Stop Scorekeeping | Dave and Ashley Willis

Most of us spend more time than we should on screens, and cell phones can be a huge distraction in marriage, but they can also be a tool to help stay connected with your spouse. In this episode, Dave and Ashley discuss ways to create healthy habits with technology plus some creative and fun ideas on how to use your phone to flirt with your spouse.

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A podcast dedicated to undressing the truth about sex, intimacy and lifelong love. The concerns and questions most couples have in marriage often go unspoken, until now. Hosts Dave and Ashley Willis bring wisdom, vulnerability, and humor to even the toughest marriage topics. Together they have built a strong following, reaching millions of married couples through their blogs, books, and videos. They have four young sons and live near Dallas, TX.

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XO Marriage exists to help couples have a healthy and strong marriage. We do this by hosting conferences, creating resources, and offering encouraging digital content. Our world-class speakers offer leading marriage advice to equip couples with the necessary tools for a successful marriage. We believe that every marriage can thrive.

[Cjusmc]

My wife really needed this message! (Totally tongue in cheek), I really appreciate this reminds me that I need to let my wife know how much I appreciate everything she does

[georgevillegas]

Keeping score, wow, how true. Thank you for this message! My wife and I are learning to want to "lose" and not keep score so that our marriage wins.
Blessings

[SnookOnTheFly]

I’m not scorekeeping; I absolutely flat out neglected. I want to have an intimate relationship with a partner that just wants to be roommates. I’m not withholding myself from her; I am hurt and empty from the dysfunction and all the crazy that goes with it.

[caleb]

I loved this message so much! I really needed this one. Thanks Dave and Ashley! Such a blessing! Praying for you two and your family's success in God's will!🙏🏿 Keep up the good work!

[HonestlyTho-ThePodcastShow]

Marriage is like baptism, it should be publicly as well as personally displayed. He definitely is dealing with fear

[Dubblesteel]

I Thank God for you guys because your open and honest conversations about all subjects that you all present, all done in a Godly manner. Also the Love you show towards each other is awesome. Keep it up and God Bless.

[derwingonzalez]

😭I'm literally crying right now because you guys have cut me down to size. I never realized I was doing this in the pain I was causing to my spouse. 😭

[jessyjonas]

Great episode guys
Make life fun
Trials will come
Where we con control make it fun
Continued Blessings on your ministry

[HeartOfGodChurch.]

We love this topic, we will love to connect with you guys❤️🕊

[UnAshamed]

Dave cracks me up when he was saying that it turns him on when you get things accomplished. 😂😂 he reminds me so much of my husband. Y’all are just so cute together. ❤️ I love cleaning too and it can be relaxing for me.

[Shaun.Harris]

For the question at the end, I think you missed the question entirely. The boyfriend DOES say he’s okay with a public ceremony. The issue with the legal marriage is that it becomes easy to corrupt it legally. We are humans and we do fall. When one spouse falls and is angry, the world (especially lawyers) can use that sin to further divide the couple. If one spouse files for divorce, the other needs an attorney to defend themselves. Next thing you know you aren’t talking to each other and working toward restoration, you are talking to attorneys instead. If the legal part of it is out of the picture, there is less chance of the world trying to divide the relationship for profit.

[Rancid-Jane]

As for the question at the end; I have yet to find anywhere in the bible that tells us to have a wedding. Marriage is encouraged but no instruction for wedding. Weddings seem to be entirely a human invention.

[daniellewelbon]

What if the husband and wife is scorekeeping with sins and who sins harder and worse so how do things ever get resolved. I know we're supposed to have repentive broken and contrite heart for the things that we've done and be remorseful but what if there is one side and the other starts feeding into it when the fight starts.. how will it ever work unless bother sides are repentive and remorcful and I'm not just talking about one big issue but they have piled up do to not being dealt with when one wanted to but was shot down and shut out to resolve then they build up because the other just blows up or shuts down or shuts out like their MIA and punishing them and now for six months we have been living in different places. I'm still at home praying he comes home but says it's too toxic but week after week I've tried in the past to talk about these things to resolve them. I'm so tired please pray for Bradley and Danielle Welbon and our three daughters.

[sonnyh]

28:00 They are talking about "legal" marriage. The couple should get married... period... I agree. "Legal" marriage is a different animal that the STATE gets to define and regulate. Getting married in the eyes of God is a covenant between one man and one woman and should have witnesses of the covenent (but doesn't have to as we see with Adam and Eve). A "marriage license" is a legal contract between two people and the STATE where the STATE is a third party of interest in the marriage and God is not included. Marriage and "legal marriage" is two different things. In STATE marriage the contract can be between same sex partners which God abhors and detests. Again, it's two completely different things.

[EnemyAce]

If you spend all your time serving someone who has no interest in doing the same for you, your marriage will be nothing but misery and celibacy.