I Asked Them To Stop CPR On My Mom

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[dawgstudioswoohoo]

It hurts to lose someone, but telling them to STOP? Has to hurt even more. I feel very sorry for you and I'm glad to know that you learned something from the experience.

[BorjaBandera]

In July 2022, we lost our mother to acute myeloid leukemia. Let's transform this pain into learning and motivation to help others. Take care, Mike! ❤

[luckyrevamped]

My sister works in the ICU and she always tells me that the best she can do is to try and push through. It sucks seeing people die. But life outside of that room in that moment, proceeds like normal. Sorry about your loss. She would have been proud of you, Mike.

[mgguygardening]

I lost my daughter to suicide in 2014, and his comments at the end about his wife really struck home. It was hard to accept that life is still going on for people no matter what you may have personally been through.

[HeisenbergFam]

My heart goes out to Dr. Mike who lost his mom, im sure she would be proud of how much you achieved in like 5 years of doing YT, props for dedication

[luisvelasquezjr]

This is always a difficult situation when a death happens in my unit. I work as an RN and yeah we like to joke around and have fun. We usually don't do that stuff in front of the patient unless we know them. Knowing how to read the room and learning social cues are vital skills for a healthcare professional. There has to be a happy medium between having your heart bleed for every patient and just not caring at all. If you stop caring, then the quality of care will go down. Emotional health and mental health are extremely important for patients. If you care too much all the time, you burn out. That's another vital skill every healthcare professional needs, knowing how to balance themselves to prevent burnout, yet provide the highest quality of care for their patients. Thank you for sharing that experience with us. I'm sure it is a sore spot in your life, but it helps remind the rest of us to be mindful of each other.

[teamthoth]

I lost my mom to cancer. I can't find the words to describe how it devistated me to see her like that, in pain, helpless, and fading away.

[mayflower]

I lost my dad aged 59 to cancer, he passed away in front of my sister and I. No words can describe that moment, watching my strong, beautiful dad slip away before my very eyes. It was all so powerful and painful at the same time. I’m glad I could be by his side to give him comfort during his last moments.

[austinbranham]

I’m sorry for your loss Mike, your mom would be so proud with how far you’ve come
Edit: Can’t believe they’re are still people who are sick enough to joke about a person’s death a sad world we live in

[alteazucchini]

I'm so so sorry for your lost, Mike but I know that she's watching you and she's so proud of what you became. As a doctor but, in particular, as a person❤️

[ameliahayward]

My dad lost his mom to cancer, cancer is a horrible disease. Dr.Mike is so open to questions about it and I love that about him.

[chellebethel]

You did something I could not. I lost my mom last year, January 7th 2022 to complications with COVID. We were both on death's door, the two of us having multiple medical conditions. I can't tell you how devastating it is to live, when all you want to do is die, after someone who is everything to you doesn't make it. I have a brain tumor and I always imagined myself dying before everyone in my family. My mom was a nurse, my caretaker, my best friend, and my foundation. She is the strongest and fiercest woman I've ever known and I'm ashamed to say that I couldn't let her go. I think the paramedics saw this and told me they found a heartbeat and were going to rush her to the hospital. I thank them for that, because I could never have let go, as selfish as that is. Thank you so much for sharing this. ❤

[yasaminwhy]

I lost my grandmother to cancer when I was 22. I always remember going back to university the next day, and nobody was acting any differently, and I wanted to scream at all of them, "THIS IS NOT A NORMAL DAY! I HAD THINGS I NEEDED TO SAY TO HER!"

So sorry for your loss, Doctor Mike. She must have been a wonderful person. ❤️

[itsjustAnjola]

I lost my mom to breast cancer when I was five. I never got the chance to say goodbye. 10 years later and it still hurts you know. Thx for sharing your experience with us ❤

[timothyj]

My mom was in Nursing Home for 7 years. She had quite a sense of humour with all the Staff from Cleaners to Nurses. It was a long 5 days for Mom to pass ---I will never forget one by one the different Staff coming in and hugging us with tears in their eyes- and I don't get how they deal with it every single day. Was even more shocked when the Janitor and a few Nurses came to the Funeral Home. Like... these people are HEROS who treat people with Dignity!

[onmyleft]

I’m so sorry Mike. Cancer is tough. Your fans are here for you! 💛

[rubayaafzal]

That's such a considerate thought for the hospital staff. Like they can't be emotionally available everytime. They can't bear everyone's pain everytime.

[joseabril]

The fact that he had to ask them to stop is the part that makes me feel terrible. And the fact that he’s open to talking about it shows how strong he is as a person. I feel bad for anyone who has had to go through any of that. Stay strong! ❤️

[jewelsanchez]

You’re so inspiring Doctor Mike🙏🏼 I lost both my parents to addiction and I’ve been so angry and doubtful of myself … now I’m working towards a degree in medicine.
It shows that negative experiences can be turned to learning points and valid points of experience 🙏🏼 never stop what you’re doing! You shine so bright in this world!

[hermosojohnchristian]

This hits so close to home. Doctor here, and I lost my grandmother who took care of me as a child back in Feb 19, 2023 to pulmonary adenocarcinoma. I remember being in the hospital room for my family's assurance and teaching some of the med students who rotated in some ways to do bedside physical exam and vitals. I also made friends with the Internal medicine resident on duty while we were going over my grandmother's chart. I was outside and she coded around lunch time when the rest of the family was going to visit her and I remember my mom begging the residents to proceed with CPR. As I rushed back to the room I had to ask the senior resident how much epi was already injected, he said it was the 4th and I knew already that continuing CPR would provide no benefit and that it was already too late. I had to walk back to my family to tell them that it too late. I remember holding my tears back as my mom was screaming my grandmother's name. I had to hold her on both shoulders and look at her in the eyes and say "we have to stop it now" as she begged them to keep her alive. Then when she finally agreed to top CPR, I walked back to the room and I could remember everything felt slower. I then told the team "STOP CODE", then i started crying once they did and hugged my girlfriend, who was also a doctor. As the team went out of the room they said their condolences and walked out as my family rushed in the room. Then I thought about how I was used to seeing the codes, how everything was so familiar at that time, I always thought I was used to seeing someone die until it was my own family that did. I walked back to the IM resident on duty who was keeping her self busy and I said "I hope you don't blame yourself for this, because neither my family or I blame you for her death" after I said those words she started crying and I gave her a hug. It was quite a learning experience for me. But im comforted with the fact that my grandmother got to see me as a doctor before her final hours.