Controversial Opinion Or Just An Honest One? 🤔

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Controversial Opinion Or Just An Honest One? 🤔

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❤️ COME SAY HELLO!

[mwucfyw]

Thank you!!! Someone said it right! You need to be financially (most important) and emotionally ready!

[TheAnneHarlowShow]

Love that you said this... People seem desperate to be offended by the most innocuous things

[dreammore]

I had a pregnancy “scare” at 22 and a friend who had 2 kids at the time was hoping I was pregnant, just so she could have a mom friend… that had to be the worst reason someone could want anyone to be pregnant… it wasn’t “because kids are the greatest at this age!” Or “because kids make everything better”. It was more of “so I can have someone who relates to all my stress and we can talk about it together”. I was not ready for kids at 22. She had hers at 18 and 20.

[jjCwkH]

I have a friend who told me she went to a small dinner party where the other couple openly expressed that, given the chance, they would NOT choose to have kids again.

People should only have kids if they are sure its what they want. We are no longer OBLIGED to be parents, so please do not do it if you don't feel up to it. No guilt. No judgement. It's actually the more mature decision.

[laurenp]

"Let's entertain a conversation shall we" love it❤️

[annasiegler]

The problem isn’t having children young, the problem is that our society is structured to put the family last. Everything is set up for a lifestyle of raising children to be extremely difficult - very few intergenerational homes, husbands work away from home, it’s expected for children to be carted around to every extracurricular under the sun, etc etc. Children are a blessing and I’ve known many many large families that are very happy because they are intergenerational and structured to give support to mothers. Let’s get rid of the expectation that mothers need to do it all themselves shall we!!

[allthingsmaloney]

Whoever is offended by this needs to get a grip 😂 it's so true!! "You're going to suffer but you'll be happy about it" !!!

[lourdesengel]

23 year old mom here, I’m not in hell! Yes it’s hard but the love I have for my child overpowers all of the trials and tribulations of parenthood! It truly does. My son is not and never will be a burden to me and I love being a mother and a young parent I always knew I wanted this too! Not all young parents feel this way.

[sushreeshashwata]

I love my child more than i can comprehend and i 100% agree with what she said

[angrydango]

Thank you for approaching the conversation with understanding and respect. I feel like everyone is so quick to try and undercut any and everything they hear these days! Bless~

[dreamergirl]

Thank you for speaking so openly about this. I feel like too many people have children because it's just the next "thing you're supposed to do", even if they aren't emotionally ready and ESPECIALLY if they don't have a partner who's willing to take on part of the responsibility of child rearing.

[hjong]

I had my first child at 45. Being a mother is the best thing that’s happened in my life. I had a lot of fun and wild times in my 20s and 30s, but that doesn’t compare to being a mother. But not everyone can and should be a mother. It’s an honor and privilege to raise a child. My only regret is that we have only one child.

[michelegoesglossy]

I always wanted to be a Mom and I'm happy I became one after 40s. Honestly, if I'd have been a Mom at my 20s, it would have been a disaster.
Now at 40's with or without financial stability, I know how to keep my inner peace, no matter the struggles I'm facing and I have emotional maturity which provides me with lots of patience to understand my baby when he's having a tantrum.
Being a Mom, it's the best thing that has happened to me. It is tiring, yes, it's exhausting, but waking up and hugging my baby is the best feeling in the whole world ❤️

[ritanightingale]

I had my kids in my 20’s, from the outside it might look insane, but having them then was the highlight of each and every day. Perfect does not exist

[kellydecamp]

The relationship people have with their children represents the relationship they have with their own heart.

[lany]

This is the wordy advice ever from you Valeria. Plenty of people with low income have kids and are satisfied. The issue isn’t being able to afford kids but being in a society where choosing motherhood as a profession is looked down upon and not held in high regard as the best choice a woman could make.

[worthyyou]

I was 24 having my first baby and LOVE LOVE LOVE that I have 4 by 36. Still a young mum and am DONE having babies. I wouldn’t say I was “ready”. I had a hard working committed husband (same dad, still married) but it made me grow up so much and put me on the course of motherhood I didn’t know I needed. It changed my life and identity for the better. It hasn’t been easy but my hubby and I have fumbled our way through life loving having a family.

[moriahmacbeth]

I kind of doubt any of her friends would themselves say that they’re in hell because their children. You can say that something is extremely difficult, exhausting in every way, and pushing you past your limit without saying that you’re living in hell. At the end of the day, children don’t deserve to hear their existence described that way.

[Vventure]

She’s in a bubble and she has no idea. I knew plenty of people in my twenties happy with kids. I had my first at 28 and yeah it was hard AF and I was sleep deprived AF but a lot of the most important things in like are hard and it was so absolutely worth it to me ❤️

[aliciacole]

YES! Seeing the world as a 35 year old mother is much different than a 20something mother.