How To Have 'Perfect' Social Skills

Graham Norton has what many people would consider their ideal charisma - for two reasons.

One, Graham Norton doesn’t need to hog the spotlight in order to shine. And two, Graham Norton seems to have the ability to make ANYONE like him. From rockstars to movie stars to professional athletes, people from all walks of life seem to love being around him.

So today we’re going to talk about a 4 step formula that Graham Norton uses to make people love him even while he teases them, and how you can use it to make yourself both funnier and more well liked.

0:34 Graham Norton creates a warm and positive connection
1:26 Graham Norton compliments especially on Graham Norton Show
2:55 How to be funnier and how to make people like you
5:33 How to use banter and teasing to get everyone on the same level
9:00 Graham Norton does the art of self deprecation

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[Grimm]

Learning to socialize is like learning a foreign language from scratch.

[louisefox]

Graham Norton is a genuinely nice guy. Being genuine is really, really important. And he's sharp and clever. He's not forced, he's spontaneous.

[sabahaltaf]

Jimmy Fallon never clicked on a video so fast

[micha]

1 Warm friendly vibe, smile, touch, compliment based on accomplishment
2 humor, and make them feel you get them, laugh along with other's joke
more time listening than speaking
3 playfull teasing gives a familiar feeling (dont attack identity, dont tease about something that can not be changed). Best if earlier before, a compliment.
4 listens intently and focused, let the other talk. To be intersting by being intetested, eyecontact

[samuelvoges]

Great video which is worth watching
A small summary:

1. Create a warm positive connection at the beginning of the interaction
1. Smile and touch (search for little hints/Hinweise how the person likes to be greeted/welcomed)
2. Make others feel good with complement based on their accomplishment
2. Made others lough
1. Use a wide range of vocal tonality and emotional expression to get a lough
2. Laughing along with someone else’s jokes (you make them feel like you’re listening to them) remember that laughter and happiness are habits that you can cultivate
3. Combining achievement-based compliments the person is proud of, playful teases and self deprecating jokes you can tease people while they lough and love you.
1. Whoever you’re teasing should be laughing along with you
2. By playfully giving each other a hard time you immediately create a familiar feeling
3. Be careful don’t attack someones identity and don’t tease something that is unchangeable and important to them
4. Set the stage by making a sincere complement and you are able to tease little things without offending anyone
5. Dont make yourself the but of every joke
4. Be an active listener Dale Carnegie „to be interesting, be interested"

[BalancedEarth]

I'd like to see a video about someone doing the exact opposite of charisma and breaking apart how they could have improved. Whether that be a character from a movie or an actual interview.

[goodgirl]

I've been waiting for you guys to do Graham Norton for a while now! He is the most witty and likable person I know. Love him!

[popland]

I think a LOT of Irish people are naturally friendly, complimentary and seek out humour and therefore are widely liked. The accents of Ireland are also very musical so he changes his pitch a lot

[earl-grey-milk-tea]

Can you do more videos on charismatic women, please? A lot of your videos focus on male speakers/personalities and some of the humour or techniques that they use work better in a 'bro' setting or don't always come across well when delivered by a woman - there's something in that society also likes women to be refined and polite. There's a lot of women who don't necessarily use humour all the time, but manage to command respect and have that sense of magnetism around them - some of the TED speakers come to mind as an easy example.

[ch-p]

Graham Norton is definitely the best talk show host in the world.

[Danik]

no the first step Graham does is gets his guests drunk.

[chilliard]

Graham Norton is, hands down, better than any other talk show host currently on TV. And I'm including the U.S. in that, because his show feels so genuine and he seems like he's having a genuine conversation with each and every one of his guests. Top video, well done guys!

[earl-grey-milk-tea]

Would like to add that in the bit about reading body language, in both cases Graham approaches with his hand held slightly out to be ready for a handshake. He notices Josh Widdicombe coming in with shoulders slightly more forward (more awkward) and with his hand outstretched, therefore he uses the handshake + back pat (caveat - back patting doesn't work so well if you're female). Jeremy Renner enters with his shoulders set back and open body language, which might indicate being open to a hug.

[alibarbi]

If you wanna improve your relationships this is the only channel in the world that makes you feel like you REALLY learnt something at the end of the video. Thank you soooo much!

[alyxisfuentes]

My stepson is 14 and entering the realm of being included in more conversations involving adults. This has been helpful for him. As often he’s the youngest, these tips are helpful to remind him he has plenty to offer a conversation

[anewloveofficial]

I instantly like someone who has a sense of humor and possess the ability of making fun of himself in order to give people a comfortable feeling towards him. Everybody wants to be happy no matter how bad the situation is, so it's not bad to carry a joke everywhere you go, atleast you can make people smile in every little things you do.

[gumersindocebollero]

this channel is a great tool for robots

[PersonalPower]

I am not really good at making compliments but I can confirm, humor and self deprecation is incredible. If you can laugh about yourself with confidence you are already good to go! If you tease you can go over board, but if you make jokes about yourself you can't really go wrong! We all like to laugh! If you want someone to like you, make them associate a positive emotion with your character. When they associate fun and laughter with you, then they will enjoy being around you and search for your presence. Good to see a fellow YouTube deconstructing celebrities social skills! I really enjoyed this one, probably because I like graham norton!

[Jonic_P]

I've been lobbying for this episode for SOOOO LONG Constantly seeing celebrities that don't usually open up or even do interviews go on Graham Norton's and show and just love it has made me deeply interested in how the man does it!!!!

[Raf_Avila]

We're interested in others when they're interested in us