Dr. Doug Lisle on Do We Have Free Will, Closing Open Loops, Borderline Personality Disorder, & MORE!

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In today's live Q & A Dr. Doug Lisle answers viewers questions on Borderline Personality Disorder, what personality types are more susceptible to the Pleasure Trap, how to close loops on traumatic events, how to stop snacking and grazing after dinner, how to help others who complain about their health issues but refuse to make any changes and more.

To get your questions answered personally by Dr Lise you can book a private consultation or sign up for my email list at www.ChefAJ.com and when we send out the weekly email on Sunday announcing the guest line-up, submit your questions.

Dr. Douglas J. Lisle, Ph.D.

Dr. Doug Lisle is an evolutionary psychologist and co-author of The Pleasure Trap: Mastering the Hidden Force that Undermines Health and Happiness. He and his colleagues (Jennifer Howk and Richard Seidel) have developed a revolutionary method for approaching life challenges and improving self-confidence and self-esteem. They describe their approach as Esteem Dynamics — an approach with clinical insights derived from evolutionary psychology.

Central figures having major influence on the development of Esteem Dynamics include Richard Dawkins, John Tooby and Leda Cosmides, David Buss, Robert Trivers, Steven Pinker, and Geoffrey Miller. All of these individuals are considered world-leading theorists in evolutionary theory and human psychology. Somewhat surprisingly, insights from these trailblazers has yet to reach mainstream clinical psychology, and thus major advances stemming from some of the world’s greatest thinkers have yet to be systematically applied to problems of helping people improve their lives. Esteem Dynamics is the first such effort, and weds Dr. Lisle’s 30-years of clinical experience to the deep insights into human nature only recently available via evolutionary psychology.

Dr. Lisle received his undergraduate education from the University of California, San Diego. He completed his Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology at the University of Virginia, and was then appointed Lecturer in Psychology at Stanford University. His research and clinical interests include health and wellness, self-esteem, relationship satisfaction, the treatment of anxiety and depression, the genetics of individual differences, and optimizing achievement motivation. In addition to his work with Esteem Dynamics, Dr. Lisle lectures widely on health and wellness.

Dr Lisle is available at selected days and times for a one-to-one, personal phone consultation:

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VIDEO CHAPTERS
00:00 Guest introduction and email Q & A including Borderline Personality Disorder
0:17:00 Continued email Q & A including on the Pleasure Trap and Closing Open Loops
0:41:25 Continued email Q & A including Making Health Changes/Snacking/Grazing and if we have Free Will
1:09:42 Final thoughts and show wrap

[michellegrantvaughn]

This is now my favorite interview and I watch many. Dr Doug is brilliant. He helped me close a loop in one session with him ( my son died from a medical treatment for his cancer and I couldn’t stop questioning why did I let the neurosurgeon do what he suggested, could I have done anything differently type of thing) so Dr Doug really helped me with that.
On a professional note— I am a psychotherapist and just listening to Dr D and Jen has made me much better, much more effective at helping my clients.
Huge gratitude for you AJ and for Dr D and for this interview in particular. Just excellent.

[antoniakern]

I can’t even express how beyond stunned I am by Dr. Lisle every time over and over again. I deeply admire both of u and the knowledge u r putting out there. I could listen for hours with no end! Thank u from the bottom of my heart ♥️

[SSSyndrome]

For anyone who likes what Dr. Lisle or Dr. Howk have to say, I really can't encourage you enough to subscribe to their Living Widsom Library and tune into their Beat Your Genes Podcast.

Their evolutionarily-informed clinical insights have transformed my life. A lifetime subscription to their service was probably the best $100 I've ever spent.

[aa]

Dr. Lisle’s answer to the question about personality disorder was really thought provoking. I have very close personal experience of living with and dealing with personality disorders. In my experience, I felt like Dr.Lisle was so spot on when he said the typical therapist will begin the session with tell me about your childhood and family of origin. After going that path, and remember you are paying for this session in time and money, you realize they are not getting anywhere close to changing anyone’s personality or dealing with anything better. All you are doing is living with the same problems you had before you are just short of a couple hundreds dollars and time you took away to go through those sessions. I also found his idea interesting that the best you can do to live a functional life is to see if you can live in an environment conducive to your personality trait. So if I interpreted that right, let’s say you are a person with OCD about cleanliness and you choose to be a surgical nurse. Well now your personality is so best suited to your job, it’s not in the way it’s the best you could ask for. You excel at your job because of your personality trait! That is some amazing idea! Dr. Lisle is a genius!

[gosiakonstanty]

it's always amazing to listen the wisdom of Dr Lisle. Wonderful Chef AJ, thank you

[robyniaea]

Loving Dr. Lisle rocking the whiskers! Looking great! Both of you ♥️

[Yachtblackgold]

DITTO!!! Dr Doug is THE BEST GUY on the internet! :) ...."I can’t even express how beyond stunned I am by Dr. Lisle every time over and over again. I deeply admire both of u and the knowledge u r putting out there. I could listen for hours with no end! Thank u from the bottom of my heart ♥️"

[HeyYall]

This old man is golden. He is a national treasure.

[AtypicalPaul]

Omg I love this! 1st answer. It's not a disorder it's a personality variation :)

[jillponce]

I love watching interviews with Dr Lisle. He is such a joy and he is very smart. Thank you for sharing AJ !!

[griffo]

Absolutely fascinating as always, and such valuable insights. Sometimes it can be hard to hear, but it’s always helpful once you come to terms with how it all works - or doesn’t work.

[Lillian]

I think personality is changeable. The more we become self aware and have insight, the better the chances of changing and growing.

[elizabethheiland]

I was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and thank God they never tried to give me medicine. And I haven't had another manic or depressive episode and it's been 12 years

[patylombard]

After a very long wait...cannot wait to work with these two at TRUE NORTH!! Here I come! xoxoP

[claire]

Doug is literally aging like fine wine. So handsome with the stubble

[Yazoooak]

Thank you for bringing the wonderful Dr. Lisle to us!

[cheryllewis]

Lol! I love this guy! I have the sucker triad! And I have been marked as a sucker target, however, I am highly ethical and I live first do no harm to self or others, so it is more difficult to exploit me than they think. Also, never underestimate a man’s ability to underestimate a woman. 😊

[nazokashii]

Always interesting to have Dr Lisle on 😌 thank you so much 💜

[indirajayaraman]

Nice explanation of how we think. Thank you for your tips

[marleri]

Thank you for this borderline pd explanation. I have an adult kid with a diagnosis of BPD at approx age 20 now 28. This explanation helps me understand.