Exposing the Gay Community

Some truths about the gay community that no one really wants to talk about.

[johnconroy]

Originally came to the channel for the Porsche content. Stayed for the person.

[aiahzohar]

I joined a LGBTQ+ straight student alliance in college because one of my brothers is gay. I was shocked to hear some of the gay kids say they didn't "like" Asians or blacks. I felt just like you. How can you experience bigotry but then dump it on others? Even worse, the gay community makes excuses to normalize this. The same with ageism. It taught me a lot about human moral hypocricy. Hope you found someone--but I see you have a cat companion! xoxo

[zeb]

As a straight guy, that was very revealing to hear and I only have a deep heartfelt sympathy for your experience. I sincerely hope you can find a truly meaningful relationship one day. But it shocks me to hear how very small the odds are for someone quite normal like you! All the best to you and your future.

[dannykl]

Ethan I have been following your channel for awhile ... never gave a second thought about your sexuality you go with what feels natural my friend

[Adi-bxjg]

You remind me SO much of my old gay “business partner” who was just like you, in every way. I commend for doing this video. Although I was complete opposite of him and the lifestyle, it took me a while to find out he was actually gay. It didn’t hinder our goal of starting, owning and operating a medical clinic which was realized. I finally met his gay partner, had dinners at his house along my fiancée, we took our staff on a cruise to Mexico, it was great and I considered him a good friend. You are spot on, in regards to the gay community, they preach love and acceptance but it’s not how they are in return. I wouldn’t say all of them, but most of them. The older gay population are very different than the younger gays which is unfortunate. Nine years forward I sold my share of the business to him, got married which produced two kids of which one is named Ethan and now live all the way across the country to California to take of my elderly parents. Anyway, I’ve watched some of your videos, it started with your video about the Ferrari, and dealer and others telling you to accept these little mechanical problems because it is a Ferrari and any negative comments about it, it may devalue the car, but you expect more from an expensive car. The video was pretty funny.

[vinimaguire]

I could listen to your talks all day long. I'm a white straight anglo saxon christian male. I'm a father of four and could't be living a more polar opposite life style to you Nathan. But, I subscribed early on to your channel and watched it grow. Your honesty and empathy for everyone comes across naturally from your videos. My brother law is gay and married to a African American man. Both of them remind me very much to you, they live similar lifestyles and like you embrace their sexuality as a natural part of their being not a political stigma that has to demonstrated against 24/7. Please keep the videos coming you certainly bring a refreshing and entertaining aspect of life that I find great to watch and be part of .

[leroyybrown]

Ethan you have an attractive quality that I picked up on when I happened upon one of your videos concerning Ferrari reliability. You’re a unique individual in the herd of humanity. You stand apart, separate from the herd. Let’s be thankful for that.

[MP_pov]

Ethan, this was possibly one of your best videos. All the cars and lifestyle is good fun but this is real life. I can’t say I am an expert on the gay community, but every community and every club have their own rules, customs and cultural cues. Generally if you are in, or you want to be in, you need to follow them, and those who don’t immediately feel like outcasts. My advice is don’t try to fit in. Either you’re a natural fit or you’re not and you will never be. I’ve met and worked with many gay men in the past and what you are describing is spot on. I found it very odd and cringe as the other commenter here wrote. Be yourself and don’t change for others. Time will come for you to come across someone who is compatible. Plus, finding relationships is very difficult nowadays, even skipping the sexuality part. A lot of narcissistic, ridiculously demanding, dishonest and generally very odd people out there, and the older you get the more you see it. I suspect the hookup apps culture has played a big part in this too.

[azface]

Ethan, this was v heartfelt. Thanks for opening up about your feelings. Like one of the other posters, I came here for the Porsche content but drawn into your v likeable personality. You are a top chap! Keep doing what you’re doing.

[denvernaicker]

Your logic is sound. I have had similar thoughts regarding the community. I do censor myself to avoid confusing the other person to my detriment. I am happy that you created this video because it also voiced all my concerns as well. I came across your channel by watching the coronavirus video and then the porsche video and now this one. I think you are a stellar person and I admire you.

[robertcangelose]

I hope beyond anything that you don't suffer any negative verbal attack. As a gay man in the US, I relate. You have spoken truth. My biggest challenge is that Im also conservative which doesnt go over too well with the liberal leftist agenda. Ive lost friends over this. I find myself having to suffer in silence.

Thank you for speaking your truth. You are definitely not alone.

[damr]

I'm not new to your channel but very recently started to comment your videos. I live in Stockholm, and this video has given me great insight to the gay community as a straight man (I know that i'm 100% straight, not attracted to men). Your points have cleared things up for me with the reactions I've received from gay people in the clubs when I've ignored them or something. They then become aggressive and hateful towards you and start to spread rumours around and to their female straight friends.. Such annoying drama behaviour....

[misst.e.a.]

I'll tell you something, Ethan, it's tough on both sides of the fence, especially when you simply can't settle for just anything or any nonsense.
Just be yourself and open your heart to a plethora of souls who share your mindset and interests. The rest will have to take care of itself.

[billgreen]

Ethan, I realise that this is vid is 2 years old now but I thought it was brilliant: thoughtful, courageous and helpful to many I am sure. As a young straight man years ago I was approached in the pool changing room of a large Sydney hotel by an attractive gay South African airways cabin crew. His approach was polite and thoughtful but obviously of no interest to me so I explained politely and wished him well. Some of my straight male friends were appalled at this encounter (this was the dark ages after all) but I was not. My overwhelming emotion was sadness as I realised how difficult it must have been back then for gay men to build meaningful romantic relationships. Before your video I had assumed that we had moved on so far these days that being gay was now of no importance at all. So much so that I wonder why we still have Gay Pride parades, aren't gay people just members of our community just like the rest of us. Perhaps the gay community hasn't moved on as far as the straight community. As a side note your video has reaffirmed my experience that minorities of any description can be the most discriminatory people around. Anyway, thanks for the video, most thoughtful. I wish you well.

[VectorOfKnowledge]

Respect and will wishes to you, my friend. We're all human and no one should be marginalized or discriminated against, or expected to join a club to affirm their humanity. Humans are often incredibly and disgustingly cliquish. I wish we could all relate to each other as individuals with dignity and intelligence, but often that's unfortunately too much to ask of our embarrassing species.

[xicofaria]

Recently following your videos for the cars. Unusual to see one's opinion on such private matters unrelated to the "cars" theme, but quite refreshing and sincere.
Congratulations for your honest pov, and wish you all the best.

[pepitoperez]

Im an average normal gay guy too and I completely agree with you. Don’t feel part of the gay community either after I tried when I was young. Trapped between 2 worlds like an earlier commenter wrote is perfect to describe it. I wish you lived in my city so we could be friends.

[thepopeofwhitetrash]

I was in your shoes for many years and finally settled down with my mate 25 years ago and I escaped and he was a Capt. in the AF and I was in law enforcement and al the pretty sassy that drove fancy cars, and wore designer cloths , were shocked I ended up married to my partner while they are all old and single . Stay the way you are, you will find happiness I promise you

[ironcap]

Very well put. I believe there are groups that are in a competition against people that are not committed to their mindset. The more inclusive, the more questionable. You made the correct call.

[philscarriage]

Only found your videos today and think your a lovely honest man with lots of good qualities.