Abraham: How Much Grief Is Appropriate?

Kansas City, KS 09/14/05

[yk]

My beloved dog died. The love of my life. I poured my heart to her. To my surprise im not devastasted. I looked into my heart and its because i know she lived the best possible dog life ever. I couldn’t do any better and she couldn’t be any happier. And she passed with a full life not run over by a car or anything prematurely. Thats an amazing life lived. Im at peace with that and shes in my heart forever even though her body is not around so i get it...

[BillieChristine-dc]

I didn't have grief when my dog died because I practiced finding her in my heart when I was away from home when she was sick. I knew she was relieved from sickness, so I cried twice like a feeling of, I'm going to miss her physical presence, but it wasn't that deep grief. I enjoy the connection of her spirit all the time. 😊

[wall.daisies]

It isn't about "focusing it away" to cover up the grief, it's about focusing on reality. seeing life for what it is.. a temporary and beautiful experience. Part of the loss felt is the alignment that the deceased person provided, that's now missing. It's up to us to feel that alignment on our own now. And knowing that they're not gone forever, In fact they will most likely become a new spirit guide for you! Which is like being closer than ever before. And like Abe said, grief also comes from a lack of control of not being able to change the situation. People have viewed death as a morbid and sad experience forever, simply because we have no understanding of what comes after death. If we knew that the other side was full of joy and light and oneness and wholeness, it would be a much better experience for those left behind. But also, if you feel grief, let it out! Dont cover it up! Feeling it fully will help you process and help you let go. Allow your grief. Take a day off. The loved one actually wants us to let go. They dont want to see us suffer over them. Imagine if you died and were watching over your family. It would be reaaaally difficult to watch them grieve and grieve and grieve. Youd want to say, "it's okay! I'm okay! I'm right here! Please dont be sad, I love you and I'm here with you always. It's amazing on this side!" Losing someone you love isnt easy.. and letting them go doesnt mean you have to forget them. "If you love something let it go" applies to death as well. Love isn't about possession (having the person in your life) it's about appreciation. Appreciation is celebration. Sometimes the circumstances of the death make it more difficult.. perhaps a traumatic experience was involved.. and for that, therapy would be of great benefit. I hope you all find peace and reassurance that your loved ones are ALWAYS with you, sending love. Changing the way death is viewed is what helped for me. God bless!

[PatternBreakerTarot]

Thank you so much for this. I so appreciate it today. ❤️

[thisisrandomphrase]

Amazing! Grief feels bad because it contradicts what source knows. And what source knows is that there's no such thing as loss or death, we are all together, alive or dead.

[sugarlien]

There is never "get over". It's only "feel better". Sad because I no longer have our beloved ones with me, physically. I know energetically together but "grieve over" no more time together, in that same role, physically. But yes, "something happened that I had no control over.."

[suzanpeters]

Keep in mind that Abraham isn't or has never been, human. As human beings it is natural to be sad, when we lose a loved one, period.

[AugustGoforth]

Grief is an inevitable event, the energy of which could be transformed in ways that are ultimately transformative, perhaps even transmutational. There are those who contend that human fear and pain are illusions of some sort. This might make sense as certain truths on greater spiritual planes. Yet how many among us have grown to such advanced levels of being while still having to move and breathe in our daily lives on Earth? It seems appropriate to say that for most of us, an inseparable part of the human experience is the fear and pain that emerges from having a human body. For most people, bodily discomfort, emotional worry, and grief often result in more complex and persistent forms of fear and pain, causing us to feel helpless, hopeless, and demoralized, which together comprise the experience of Earthly suffering. Perhaps while we’re still on the Earth we may eventually be able to learn and comprehend enough about the continuous flow of universal grace, which, as many spiritual traditions have said, will undo our unnecessary suffering. Yet let us begin by accepting that we are good enough as the human beings we are right now.
The Risen: A Companion to Grief

[teresawagner]

So just pretend grief doesn't exist and it doesn't exist? Someday, all grief that we may have "pretended away" and buried, will come back. . . .grief is a normal response to significant loss. Pretending we can just "focus it away" is, well, pretending.

[twobirds]

If you feel no grief when someone does you are a psychopath