What to Do When Your Ex Texts You

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Before I get into the specifics about how you should be replying to your ex, let’s first talk a bit about the possible reasons he is texting you.

The most common of those being he misses you.

Though he might not come right out and say so, if you haven’t been communicating with your ex then there’s a good chance he’s missing you. I mean, you were a part of his life at one point, so it makes sense why he may be feeling a bit nostalgic towards you and the relationship.

Men start to miss what they had after they’ve had a taste of life without it. And since meeting new women and making new connections can be tough for them, if this is the case then there’s a good chance that he’s reaching out because he has been thinking about you and is missing you.

If he’s already established that he misses you, then he may be trying to get you back, which is the next reason why he may be texting you.

The next reason your ex may be texting you is because he wants to be friends.

In this case his message will probably be pretty light hearted and friendly. He may choose to share some interesting news with you, or ask how you’ve been or what you’re up to. This message is tricky because it could be a well disguised “I miss you” message, but if he’s throwing out the friend vibe, then that’s likely the case. You should be able to tell after a few more messages from him.

Next is he is messaging you because he wants to make you feel bad, or hurt you.

This is an awful reason to text someone, but if your ex is feeling miserable about the breakup, or has any built up resentment towards you, then he may feel compelled to text you his thoughts. The important thing to remember here is that whatever nasty things he is sending you, he is doing it out of hurt. It’s important that you don’t take these messages to heart, or rebuttal with words that are equally as cruel. Instead know that he probably doesn’t mean what he’s saying, but for twisted reasons making you feel bad makes him feel better… or at least getting these feelings off his chest does.

If your ex is sorry about how the relationship ended, or something that happened while you were together, then this may be another reason for reaching out to you through text.

And the last reason I want to talk about when it comes to your ex texting you is if he is looking for a booty call.

This could be hard to spot at first because he may sugar coat his messages before implying that he wants to hook up, but a big indicator as to if he is booty calling you is the time of his message. Meaning, if he texts you in the middle of the night, or after getting home from the bar, then he could just be messaging you out of sexual desire. Regardless of whether or not you want to rekindle your relationship with your ex, you don’t want to go down this path. If you do, you risk getting hurt, and even if you’re just looking for some no-strings-attached fun, it’s still going to lead to an awkward situation. Just don’t do it.

Now, for when you are wanting to get back together, or are at least open to the possibility, there are certain things you’re going to want to keep in mind when replying to his text messages.

As I briefly mentioned earlier in this video, you’re going to want to send him a positive message. Even if you’ve been devastated since the breakup and feel like life as you know it has ended, you cannot convey that in your text message. If you do, you’ll look desperate to get him back, and even a bit pathetic. That is not the type of message that will make him want to be with you again… and if he was thinking about to get back together with you a downer message may make him change his mind.

What will make him want to be with you is a message expressing how cheerful you are, and how busy you’ve been. Sending the type of message that shows him that your life carried on after the relationship ended and it will let him see that you are a strong, independent woman who doesn’t need a man to complete her. That is an extremely attractive trait.

Lastly, if you have any questions for me, or would like to share your comments or questions, feel free to post those in the description below and I’ll personally get back to you as soon as I can!

Until next time ladies, take care and good luck!

[mummyd]

If your ex text u just ignore them especially if they walked away from u cos they just ain't worth it in the end.

[MissWiltanya]

Well he’s blocked on everything so I would hope I wouldn’t hear from him

[Brownsaphiragmai]

How to text your crush?? Should be next Amy 🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️

[Nico-jcsx]

I needed this 2 days ago. Your videos are always helpful 😁. Always thumbs up.

[kalinka]

Could you please make a video about how should I behave on the first meeting with my ex after we are in contact again? Btw thanks for the tips you really motivate me. 💕

[nicolebrowne]

Amy -after a year of our breakup this month he reached out again “ hope all is well in your world just wanted to say hello” since he been reaching out and still hasn’t managed to find time to see me, I maybe him wait 7 hrs to respond . I finally did with” hello I’m doing great in my world thanks ! He replied back instantly with oh cool “ . I mean why he is still doing this if he not showing signs of us rekindling again ?

[MegaMeme]

Very helpful information, thanks for your amazing work❤️

[yordanosteklu]

Great message, tnx sweety 💕💕💕💕💕💖💕💕💕💕💕💕💕👑

[tiakostkowski]

Hi Amy! I just wanted to say thank you for the videos! I'm going through a break up it's been two weeks since the breakup happened & your videos are helping me to not look like a IDIOT when it comes to get my ex back. Now my question is, how do i get in contact with my ex after the no contact phase is over? He blocked me on facebook, & my number, my 2nd question is if we do start talking again after he clams down, or should i wait till he contacts me? Thanks Amy! I wouldn't have been able to do this without you!

[bia-qunj]

He : what are you doing?
Me: i am fine
You?
He : fine
Are you well?
Me: yes, you?
He: let s say yas..
Me : good
And why did you even text me after what you say about me ?
He: girl stop cry 😂😂😂😂
Me : 😂😂 god
I shouldn t even respond to you😂😂😂
He: i shouldn t text you

[rebeccayoung]

Don’t respond. Block him. There is no reason for him to contact me.

[rubyblue]

I tried blocking him but he keeps getting new accounts so I just gave up

[rebekahhawkins]

A topic:
Your ex doesn’t text but he always touches you when he says hi, and comes around where you are more often... especially if you work together

[lorinacaniban]

hi Amy thank you for helpful tips..just broke up with my boyfriend

[laniegayta]

My bf suddenly broked up with me coz he doesn’t want me to wait for him. But he still send me message i miss you so much. What does it mean?

[missnatalie]

Amy I'm hoping you can answer my question. I've been trying no contact with my ex. He'll send me a message every few days but I keep my responses light and very short. This morning when I woke up he has deleted our photos off of his instagram and Facebook, but texted me a funny meme. I'm so confused, and so hurt that he would delete our photos. Is he just trying to get a reaction out of me? I haven't said anything to him yet. What do I say? Thank you, I love your videos.

[mireyaluna]

Amy I'm married to this guy and he asked me for a divorced, I apply the no contact rule twice and it worked wonders this last time, I was doing great but he backed off and went cold, I got mad today and lashed out at him super bad, because I got tired and wanted a divorced but he kinda avoided the subject (I got tired because he didn't decided if staying with me or leave me because he said he has become mean, I deal with anxiety and he said if he got mad at me he might hit me) I don't wanna keep playing his game, I tried for 6 months already and he keeps saying he might never love me like before or things like that but he's unsure now about the divorced, but today I messes up things, should I apply a no contact for two weeks or should I talk to him? If you answer me I will be gratefull to you for all eternity, thanks for reading

[TheBonitadancing]

I broke up with my ex a year and a half ago because he had another woman at the same time when he was living with me. He texted me on my birthday last year, during new year . I ignored him and the recent one was 2 weeks ago, he just called my name with an exclamation mark, I did not reply either but the thing is deep down, I still miss him but also angry about his irresponsible behaviour before ( getting to know another woman ), I don't know when and how to reply to him or should I reply to him ? Thanks

[tinisharealtalktime]

If an ex could go for months without talking to you out-of-the-blue text you I am not replying in a couple of hours I reply in a couple of days

[patriciawall]

How can you facilitate a successful "break period" in your relationship? I really don't want for the relationship to end and it's extra difficult to create space because we have pretty much all the same friends and go to the same college