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Making mistakes can feel so difficult for many people who suffer from OCD and anxiety.

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For information purposes only. Does not constitute clinical advice. Consult your local medical authority for advice.

[alottoftea]

I constantly worry about making mistakes in my job. Every little thing seems like the end of my world and I waste so much time worrying. Sometimes I'm able to ignore the anxiety but the more I ignore it, the stronger it gets

[andreathiessen]

I have a huge fear of making mistakes, mainly that I will inadvertently hurt, offend or disappoint someone, but also that there may be unforeseen consequences to my actions. I go through a huge amount of distress and paralysis when the decisions are big (ie. job, housing, etc.) but I also ruminate and excessively research smaller things every day, and often go over things I did or said to make sure they were acceptable. When I feel particularly stuck I can sometimes have a panic attack. It gets in the way of so much in life.

[ThisOffendsMeTV]

You’re close to that 100k. It’s nice seeing a milestone, but also a double edged sword because so many people struggle. Much love Nathan my dude🤝🏻 will always appreciate the help.

[kaeyaalberich]

Hi!! I've been using your method of letting an intrusive thought "join the party, stay for how long you want, or leave whenever you please" lately and it's helped me a lot. Thank you so much for everything you do! 🤲❤

[MaxTheSaint]

Hi Nate,

I am a 25 year old male from the UK and have been struggling with OCD on and off since 2017.

I recently made the decision to be consistent with my effort of finally dealing with this affliction.

I just wanted to reach out and extend my deepest thanks to you for the content you provide free on YouTube. It has really opened my eyes unlike anything before and I have felt an improvement already.

I am not sure if you will see this or have the time to reply. I just wanted you to know how much you are helping individuals all over the world like me. You are changing lives for the better with your work and I am eternally grateful that I found you.

Max

[ninjatall]

Summary for ADHD folks

- [00:00]🧠 Understanding OCD's Impact on Decision-Making
- Sarah's case illustrates the intense fear of making wrong decisions in OCD.
- This fear affects daily life, causing avoidance of new experiences and excessive rumination on choices.
- Small mistakes can trigger disproportionate anxiety and fear.

- [01:09] 🔄 The Cycle of OCD and Decision Paralysis
- OCD often demands absolute certainty, leading to paralysis or reliance on others for decision-making.
- Even mundane decisions can be overwhelming, causing distress and reinforcing anxiety.
- The need for certainty intensifies OCD symptoms, affecting even simple tasks.

- [02:20] ❓ 'What If' Scenarios in OCD
- OCD is often characterized by 'what if' scenarios, leading to all-encompassing anxiety.
- These fears can range from minor to severe, often seeking reassurance from others.
- Avoidance and reassurance-seeking are common compulsions in response to these fears.

- [03:17] 🚫 The Role of Avoidance and Reassurance in OCD
- Individuals with OCD often use avoidance and reassurance-seeking as coping mechanisms.
- These behaviors can include avoiding decisions, seeking others' opinions, and replaying situations for reassurance.
- This can lead to giving others the responsibility for decision-making.

- [04:11] 💡 Treatment Approaches for OCD-Related Decision Issues
- Treatment involves facing triggers and intentionally making decisions.
- Gradual exposure to anxiety-inducing situations helps retrain the brain.
- Emphasizing acceptance and learning to cope with the outcomes of decisions.

[gavinmichaelis]

This has been such a strange OCD for me to experience, when I was young I avoided almost everything because if I did something new and found out it was good in any way, I would experience distress over the way I had been doing things

[AZ-tyub]

I just started a new job and I've got a lot of anxiety about this exact topic. Great timing!

[Imhellofgames]

A big mistake I am in fear of making is being wrong about religion/the afterlife. I fear that if I am wrong in my belief at all that I will suffer, or be punished, or not be reunited with those I have lost, or that I will just turn off like an old television and there will be nothing because I was wrong. Which consumes me frequently. I desperately wish more than anything to see those I love again.

[desiree]

I'm thankful for this video. With me every decision seems like a bad one. Even not making a decision, but of course i feel safer not making one.

[robynsmith]

You actually don’t understand how helpful your videos are! I can’t actually begin about how much you have helped me throughout the last several months. You and your work are so appreciated!!!

[norse_cat]

Yep! Avoidance and reassurance always. 😢 Can you do a video on “weird”/embarrassing compulsions? I have a very odd one where if I here words I don’t “like”/that trigger me, I have to spit a certain amount of times to idk clear it from my system? Not sure where/why I came up with that and hate it.

[Adonis-official]

The only 3 things that I got from your video is that :
1.I have OCD ( supposedly)
2. Everybody watching should visit your clinic
3. We all make mistakes learn to be ok with them and navigate them

[craven]

Wow....WOW. This is so, so, ao accurate and reflective of my experience!

[dianalozko]

Recently my coworker died, she had a cancer. I was freelance working there so I didn’t met her often. Recently she started to ask me more for help- to ride her to hospital etc. She new that I will always help, but I didn’t write her -do you need help. And one day she told that she don’t need help that day to give her a ride and I said ok and I wrote her -something-don’t hesitate to write me. And she replied thank you.After 3 days she fainted at home and got to hospital. I started to feel guilty that if I just pushed more to help her, maybe she wouldn’t faint and die, so it’s my fault. I feel guilty also because I didn’t visited her while she was in hospital, but I heard from coworkers that she don’t want to see people. I called her but her phone died in midst my call and she never picked up or called back. And I just lived my life and when she died I thought that I am bad person, because I didn’t write her message nor visited her, but I didn’t knew how bad is situation…And than I or my ocd started to say that she definitely was mad on me, disappointed, and died thinking that I am terrible person. After her death I saw that she once wrote me message which I didn’t respond to, but I saw it only after her death and I beat myself that I am bad person, inattentive, maybe she would be alive if I just helped her more or she wouldn’t be sad if I visited her in hospital, as I would help her to feel better. Now I can’t sleep well some nights because I ruminate what I should’ve done differently, that she was probably mad on me, that ocd is right- I am terrible person and always disappointing others. I’m on my way of recovery but this situation really hit me hard.

[FlamingSwordful]

Thanks for the video, for me it's perfect timing

[justathumb]

such an awesome channel! i actually laughed when you were imitating all the questions i ask, basically word for word 😅 i feel seen and understood haha

[srushtiamle]

You just explain the phase I'm going through right now so perfectly.

[carloriboldi]

This is my ocd, I call it decisional ocd, the famous psychologist Giorgio Nardone calls it “hyper-rationalisation”. I have been diagnosed OCD and OCPD

[moortje]

i also feel like when i try to focus on which option makes me feel happier, i go all over the place. i think it is the other option, but then I DON'T KNOW IF THAT MAKES ME HAPPY and I go back to my current study. but then i think of the things that will frustrate me in the next 3 years