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[ardent]

As a survivor of narcisstic abuse, all I crave right now is peace and quiet. What I've wanted most is the day where I can open the door to my own place and no one is there, just peacefulness. No one to tell me that I can't have this, or can't have that, can't do this or can't do that, and I don't have to sneak stuff I bought for myself into the house for fear of being questioned about it or punished for it like I'm still 10 years old. Normal can also be the freedom to simply enjoy your life in peace without having to pay the narcissist's toll.

[wenidog]

It took me a very long time to realize that you don't have to set yourself on fire to keep everybody else warm.

[demian]

As a survivor I crave:
Honesty. Sincere apology. Sincere forgiveness. A sense of belonging. Loyalty. Exchange of ideas. The list continues.

[TurtleTimeVoiceOvers]

With my now ex narcissist I eventually realized I wasn’t asking too much. I was just asking the wrong person.

[NarcSurvivor]

After being around narcissists, you may just crave a normal relationship that is calm, peaceful and understanding. But that also makes you a target for more narcissists to come in. So be careful.

[lookingtowardsthesun]

As soon as I saw the title of the video, my response was: "Peace." I crave peace. I just want PEACE.

[MrRobot-jbtI]

When first entering into the narcissistic relationship, we thought we had everything we wanted in a relationship. Until we realized we were just in the love bombing phase and never really had any of it in the first place.

[janetquinn]

A narcissist doesn't believe in apologies or forgiveness no matter how abusive and wrong they are.

[Jeanne]

I would have said "peace, " never living again in an environment where you hate to come home, never having to walk on eggshells to avoid an eruption that has nothing to do with you, never allowing another person to decide when and if you're allowed to be happy or even content...and never becoming like the tormentor merely to survive.

[johnq.public]

As a survivor of multiple narcissists, all I want to be left alone in peace and quiet. No more relationships of any kind ever again. Period.

[CiaofCleburne]

“It’s not normal to stay quiet out of fear of being gaslighted.” I needed to hear this today Dr. R. Thank you❤

[davidireland]

I crave validation, apologies, forgiveness, empathy, understanding, and NOT “feeling like I shouldn’t feel the way I do”

[bookemdano]

As a survivor I crave...to be left alone in my own space and not have to go through the day dreading the moment a person is going to walk through that door and my time is up.

[marisp]

I feel this immense grief when I see friends who genuinely love each other, and connect on a deeper level, especially best friends, because it's what I so desperately crave after a decade of abuse from people who held that role for me. I just want a best friend again.. a real one.

[PassionateFlower]

Narcissist: "Why can't you just let it go and stop living in the past. It's only hurting you to hold a grudge. Holding anger in your heart towards others is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to suffer."

Translation: "Why can't you just stop trying to hold me accountable for my shamefully deplorable acts of sadism and cruel torment? I'm really scared you're onto me and on the verge of exposing me which is a threat to my fragile sense of false identity I built a fake reputation off of and without that facade everyone will see through my hero victim narrative to the slimy lying predator I am underneath. So either get with the program and let me control the narrative and play the mean entitled needy loser role I've assigned to you in order to soothe my inferiority complex or I will make your life even more of a living hell than it already is and turn everyone against you. Your anger towards me means I'm losing control over you. Your indifference towards me means that I must destroy you or act like you never existed as punishment for narcissistically injuring me with your critical thinking skills and challenging too many of my logical fallacies."

[jessicaabbott]

I crave respect for my boundaries. I crave a simple conversation that goes 2-ways instead of 1. I crave an honest discussion. I crave positivity. I crave words being spoken at a suitable volume. I crave calmness. I crave the ability to laugh it off. I crave inner peace. I crave a hug.

[شهرزاد_نور]

Be the person who breaks the cycle. If you were judged, choose understanding. If you were rejected, choose acceptance. If you were shamed, choose compassion. Be the person you needed when you were hurting, not the person who hurt you. Vow to be better than what broke you—to heal instead of becoming bitter so you can act from your heart, not your pain.

[rypoelk]

During the pandemic one Christmas, I spent it alone for the very first time. Eating chinese, drinking wine and watching the snow fall at night. It was the most peaceful tranquil Christmas of my life. It was the first holiday where my body was given rest. Now that the pandemic is over, and when I go down to visit my narcissistic family members for the holidays I become physically ill and bed ridden. Being able to take a break from visiting family for the holidays for several years forced me to see how much of a toll they were really taking on me when I did go down. Now I can finally tell them I'm not coming down, laying down some boundaries. Just at a physical level some of them would take everything out of me, pure exhaustion. Eating chinese, being lazy and watching the snow have become all I ever wanted. We all deserve peace.

[gertrudewest]

I am almost 60 years old and needed to be seen and heard. It would have been nice to say something and not be dismissed or demeaned. I have come to radically accept that unhealthy communication is the norm. I am snuggled by three birds in my bed as I drink coffee and listen to this. Where there’s love there’s hope. We must keep the flame burning.

[Marlov]

This is JUST what I’ve been thinking the last months. I truly crave normal. I crave a relationship where my body feels calm. Where there is a space for boring. Where there is a sense of tranquility. Where I can sense my breath again because there is a stillness. I crave a mundane rainy Tuesday coming home from work, talking about what to eat for dinner, and watching a series. I crave talking about normal and boring stuff. I crave routine.