong romantic feelings for them and are in a relationship. Most the time if I get 'crushes' it only lasts like a week and it feels like I am forcing myself to have those feelings/trying to hang onto them, and I may be hyperfixating on that particular person more then genuinely wanting to date them. It's all been confusing, but I am hoping to learn more in general to both understand myself and others better.

[miriammiko]

My search: 5 Signs you're Goth.
Youtube: were you searching for Asexuality?
Me: WELL I AM NOW!!!

Joking aside, when I first heard the meaning of Asexuality my first thought was that it was comfy.
Like a warm blanket on a cold night comfy ^_^
Your videos and some research (Reddit is surprisingly helpful)
I've started taking notes and writing things out just in case
It's really just my avoident personality disorder and my self isolation ^^;

[ShadowAnimeation]

Yeah, sexuality can be effected by your life experiences. Your experiences don't create your sexuality, but they can and often do have effects on how you interact with your sexuality. For example if a person is bisexual but had a really bad relationship with a guy in college, then they may seek future relationships with exclusively women. This doesn't change their sexuality, they are still Bisexual. But past experiences have influenced how they want to interact with their sexuality.

[aussiemerican]

Ok so I love how you shined light on members of the ace spectrum, so I’m gonna do the same.

I’d like to introduce all of you to orchidsexuality. Basically, being orchidsexual means you have and feel sexual attraction however you do not feel an urge to act upon this attraction.

[lanaemailander]

I am asexual and this was wonderful! It is so nice to see more stuff like this. It seems that people think you need to try more things or you just don’t really know and will “figure” it out eventually. But we know who we are 🥰

[orwellianwiress]

I'M SO HAPPY YOU TALKED ABOUT FICTOSEXUALITY💜💜💜 I often feel the burden of not belonging to a common sexuality and I'm so glad someone else is here to educate us! Fictosexuality is REAL, and it is VALID! If anyone has any questions about fictosexuality, just ask me!

[Bookwormtalksabout]

After watching this video I’m convinced that if more people learned about the LGBTQIA+ community and the different sexualities a lot more people would find themselves reflected in the terms and identity as members and then we wouldn’t be a minority. Also thank you for including cupiosexual, because I identify as cupiosexual

[rennyoroll]

i recently had a negative sexual experience that really turned my whole perspective and understanding of my sexuality into chaos. this video really has started to help me sort through that. thank you <33

[GoddessAthena]

My sexual attraction has always changed and shifted quite rapidly making relationships in general very difficult with a combination of Grayomanticism and being Aroflux, this video really helped me understand myself more so thank you

[ezrenficker]

I love how you talked about fictosexual and caedsexual. I've seen those labels get hated on even within the ace community which is sad to see. I haven't really used the fictosexual label despite it describing my experience because of the hate it gets.

And I can't stand the arguments about asexuality in relation to trauma... Some people get mad at the caedsexual label because they believe it perpetuates the belief that all aces are ace because of trauma, but I just don't understand that argument. One sub-label doesn't apply to everyone under the umbrella. And I don't think trauma survivors should be forced to sort through their feelings in order to figure out if they are "ace enough" yknow? It shouldn't matter WHY a person identifies with a label or what caused them to experience attraction (or lack thereof) the way that they do, what matters is how that person feels and if they feel a label describes them then they should be able to use it without people gatekeeping

[LeopardMask]

Ever since I researched it for myself a year or so ago, every so often I get ace-related stuff recommended to me by Youtube. I'm glad I watched this - I feel like I learned some things! I only knew about a couple of these. I've just been calling myself ace, but I _think_ quoisexual might be right for me... will have to -overthink- consider that one :)

[katecattus]

Took me no less than a decade to learn I’m asexual. It’s interesting to get to know about how different people’s experience with sexual attraction is

[sillygirl]

thank you for being open to fictosexuality as an identity. As I am under that umbrella and I'm often mocked of not taken seriously. so I appreciate your acceptance.❤😄