Should Guys Open Doors for Girls?

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ORIGINAL MUSIC BY: Garrett Vandenberg

[Sirrantsalot]

I hold it open for everyone regardless of gender.

[OMentertainment]

Origin: women's dresses were so large an unwieldly, it was difficult for them to properly reach the door to open it. Try opening a door in a hoop skirt, corset, and petticoats. Thankfully, the service has evolved to simple kindness from one human to another. Overall point though, I agree. I was yelled at for the same thing, which caused me to stop, at which point I got yelled at for not opening doors for people. You lose either way, so it's better to lose through kindness.

[LizziesAnswers]

I LOVE when guys hold doors open for us!  I think it's sweet & respectful :)  And I hold doors open for people too- like if I'm walking out of a building and there's someone behind me.  I don't think this should be controversial. "People should open doors for people" ON POINT!!

[WeirdAl]

I'll hold the door open for anyone regardless of gender, but I have to get inside eventually

[Joybear_]

I hold the door  open for guys (and girls)  all the time. every time they thank you.

[alannah]

I don't understand why some girls get so mad over that. Why would you get mad over someone being kind to you? No matter if it's a girl or guy, I always appreciate someone taking the time to think about the person behind them instead of just letting the door drop in their face.

[rachaelkatharine]

Once I saw a girl say something sharp to a guy who held the door for her. What he to her was, "I am not opening this door for you because you are a woman, I am opening this door because I am a gentleman." That blew me away! What a good answer.

[ladybickster]

???? I open doors for people all the time and I am, in fact, a female?! Society confused me sometimes

[bv]

I have never come across somebody who was offended by an act of kindness such as this. Who are these people? They sound like an utterly miserable lot.

[thatguywithawatch]

I open doors for girls because I was brought up to believe that men should respect women and treat them with kindness. If that's been reclassified as sexism, than I suppose I'm a sexist. And if a girl is offended by it (which does happen once in a long while), then I just smile at them and laugh inwardly. Seriously, why should I care if they decide to take offense at my act of service? I'll hold the door for guys as well, just out of common courtesy.
Of course, I live in the south where displays of courtesy and politeness are commonplace. For instance I say "yes ma'am" and "yes sir" all the time out of habit, but when I say it to someone who's not from the south I sometimes get interesting reactions.

[greatpudgyowl]

I open it for whoever it directly behind me. Mainly because it'd be awkward to go through the door and let it basically slam shut for the other person behind me, sometimes forcing them to speed leap for the handle

[aussieballerinababe]

I'm a girl. I love guys opening doors for me. I see it as gentlemanly. I also open doors for everyone. Mostly old people and people who are carrying heavy stuff but everyone just the same.

[MeMyselfAndPi]

I actually do specific things just for the ladies to show special appreciation for them. To show that same kind of respect for other guys seems to devalue the gesture all together.

Whether it would be holding a door open for her, taking her dishes, or letting her have the last seat in the room, it's a way of saying, "hey, I value your role in society as a women, and I would like to show my appreciation by sacrificing my wants for you." I feel like if men and women try to show that same respect everyone, it wouldn't feel as special for a lady to have a gentlemen do something for her.

So how can women show an equal appreciation for men? Honestly, the way I feel appreciated by a lady is when she shows gratitude to me for helping her. There's nothing quite as satisfying for a guy than to be thanked by a lady for helping her with a computer program, thanked for bringing in the groceries, or thanked for holding the door open.

God created men and women with distinct qualities, and we should use the best culture actions to show appreciation for each of them. That's true equality.

[MollytheMagnificent]

Hit it on the nail Jordan. And I really like when guys open the door for me.

[martagalindo]

Stop freaking out about it. Just do it. It's an act of kindness! :) I open the door for guys and girls. I don't see why some people think it's wrong. I actually feel bad when someone is behind me and I don't hold the door open for :/

[mikaylaa.k.]

When I've had guys refuse to walk through doors that I, a female, hold open - it's hard not to take it bitterly. That's why the conditions at the end of this are so important. It's ok to be a nice person! But when you're only being "nice" to girls, how nice are you really being? 

[NerdmaidFaith]

I'm Canadian. We will go out of our way to make sure that the door is held open for everyone.

[lexiober]

I believe people should open doors for people to be a nice person. I don't think people should do it based on who wants to go through the door

[carolyngarner]

I always feel touched when anyone opens the door for me, guy or girl. And honestly, I'll respect a guy a lot more for opening a door for me, rather than not.

[YourUncleBenis]

I do it because it's polite and I'm able, what's the problem with that?